Guest guest Posted July 21, 2010 Report Share Posted July 21, 2010 Hello everybody, My name is . I am new to the list. I am 39 years old. For several decades I knew something was wrong with my mother - but I always thought it was her substance abuse problem that was the main issue. Several times over the years I dabbled in the idea that she might be a Borderline, but it was too unbelievable or for whatever reason it didn't stick. My dad died last week and I went to a therapy session this morning to process it. Part of that processing was discussing my mother (as it always has been the case) and my therapist clearly labeled her as a Borderline and I very clearly heard it. I am reading what I can about about it and just joined this group. I feel like a bomb of revelation has been dropped before me - my mother is a Borderline. She will never change and I need to stop fighting for what I will never have and never have had from her. Wow - I feel a sense of freedom and comprehension now that there is a name for what she has and and an explanation for who and what she is. I would LOVE to hear from others of you out there, adult children of Borderline mothers who have gone on to make happy, healthy lives for themselves. I have a wonderful husband and a wonderful life. I have been emotionally blocking myself from starting a family because I don't want to be like my mother - and I think I'm one step closer to understanding so much. This is my firs time doing an online support group, so it would be great to hear some pearls of wisdom from some of you. Thank you - Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 22, 2010 Report Share Posted July 22, 2010 welcome !! I'm so sorry for the loss of your dad. My father died this past may. I've been married for 29 years to a most of the time a great guy ( we all have moments when we're not so pleasant LOL) It can be done...you can be happy even though you were raised by a BPD parent !! I loved the book Understanding the Borderline Mother by Lawson ( or something like that) she describes my nada ( not a mother) perfectly, as well as my father, who did nothing to protect his children from nadas rages, and abuse. Unless you HAVE BPD, you will not be like your mother... Jackie Hello everybody, My name is . I am new to the list. I am 39 years old. For several decades I knew something was wrong with my mother - but I always thought it was her substance abuse problem that was the main issue. Several times over the years I dabbled in the idea that she might be a Borderline, but it was too unbelievable or for whatever reason it didn't stick. My dad died last week and I went to a therapy session this morning to process it. Part of that processing was discussing my mother (as it always has been the case) and my therapist clearly labeled her as a Borderline and I very clearly heard it. I am reading what I can about about it and just joined this group. I feel like a bomb of revelation has been dropped before me - my mother is a Borderline. She will never change and I need to stop fighting for what I will never have and never have had from her. Wow - I feel a sense of freedom and comprehension now that there is a name for what she has and and an explanation for who and what she is. I would LOVE to hear from others of you out there, adult children of Borderline mothers who have gone on to make happy, healthy lives for themselves. I have a wonderful husband and a wonderful life. I have been emotionally blocking myself from starting a family because I don't want to be like my mother - and I think I'm one step closer to understanding so much. This is my firs time doing an online support group, so it would be great to hear some pearls of wisdom from some of you. Thank you - Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 19, 2011 Report Share Posted June 19, 2011 Lora, yes it comes from time to time. I was sitting at my desk at work not to long ago and my blood sugar dropped to 48. I was in dispatch by myself. Junior Lolley KG4ITD Liberty County Emergency Coordinator Introduction >> >> >> >> Hello To Everyone, >> I am Lora Leggett and I live near Detroit, Michigan. I am 58 years old >> and >> have been blind since birth. I am married to who is sighted but >> has >> cerebral palsy. >> We have a daughter and a son who are adults now. I have a history of >> diabetes in my family and I found out this past Monday that my blood >> sugar >> tested very high whenI had blood work done. So the doctor has given me >> glyburide once a day 500 mg plus an antibiotic for urinary tract >> infection. >> They said the sugar was 435. I had never heard of a number that high >> except >> when my brother drove himself to the hospital in 2009 and found out he >> was > >> a >> diabetic among other things and his number was over 600. So I have had to >> start modifying my diet big time. >> I started downloading several books from the BARD web site and learning >> about counting carbs and all sorts of