Re: I did it again / update

[Guest guest]

There is only one upside to all this, and that is that those two very small

children will have you (and your mom) for a couple of years to actually care for

them and give them some positive attention/mirroring, emotional nurturing and

real mothering. I read a recent article that said that a child's personality is

pretty much entirely formed by age 6, so the more exposure to normal, caring,

mentally healthy adults these kids have, the better. That's the bottom line (as

far as I'm concerned): its all about the children, now. I suppose its also an

upside that you're now under no illusions about what your parents really think

and how they behave, they've made that pretty clear: they're both dishrags.

You are to be commended for wanting to help these kids, most people just turn

the other way and say " Its not my business. "

-Annie

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> thanks for the response. i deleted that post because I feel like I am getting

on everyone's nerves with this drama.

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> SIL came back a day later. she's asked if they can stay until they get their

house sold. it needs alot of repairs before being put on the market so that

could be a couple of years.

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> it's the best situation for the two year old but it would have been a perfect

oppty for fada/nada to lay down some conditions like: clean, keep the kids

bathed and clean regularly/no more expecting babysitting all day long/ and no

more threatening anyone in this house.

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> instead they just said 'sure no prob' and fada is acting like *I* am the bad

guy and scapegoat, and he has been buddy-buddy with wos all day for the past

couple days. it's pretty much unforgiveable. I am just detached and trying to

stay detached.