Guest guest Posted August 28, 2010 Report Share Posted August 28, 2010 Hi, I am , a brand new member. My hope for this website is to get support from people who have to deal with similar situations. I have recently figured out after a lifetime of confusion and denial that my father has BPD. I currently go to therapy to deal with his latest outburst, but could use a support group. He hasn't talked to me for two months because of some perceived wrong I did to him. I am reading " Stop Walking on Eggshells " which is really helping. My mother has read it and really benefited from it, she has enabled him my whole life but even this last episode has opened her eyes. I am having a hard time letting go of the anger and resentment. I feel like once again, I have to be the mature one and now the responsibility is once again on me to call him again because he refuses to call or write me. I am working on my self-esteem so I am ready for anything that may come out of his mouth. I want to still have a relationship with him, as there are good parts about him. I just have to learn how to have boundaries, something he and I are not used to, and learn how to not let him ruin me if he wants to. So, that's it in a nutshell. Hopefully there are adult children who can help me learn how to make that first move to start our relationship again without falling into the same pitfalls or feeling resentful. Thank you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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