things. >> My brother Dan brought one of his meters over and tested me this >> afternoon >> and I was at 156. >> I guess I am not out of the woods yet but he figures I am working on it. >> I have ordered a talking glucometer and a talking scale. I was very >> uncomfortable when he was showing me the procedure but I hope with time I >> will catch onto it. >> We have a visiting doctor because my husband has been very ill >> recently and is now in bed all of the time. >> Dr. comes once a month so I have not had a chance to talk to him >> since this result came out. My new meter should be here within the week I >> hope. >> So I was told I haven't been called a diabetic yet but friends have told >> me >> that if that number was 435 I probably am. >> I look forward to learning more from this list. >> Nice to meet all of you I don't know and to see some of you who are >> already >> friends here. >> Lora >> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 19, 2011 Report Share Posted June 19, 2011 My brother Dan described to me yesterday about one time when it happened to him and how he had the presence of mind to overcome it before he passed out. He had some pop in the refrigerator and after he had that and relaxed for a while the symptoms went away. I have had small episodes of feeling what I call the queezy Willies for a couple years now if I don't eat especially after I get up. I wonder how long I have been a diabetic or something close. I will mention before you feel too sorry vfor me that I was sometimes drinking a two liter bottle of pop in a day or maybe a day and a half sometimes. That is the hardest part. I had Dan pick up about 15 bottles just the Saturday before on the 11th and I found this all out on the 13th. I sold one of them to our friend Jim who is our boarder for a dollar. I really do not want to sell them all at this point but as of yet I have not opened another one. If I should start feeling woozy I have a couple Little Debbie nutty buddies in my butter compartment and can break a very tiny piece off. You guys will probgably say all this will pass including my obsession with food. Introduction > >> > >> > >> > >> Hello To Everyone, > >> I am Lora Leggett and I live near Detroit, Michigan. I am 58 years old > >> and > >> have been blind since birth. I am married to who is sighted but > >> has > >> cerebral palsy. > >> We have a daughter and a son who are adults now. I have a history of > >> diabetes in my family and I found out this past Monday that my blood > >> sugar > >> tested very high whenI had blood work done. So the doctor has given me > >> glyburide once a day 500 mg plus an antibiotic for urinary tract > >> infection. > >> They said the sugar was 435. I had never heard of a number that high > >> except > >> when my brother drove himself to the hospital in 2009 and found out he > >> was > > > >> a > >> diabetic among other things and his number was over 600. So I have had > to > >> start modifying my diet big time. > >> I started downloading several books from the BARD web site and > learning > >> about counting carbs and all sorts of things. > >> My brother Dan brought one of his meters over and tested me this > >> afternoon > >> and I was at 156. > >> I guess I am not out of the woods yet but he figures I am working on > it. > >> I have ordered a talking glucometer and a talking scale. I was very > >> uncomfortable when he was showing me the procedure but I hope with > time I > >> will catch onto it. > >> We have a visiting doctor because my husband has been very ill > >> recently and is now in bed all of the time. > >> Dr. comes once a month so I have not had a chance to talk to > him > >> since this result came out. My new meter should be here within the > week I > >> hope. > >> So I was told I haven't been called a diabetic yet but friends have > told > >> me > >> that if that number was 435 I probably am. > >> I look forward to learning more from this list. > >> Nice to meet all of you I don't know and to see some of you who are > >> already > >> friends here. > >> Lora > >> > >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2011 Report Share Posted June 20, 2011 Thanks, Amy, As I just wrote you, I am really working on focusing my eating to get on a schedule and not going in the kitchen at random as I have done much of my married life. It is a real struggle, I think much more than just becoming a diabetic. Introduction > > > > Hello To Everyone, > I am Lora Leggett and I live near Detroit, Michigan. I am 58 years old > and have been blind since birth. I am married to who is sighted but > has cerebral palsy. > We have a daughter and a son who are adults now. I have a history of > diabetes in my family and I found out this past Monday that my blood sugar > tested very high whenI had blood work done. So the doctor has given me > glyburide once a day 500 mg plus an antibiotic for urinary tract > infection. > They said the sugar was 435. I had never heard of a number that