Guest guest Posted August 28, 2010 Report Share Posted August 28, 2010 I heard back from the therapist. She is affordable. She also said " it was very good to hear from you and what a step of empowerment you have taken...to heal, by reaching out with the support group and by seeking information about counseling. It is obvious you have taken some of the most important steps already. " She was warm and caring and said " To me integrity is key in this business. I strive to be love. Corny I know but I feel I offer my children and those I work to help gain more that way. " Very sweet!!! My only worry is that she confused my confession that my mother had BPD with bipolar - this is a scary one to me because that's what nada believes she has... but I think it was just a typo. So I asked her about it. Now we just need to see if we can find a time that will work. This might be hard because she only works part time. We will see. Now gang, how do I interview her? What do I ask? Mwah, Girlscout > > > I have found therapy to be such a rollercoaster. Some days I have great > sessions and sometimes I wonder why I just wrote the check because nothing > feels like it gets accomplished. I'm sticking it out with the therapist I've > been seeing for the last 2 years, but at some point, I know I'm going to > have to change. I almost wish I could see a person who treats BPD so that I > can find someone who understands what I went through. > > > Re: Therapy progress > > Congratulations! That's wonderful; it is a big step to gain the courage to > seek out therapy. As a young person I was made to feel that there was > something fundamentally wrong, creepy and embarrassing about asking for > psychological help, and it took me a long time before I even considered it. > I went once but it wasn't planned well or timed well (I waited until I was > in a crisis state and on the verge of a nervous breakdown) so like you, I am > working up the courage to try again. > I want some specific help on getting over my deep well of anger so that I > can move on. I have a good idea now about how to " shop " for the right kind > of therapist for my needs, so when I can afford it I want to try again. > -Annie > > > > > > So, I just did something big!!! Through my work I met a therapist, she > seems > > like a great person. So I just sent her an e-mail and asked her what she > > knows about KO's. We'll see what she says - but this is a big step for > me. I > > don't know if she could see me herself or recommend someone else. We will > > see. I'm also becoming less and less secretive very gradually - time will > > tell if that will bite me in the ass, right? But I think it means I'm not > > ashamed, I'm starting to feel like a surviver of BPD, and less a victim. > > > > Just finished reading The Road Less Traveled. I know its an old book, but > it > > has a long bit about finding therapy in the back. Check it out. > > > > Many exes and ohes (XOXO) ha ha, Girlscout > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2010 Report Share Posted September 3, 2010 well when i go to a new, possible therapist, i pay lots of attention to how i feel with her.. (after making sure she is properly licensed as a social worker or psychologist).. do i have a good feeling being with her, does she feel 'right' to me, can i imagine she would be a person i could trust enuf to confide in, things i might be reluctant to reveal to a person.. is there a level of 'bonding' there at all, do i feel better after the session with her than i felt going in? does she seem open to understanding bpd.. which i agree is much different from bipolar.. if she 'passes' these 'tests' i would see her again and again see how these considerations are met by her (or not).. and if there doesn't seem to be a good 'match' there for me after the 2nd (or first) appt. i would definitely move on.. there is a good therapist for you out there i believe, someone you will just 'know' is right for you. that's my take on the process and what has helped me the most. since we are different people maybe this will not be helpful for you, so take what you like and leave the rest. good luck!ann > > > I have found therapy to be such a rollercoaster. Some days I have great > sessions and sometimes I wonder why I just wrote the check because nothing > feels like it gets accomplished. I'm sticking it out with the therapist I've > been seeing for the last 2 years, but at some point, I know I'm going to > have to change. I almost wish I could see a person who treats BPD so that I > can find someone who understands what I went through. > > > Re: Therapy progress > > Congratulations! That's wonderful; it is a big step to gain the courage to > seek out therapy. As a young person I was made to feel that there was > something fundamentally wrong, creepy and embarrassing about asking for > psychological help, and it took me a long time before I even considered it. > I went once but it wasn't planned well or timed well (I waited until I was > in a crisis state and on the verge of a nervous breakdown) so like you, I am > working up the courage to try again. > I want some specific help on getting over my deep well of anger so that I > can move on. I have a good idea now about how to " shop " for the right kind > of therapist for my needs, so when I can afford it I want to try again. > -Annie > > > > > > So, I just did something big!!! Through my work I met a therapist, she > seems > > like a great person. So I just sent her an e-mail and asked her what she > > knows about KO's. We'll see what she says - but this is a big step for > me. I > > don't know if she could see me herself or recommend someone else. We will > > see. I'm also becoming less and less secretive very gradually - time will > > tell if that will bite me in the ass, right? But I think it means I'm not > > ashamed, I'm starting to feel like a surviver of BPD, and less a victim. > > > > Just finished reading The Road Less Traveled. I know its an old book, but > it > > has a long bit about finding therapy in the back. Check it out. > > > > Many exes and ohes (XOXO) ha ha, Girlscout > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2010 Report Share Posted September 3, 2010 well when i go to a new, possible therapist, i pay lots of attention to how i feel with her.. (after making sure she is properly licensed as a social worker or psychologist).. do i have a good feeling being with her, does she feel 'right' to me, can i imagine she would be a person i could trust enuf to confide in, things i might be reluctant to reveal to a person.. is there a level of 'bonding' there at all, do i feel better after the session with her than i felt going in? does she seem open to understanding bpd.. which i agree is much different from bipolar.. if she 'passes' these 'tests' i would see her again and again see how these considerations are met by her (or not).. and if there doesn't seem to be a good 'match' there for me after the 2nd (or first) appt. i would definitely move on.. there is a good therapist for you out there i believe, someone you will just 'know' is right for you. that's my take on the process and what has helped me the most. since we are different people maybe this will not be helpful for you, so take what you like and leave the rest. good luck!ann > > > I have found therapy to be such a rollercoaster. Some days I have great > sessions and sometimes I wonder why I just wrote the check because nothing > feels like it gets accomplished. I'm sticking it out with the therapist I've > been seeing for the last 2 years, but at some point, I know I'm going to > have to change. I almost wish I could see a person who treats BPD so that I > can find someone who understands what I went through. > > > Re: Therapy progress > > Congratulations! That's wonderful; it is a big step to gain the courage to > seek out therapy. As a young person I was made to feel that there was > something fundamentally wrong, creepy and embarrassing about asking for > psychological help, and it took me a long time before I even considered it. > I went once but it wasn't planned well or timed well (I waited until I was > in a crisis state and on the verge of a nervous breakdown) so like you, I am > working up the courage to try again. > I want some specific help on getting over my deep well of anger so that I > can move on. I have a good idea now about how to " shop " for the right kind > of therapist for my needs, so when I can afford it I want to try again. > -Annie > > > > > > So, I just did something big!!! Through my work I met a therapist, she > seems > > like a great person. So I just sent her an e-mail and asked her what she > > knows about KO's. We'll see what she says - but this is a big step for > me. I > > don't know if she could see me herself or recommend someone else. We will > > see. I'm also becoming less and less secretive very gradually - time will > > tell if that will bite me in the ass, right? But I think it means I'm not > > ashamed, I'm starting to feel like a surviver of BPD, and less a victim. > > > > Just finished reading The Road Less Traveled. I know its an old book, but > it > > has a long bit about finding therapy in the back. Check it out. > > > > Many exes and ohes (XOXO) ha ha, Girlscout > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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