Guest guest Posted March 23, 2011 Report Share Posted March 23, 2011 Bring on the body love! I also think it's great that your daughter is supporting you in this!I still think, sometimes every day, that I wish I could lose a few pounds. This is b/c I've gained a few and some of my pants are tight. I went out and bought two new pairs of jeans last week, and I know that being comfortable in your clothes is emphasized in the IE book but I was amazed at the difference it made. Wearing jeans that didn't squeeze me at all made me feel comfortable and wonderful and I had no bad thoughts about my body! Today I'm wearing slightly tight jeans again and had to lead a meeting and the whole time in front of the group I was thinking self consciously about how I looked in the jeans. Today I'm going to spend the money on a few more pair of jeans that fit. It's worth it in the difference it makes to my psyche! It's so so hard to fight against dieting-type thoughts that we've had forever, so I'm learning that it's important to do all we can to react to and bolster ourselves against these thoughts. Has anyone else found other ways--possibly less expensive than buying a bunch of new jeans--to bring on the body love? I am kinda new here. Been reading and posting for a little while but had not taken the time to introduce myself. I name is Dawn and I am a single mom of a ten year old girl. I have pretty much been dieting ever since I graduated high school. I never had an issue about how I looked in high school. I was tiny. Well, I didn't feel tiny then but I look back at pictures and see that I was. But, even though I didn't feel tiny, it really didn't bother me to much. BUT...when I joined the military I was considered over weight and ALWAYS had to get the BMI text done. It always turned out that my BMI was fine but just being called over weight really affected me. I started seeing myself different in the mirror. I started to notice a little pudge around my middle. All of a sudden when I would put on my swim suit I found that I would only sit and stand in certain positions hoping that no one would notice my fat roll....I see how crazy that was now because of how tiny I was back then....but it only got worse as I got older and gained weight. I am thirty pounds heavier now than I was then and I have just recently give up dieting. I have been dieting now for about fifteen years and have only gained more with each binge. I am already beginning to feel better as I give up dieting though my brain still takes me back to that dieting mindset from time to time. My daughter helps me with it. I was looking at the calories on the back of something one day and she was like, " Just eat it, you are hungry. I thought you were going to quit looking at calories all the time. " She is truely amazing. I am looking forward to taking this journey with her and praying that she can learn to love her body as I never did. But, that is going to change. I feel some body love coming soon Be Blessed, Dawn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2011 Report Share Posted March 23, 2011 Bring on the body love! I also think it's great that your daughter is supporting you in this!I still think, sometimes every day, that I wish I could lose a few pounds. This is b/c I've gained a few and some of my pants are tight. I went out and bought two new pairs of jeans last week, and I know that being comfortable in your clothes is emphasized in the IE book but I was amazed at the difference it made. Wearing jeans that didn't squeeze me at all made me feel comfortable and wonderful and I had no bad thoughts about my body! Today I'm wearing slightly tight jeans again and had to lead a meeting and the whole time in front of the group I was thinking self consciously about how I looked in the jeans. Today I'm going to spend the money on a few more pair of jeans that fit. It's worth it in the difference it makes to my psyche! It's so so hard to fight against dieting-type thoughts that we've had forever, so I'm learning that it's important to do all we can to react to and bolster ourselves against these thoughts. Has anyone else found other ways--possibly less expensive than buying a bunch of new jeans--to bring on the body love? I am kinda new here. Been reading and posting for a little while but had not taken the time to introduce myself. I name is Dawn and I am a single mom of a ten year old girl. I have pretty much been dieting ever since I graduated high school. I never had an issue about how I looked in high school. I was tiny. Well, I didn't feel tiny then but I look back at pictures and see that I was. But, even though I didn't feel tiny, it really didn't bother me to much. BUT...when I joined the military I was considered over weight and ALWAYS had to get the BMI text done. It always turned out that my BMI was fine but just being called over weight really affected me. I started seeing myself different in the mirror. I started to notice a little pudge around my middle. All of a sudden when I would put on my swim suit I found that I would only sit and stand in certain positions hoping that no one would notice my fat roll....I see how crazy that was now because of how tiny I was back then....but it only got worse as I got older and gained weight. I am thirty pounds heavier now than I was then and I have just recently give up dieting. I have been dieting now for about fifteen years and have only gained more with each binge. I am already beginning to feel better as I give up dieting though my brain still takes me back to that dieting mindset from time to time. My daughter helps me with it. I was looking at the calories on the back of something one day and she was like, " Just eat it, you are hungry. I thought you were going to quit looking at calories all the time. " She is truely amazing. I am looking forward to taking this journey with her and praying that she can learn