bpd stable partnerships

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My parents divorced when I was a baby, but I always wondered (more like hopeful

fantasies) that if my nada had met and married a man who could be " her rock " , if

she could have been more functional and stable. And would it have taken the

heat off of me as the only child? I've had many a therapist say I was

spousified and/or parentified. I wonder if a husband who would have played

those roles had come along if she could have been a more normal mother.

From what I've read here it sounds like the " dishrag " is the most common and he

seems to serve as an enabler mostly. What happens if there is a divorce or the

dishrag dad dies - does the nada's functioning plummet?