high > except when my brother drove himself to the hospital in 2009 and found out > he was a diabetic among other things and his number was over 600. So I > have had to start modifying my diet big time. > I started downloading several books from the BARD web site and learning > about counting carbs and all sorts of things. > My brother Dan brought one of his meters over and tested me this > afternoon and I was at 156. > I guess I am not out of the woods yet but he figures I am working on it. > I have ordered a talking glucometer and a talking scale. I was very > uncomfortable when he was showing me the procedure but I hope with time I > will catch onto it. > We have a visiting doctor because my husband has been very ill > recently and is now in bed all of the time. > Dr. comes once a month so I have not had a chance to talk to him > since this result came out. My new meter should be here within the week I > hope. > So I was told I haven't been called a diabetic yet but friends have told > me that if that number was 435 I probably am. > I look forward to learning more from this list. > Nice to meet all of you I don't know and to see some of you who are > already friends here. > Lora > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2011 Report Share Posted June 20, 2011 Thanks, Amy, As I just wrote you, I am really working on focusing my eating to get on a schedule and not going in the kitchen at random as I have done much of my married life. It is a real struggle, I think much more than just becoming a diabetic. Introduction > > > > Hello To Everyone, > I am Lora Leggett and I live near Detroit, Michigan. I am 58 years old > and have been blind since birth. I am married to who is sighted but > has cerebral palsy. > We have a daughter and a son who are adults now. I have a history of > diabetes in my family and I found out this past Monday that my blood sugar > tested very high whenI had blood work done. So the doctor has given me > glyburide once a day 500 mg plus an antibiotic for urinary tract > infection. > They said the sugar was 435. I had never heard of a number that high > except when my brother drove himself to the hospital in 2009 and found out > he was a diabetic among other things and his number was over 600. So I > have had to start modifying my diet big time. > I started downloading several books from the BARD web site and learning > about counting carbs and all sorts of things. > My brother Dan brought one of his meters over and tested me this > afternoon and I was at 156. > I guess I am not out of the woods yet but he figures I am working on it. > I have ordered a talking glucometer and a talking scale. I was very > uncomfortable when he was showing me the procedure but I hope with time I > will catch onto it. > We have a visiting doctor because my husband has been very ill > recently and is now in bed all of the time. > Dr. comes once a month so I have not had a chance to talk to him > since this result came out. My new meter should be here within the week I > hope. > So I was told I haven't been called a diabetic yet but friends have told > me that if that number was 435 I probably am. > I look forward to learning more from this list. > Nice to meet all of you I don't know and to see some of you who are > already friends here. > Lora > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2011 Report Share Posted June 20, 2011 Thanks, Sugar, and it is you who is getting me into all this trouble, Sugar! (smile, just teasing) Lora Introduction > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> Hello To Everyone, > > >> I am Lora Leggett and I live near Detroit, Michigan. I am 58 years > old > > >> and > > >> have been blind since birth. I am married to who is sighted > but > > >> has > > >> cerebral palsy. > > >> We have a daughter and a son who are adults now. I have a history of > > >> diabetes in my family and I found out this past Monday that my blood > > >> sugar > > >> tested very high whenI had blood work done. So the doctor has given > me > > >> glyburide once a day 500 mg plus an antibiotic for urinary tract > > >> infection. > > >> They said the sugar was 435. I had never heard of a number that high > > >> except > > >> when my brother drove himself to the hospital in 2009 and found out > he > > >> was > > > > > >> a > > >> diabetic among other things and his number was over 600. So I have > had > > to > > >> start modifying my diet big time. > > >> I started downloading several books from the BARD web site and > > learning > > >> about counting carbs and all sorts of things. > > >> My brother Dan brought one of his meters over and tested me this > > >> afternoon > > >> and I was at 156. > > >> I guess I am not out of the woods yet but he figures I am working on > > it. > > >> I have ordered a talking glucometer and a talking scale. I was very > > >> uncomfortable when he was showing me the procedure but I hope with > > time I > > >> will catch onto it. > > >> We have