Re: Re: Anyone else find IE at work challenging?

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Tana,Sounds like you are doing an awesome job of not letting her issues get to you. Yay! I think communicating some boundaries is a great idea. Not only for issues around food but also it will let her know not to push you around! 

You go!Abby

 

hi Tana

I see the same thing happening with people who have been stuck in years of " diet mentality " which is where I was before IE. Now I do what you do & recognize hat it is " their business what they eat & my business what I eat. " Setting boundaries is always helpful for me when someone else is trying to tell me what to do. I always come back to " who's business is it what, when or how I eat, MINE!!!!! "

thanks for reminding me about this.

mj

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> I just started a new job the other day, which I am very excited about and think that I am going to love. I've always had challenges with IE when I am working, i've spent a lot of time as a stay at home mom since I became an IE which makes it very easy. In trying to honor my hunger I sometimes find myself hungry at times which may be inconvenient for coworkers. I find that my manager is very accomidating and doesn't mind but her assistant manager has already made a few comments. I can tell that she is challenged by her own body issues because she has talked about her arms being fat and calories a few times.

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> Here are the things that have come up:

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> Yesterday I got myself a iced white mocha with whip from the starbucks because I wanted one. When my manager brought it back to the store (she went on the coffee run) the asst manager said, " oh my who's haviing all those calories!? "

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> I mentioned that I had taken the previous month and took a break from school and work and mostly hung out with my kids and read a lot of books, among other things and she said, " wow that could make a girl very big " meaning gaining weight from sitting around.

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> I went to take my mid shift sort of lunch break today and she said don't take as long as yesterday, only take 10-15 minutes, which I don't think I took more than that the day before anyway but whatever.

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> This morning she was having a snack of celery and peanut butter and she was trying to tell me that if I ate what she was eating it would fill me up and I wouldn't be hungry the rest of the day. Like what or when or how I eat is any business of hers.

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> Anyway my point is is that this girl has no boundaries around food/body stuff. I am going to have to place a boundary at some point, probably the next time she says something.

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> Mostly just wanted to write all of this down so it wouldn't be swimming around in my head turning into resentment towards her. I want to be able to deal with it quickly and directly so that it doesn't wear me down. So far it really hasn't affected me much, i'm pretty clear that it has everything to do with her not with me but if I don't set a boundary, I make it my problem because she won't know any better.

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> Thanks for reading!

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> Tana

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