to love her body as I never did. But, that is going to change. I feel some body love coming soon Be Blessed, Dawn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2011 Report Share Posted March 23, 2011 Bring on the body love! I also think it's great that your daughter is supporting you in this!I still think, sometimes every day, that I wish I could lose a few pounds. This is b/c I've gained a few and some of my pants are tight. I went out and bought two new pairs of jeans last week, and I know that being comfortable in your clothes is emphasized in the IE book but I was amazed at the difference it made. Wearing jeans that didn't squeeze me at all made me feel comfortable and wonderful and I had no bad thoughts about my body! Today I'm wearing slightly tight jeans again and had to lead a meeting and the whole time in front of the group I was thinking self consciously about how I looked in the jeans. Today I'm going to spend the money on a few more pair of jeans that fit. It's worth it in the difference it makes to my psyche! It's so so hard to fight against dieting-type thoughts that we've had forever, so I'm learning that it's important to do all we can to react to and bolster ourselves against these thoughts. Has anyone else found other ways--possibly less expensive than buying a bunch of new jeans--to bring on the body love? I am kinda new here. Been reading and posting for a little while but had not taken the time to introduce myself. I name is Dawn and I am a single mom of a ten year old girl. I have pretty much been dieting ever since I graduated high school. I never had an issue about how I looked in high school. I was tiny. Well, I didn't feel tiny then but I look back at pictures and see that I was. But, even though I didn't feel tiny, it really didn't bother me to much. BUT...when I joined the military I was considered over weight and ALWAYS had to get the BMI text done. It always turned out that my BMI was fine but just being called over weight really affected me. I started seeing myself different in the mirror. I started to notice a little pudge around my middle. All of a sudden when I would put on my swim suit I found that I would only sit and stand in certain positions hoping that no one would notice my fat roll....I see how crazy that was now because of how tiny I was back then....but it only got worse as I got older and gained weight. I am thirty pounds heavier now than I was then and I have just recently give up dieting. I have been dieting now for about fifteen years and have only gained more with each binge. I am already beginning to feel better as I give up dieting though my brain still takes me back to that dieting mindset from time to time. My daughter helps me with it. I was looking at the calories on the back of something one day and she was like, " Just eat it, you are hungry. I thought you were going to quit looking at calories all the time. " She is truely amazing. I am looking forward to taking this journey with her and praying that she can learn to love her body as I never did. But, that is going to change. I feel some body love coming soon Be Blessed, Dawn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2011 Report Share Posted March 23, 2011 Dawn,How wonderful that your daughter is helping you with this... and what a gift you are giving her by stopping the dieting! Because of course she looks up to you... you don't want to model body-hating behavior! Casey, I think buying the new jeans was a wonderful idea! thanks for sharing how much better they have made you feel. i really resisted doing this for a long time, because trying clothes on in a larger size made me feel awful in the store. but it really helps SOOOOO MUCH! i think other, cheaper things that can help... learning to lavish compliments on yourself. even if they don't always feel 100% sincere. find nice things to say to yourself every single day... compliments with no criticism hidden inside. and try to catch yourself saying mean things to yourself, and stop yourself. i PROMISE meanness doesn't help you lose weight! paul mckenna (I Can Make You Thin) writes about this a lot. he says you get more of the thing you focus on. so if you say, " you're so fat! " , according to him, you're priming your psyche to only gain more weight (in addition to making yourself sad!). so find SOMETHING positive to say to yourself every day. and he suggests heaping love even on the parts that you aren't so wild about... i found this helped me feel better, even though it felt so silly at first to say out loud, " i love and accept my thighs. " good luck,abby Bring on the body love! I also think it's great that your daughter is supporting you in this!I still think, sometimes every day, that I wish I could lose a few pounds. This is b/c I've gained a few and some of my pants are tight. I went out and bought two new pairs of jeans last week, and I know that being comfortable in your clothes is emphasized in the IE book but I was amazed at the difference it made. Wearing jeans that didn't squeeze me at all made me feel comfortable and wonderful and I had no bad thoughts about my body! Today I'm wearing slightly tight jeans again and had to lead a meeting and the whole time in front of the group I was thinking self consciously about how I looked in the jeans. Today I'm going to spend the money on a few more pair of jeans that fit. It's worth it in the difference it makes to my psyche! It's so so hard to fight against dieting-type thoughts that we've had forever, so I'm learning that it's important to do all we can to react to and bolster ourselves against these thoughts. Has anyone else found other ways--possibly less expensive than buying a bunch of new jeans--to bring on the body love? I am kinda new here. Been reading and posting for a little while but had not taken the time to introduce myself. I name is Dawn and I am a single mom of a ten