a visiting doctor because my husband has been very > ill > > >> recently and is now in bed all of the time. > > >> Dr. comes once a month so I have not had a chance to talk > to > > him > > >> since this result came out. My new meter should be here within the > > week I > > >> hope. > > >> So I was told I haven't been called a diabetic yet but friends have > > told > > >> me > > >> that if that number was 435 I probably am. > > >> I look forward to learning more from this list. > > >> Nice to meet all of you I don't know and to see some of you who are > > >> already > > >> friends here. > > >> Lora > > >> > > >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2011 Report Share Posted June 20, 2011 Thanks, Sugar, and it is you who is getting me into all this trouble, Sugar! (smile, just teasing) Lora Introduction > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> Hello To Everyone, > > >> I am Lora Leggett and I live near Detroit, Michigan. I am 58 years > old > > >> and > > >> have been blind since birth. I am married to who is sighted > but > > >> has > > >> cerebral palsy. > > >> We have a daughter and a son who are adults now. I have a history of > > >> diabetes in my family and I found out this past Monday that my blood > > >> sugar > > >> tested very high whenI had blood work done. So the doctor has given > me > > >> glyburide once a day 500 mg plus an antibiotic for urinary tract > > >> infection. > > >> They said the sugar was 435. I had never heard of a number that high > > >> except > > >> when my brother drove himself to the hospital in 2009 and found out > he > > >> was > > > > > >> a > > >> diabetic among other things and his number was over 600. So I have > had > > to > > >> start modifying my diet big time. > > >> I started downloading several books from the BARD web site and > > learning > > >> about counting carbs and all sorts of things. > > >> My brother Dan brought one of his meters over and tested me this > > >> afternoon > > >> and I was at 156. > > >> I guess I am not out of the woods yet but he figures I am working on > > it. > > >> I have ordered a talking glucometer and a talking scale. I was very > > >> uncomfortable when he was showing me the procedure but I hope with > > time I > > >> will catch onto it. > > >> We have a visiting doctor because my husband has been very > ill > > >> recently and is now in bed all of the time. > > >> Dr. comes once a month so I have not had a chance to talk > to > > him > > >> since this result came out. My new meter should be here within the > > week I > > >> hope. > > >> So I was told I haven't been called a diabetic yet but friends have > > told > > >> me > > >> that if that number was 435 I probably am. > > >> I look forward to learning more from this list. > > >> Nice to meet all of you I don't know and to see some of you who are > > >> already > > >> friends here. > > >> Lora > > >> > > >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2011 Report Share Posted June 20, 2011 watch out, big brother is aboard as well, LOLOL hugs sugar ' Your mind is your garden, your thoughts are your seeds. You can grow flowers or you can grow weeds.' ~Be Blessed, Sugar Introduction Hello To Everyone, I am Lora Leggett and I live near Detroit, Michigan. I am 58 years old and have been blind since birth. I am married to who is sighted but has cerebral palsy. We have a daughter and a son who are adults now. I have a history of diabetes in my family and I found out this past Monday that my blood sugar tested very high whenI had blood work done. So the doctor has given me glyburide once a day 500 mg plus an antibiotic for urinary tract infection. They said the sugar was 435. I had never heard of a number that high except when my brother drove himself to the hospital in 2009 and found out he was a diabetic among other things and his number was over 600. So I have had to start modifying my diet big time. I started downloading several books from the BARD web site and learning about counting carbs and all sorts of things. My brother Dan brought one of his meters over and tested me this afternoon and I was at 156. I guess I am not out of the woods yet but he figures I am working on it. I have ordered a talking glucometer and a talking scale. I was very uncomfortable when he was showing me the procedure but I hope with time I will catch onto it. We have a visiting doctor because my husband has been very ill recently and is now in bed all of the time. Dr. comes once a month so I have not had a chance to talk to him since this result came out. My new meter should be here within the week I hope. So I was told I haven't been called a diabetic yet but friends have told me that if that number was 435 I probably am. I look forward to learning more from this list. Nice to meet all of you I don't know and to see some of you who are already friends here. Lora Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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