year old girl. I have pretty much been dieting ever since I graduated high school. I never had an issue about how I looked in high school. I was tiny. Well, I didn't feel tiny then but I look back at pictures and see that I was. But, even though I didn't feel tiny, it really didn't bother me to much. BUT...when I joined the military I was considered over weight and ALWAYS had to get the BMI text done. It always turned out that my BMI was fine but just being called over weight really affected me. I started seeing myself different in the mirror. I started to notice a little pudge around my middle. All of a sudden when I would put on my swim suit I found that I would only sit and stand in certain positions hoping that no one would notice my fat roll....I see how crazy that was now because of how tiny I was back then....but it only got worse as I got older and gained weight. I am thirty pounds heavier now than I was then and I have just recently give up dieting. I have been dieting now for about fifteen years and have only gained more with each binge. I am already beginning to feel better as I give up dieting though my brain still takes me back to that dieting mindset from time to time. My daughter helps me with it. I was looking at the calories on the back of something one day and she was like, " Just eat it, you are hungry. I thought you were going to quit looking at calories all the time. " She is truely amazing. I am looking forward to taking this journey with her and praying that she can learn to love her body as I never did. But, that is going to change. I feel some body love coming soon Be Blessed, Dawn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2011 Report Share Posted March 23, 2011 Dawn,How wonderful that your daughter is helping you with this... and what a gift you are giving her by stopping the dieting! Because of course she looks up to you... you don't want to model body-hating behavior! Casey, I think buying the new jeans was a wonderful idea! thanks for sharing how much better they have made you feel. i really resisted doing this for a long time, because trying clothes on in a larger size made me feel awful in the store. but it really helps SOOOOO MUCH! i think other, cheaper things that can help... learning to lavish compliments on yourself. even if they don't always feel 100% sincere. find nice things to say to yourself every single day... compliments with no criticism hidden inside. and try to catch yourself saying mean things to yourself, and stop yourself. i PROMISE meanness doesn't help you lose weight! paul mckenna (I Can Make You Thin) writes about this a lot. he says you get more of the thing you focus on. so if you say, " you're so fat! " , according to him, you're priming your psyche to only gain more weight (in addition to making yourself sad!). so find SOMETHING positive to say to yourself every day. and he suggests heaping love even on the parts that you aren't so wild about... i found this helped me feel better, even though it felt so silly at first to say out loud, " i love and accept my thighs. " good luck,abby Bring on the body love! I also think it's great that your daughter is supporting you in this!I still think, sometimes every day, that I wish I could lose a few pounds. This is b/c I've gained a few and some of my pants are tight. I went out and bought two new pairs of jeans last week, and I know that being comfortable in your clothes is emphasized in the IE book but I was amazed at the difference it made. Wearing jeans that didn't squeeze me at all made me feel comfortable and wonderful and I had no bad thoughts about my body! Today I'm wearing slightly tight jeans again and had to lead a meeting and the whole time in front of the group I was thinking self consciously about how I looked in the jeans. Today I'm going to spend the money on a few more pair of jeans that fit. It's worth it in the difference it makes to my psyche! It's so so hard to fight against dieting-type thoughts that we've had forever, so I'm learning that it's important to do all we can to react to and bolster ourselves against these thoughts. Has anyone else found other ways--possibly less expensive than buying a bunch of new jeans--to bring on the body love? I am kinda new here. Been reading and posting for a little while but had not taken the time to introduce myself. I name is Dawn and I am a single mom of a ten year old girl. I have pretty much been dieting ever since I graduated high school. I never had an issue about how I looked in high school. I was tiny. Well, I didn't feel tiny then but I look back at pictures and see that I was. But, even though I didn't feel tiny, it really didn't bother me to much. BUT...when I joined the military I was considered over weight and ALWAYS had to get the BMI text done. It always turned out that my BMI was fine but just being called over weight really affected me. I started seeing myself different in the mirror. I started to notice a little pudge around my middle. All of a sudden when I would put on my swim suit I found that I would only sit and stand in certain positions hoping that no one would notice my fat roll....I see how crazy that was now because of how tiny I was back then....but it only got worse as I got older and gained weight. I am thirty pounds heavier now than I was then and I have just recently give up dieting. I have been dieting now for about fifteen years and have only gained more with each binge. I am already beginning to feel better as I give up dieting though my brain still takes me back to that dieting mindset from time to time. My daughter helps me with it. I was looking at the calories on the back of something one day and she was like, " Just eat it, you are hungry. I thought you were going to quit looking at calories all the time. " She is truely amazing. I am looking forward to taking this journey with her and praying that she can learn to love her body as I never did. But, that is going to change. I feel some body love coming soon Be Blessed, Dawn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 23, 2011 Report Share Posted March 23, 2011 Dawn,How wonderful that your daughter is helping you with this... and what a gift you are giving her by stopping the dieting! Because of course she looks up to you... you don't want to model body-hating behavior! Casey, I think buying the new jeans was a wonderful idea! thanks for sharing how much better they have made you feel. i really resisted doing this for a long time, because trying clothes on in a larger size made me feel awful in the store. but it really helps SOOOOO MUCH! i think other, cheaper things that can help... learning to lavish compliments on yourself. even if they don't always feel 100% sincere. find nice things to say to yourself every single day... compliments with no criticism hidden inside. and try to catch yourself saying mean things to yourself, and stop yourself. i PROMISE meanness doesn't help you lose weight! paul mckenna (I Can Make You Thin) writes about this a lot. he says you get more of the thing you focus on. so if you say, " you're so fat! " , according to him, you're priming your psyche to only gain more weight (in addition to making yourself sad!). so find SOMETHING positive to say to yourself every day. and he suggests heaping love even on the parts that you aren't so wild about... i found this helped me feel better, even though it felt so silly at first to say out loud, " i love and accept my thighs. " good luck,abby Bring on the body love! I also think it's great that your daughter is supporting you in this!I still think, sometimes every day, that I wish I could lose a few pounds. This is b/c I've gained a few and some of my pants are tight. I went out and bought two new pairs of jeans last week, and I know that being comfortable in your clothes is emphasized in the IE book but I was amazed at the difference it made. Wearing jeans that didn't squeeze me at all made me feel comfortable and wonderful and I had no bad thoughts about my body! Today I'm wearing slightly tight jeans again and had to lead a meeting and the whole time in front of the group I was thinking self consciously about how I looked in the jeans. Today I'm going to spend the money on a few more pair of jeans that fit. It's worth it in the difference it makes to my psyche! It's so so hard to fight against dieting-type thoughts that we've had forever, so I'm learning that it's important to do all we can to react to and bolster ourselves against these thoughts. Has anyone else found other ways--possibly less expensive than buying a bunch of new jeans--to bring on the body love? I am kinda new here. Been reading and posting for a little while but had not taken the time to introduce myself. I name is Dawn and I am a single mom of a ten year old girl. I have pretty much been dieting ever since I graduated high school. I never had an issue about how I looked in high school. I was tiny. Well, I didn't feel tiny then but I look back at pictures and see that I was. But, even though I didn't feel tiny, it really didn't bother me to much. BUT...when I joined the military I was considered over weight and ALWAYS had to get the BMI text done. It always turned out that my BMI was fine but just being called over weight really affected me. I started seeing myself different in the mirror. I started to notice a little pudge around my middle. All of a sudden when I would put on my swim suit I found that I would only sit and stand in certain positions hoping that no one would notice my fat roll....I see how crazy that was now because of how tiny I was back then....but it only got worse as I got older and gained weight. I am thirty pounds heavier now than I was then and I have just recently give up dieting. I have been dieting now for about fifteen years and have only gained more with each binge. I am already beginning to feel better as I give up dieting though my brain still takes me back to that dieting mindset from time to time. My daughter helps me with it. I was looking at the calories on the back of something one day and she was like, " Just eat it, you are hungry. I thought you were going to quit looking at calories all the time. " She is truely amazing. I am looking forward to taking this journey with her and praying that she can learn to love her body as I never did. But, that is going to change. I feel some body love coming soon Be Blessed, Dawn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2011 Report Share Posted March 24, 2011 Thanks so much for the warm welcome to the group guys! And I can relate to having to buy bigger cloths. It was hard to do but wow do I feel better...and look so much better. I have also been finding cloths that look better on me. And bought some big earrings that I love and some awesome shoes AND a great handbag (went a little crazy in Rou 21 the other day...LOL). I am really hopeing that my daughter does grow up really loving her body. She makes jokes about our budda bellies...LOL. Sometimes I wonder if the jokes are a good thing or a negative thing. I mean, she seem to honestly be playing around but who knows. I just tell her our body shapes are just the way we are...that she is thick like her mama (and her grandma and her grammy) and it is a good thing. I know I am really starting to reach a point where I really like being " thick " . I am not really sure if I would even want to be all skinny and stuff. Never thought I would be saying that but it is honestly very true! I am happy and healthy...I eat all the yummy health food and get exercise everyday and that is all that matters. AND I get to eat chocolate cake when I want it It don't get better than that! Be blessed, Dawn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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