Guest guest Posted June 1, 2010 Report Share Posted June 1, 2010 I like the idea of a buddy but am concerned that I'll get rebellious. This is what happened in the past couple of days: went to the dr to check blood sugar & cholesterol (big issues for my health right now). Both went down after a general effort to stay mindful esp around sweets. Then I swore I would stick to being mindful and not eat sweets and more fatty foods without really checking in on hunger signals. (ie no forbidden foods but stop when satisfied or close.) I've been weighing myself because when I dont I'm less than honest with myself about my true food needs. So I put back on some weight since seeing dr. because I'm trying to stretch my limits. As usual. As I write this, I see a lot of conflicted feelings & semi-rules going on, and see it would help to explore the emotions behind the behaviour, but frankly I'd just prefer to stop the behaviour because the emotions just keep on coming and going. (I'm 62, & have a little perspective on my life.) Any feedback welcome! Sent from my iPhone Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 1, 2010 Report Share Posted June 1, 2010 I like the idea of a buddy but am concerned that I'll get rebellious. This is what happened in the past couple of days: went to the dr to check blood sugar & cholesterol (big issues for my health right now). Both went down after a general effort to stay mindful esp around sweets. Then I swore I would stick to being mindful and not eat sweets and more fatty foods without really checking in on hunger signals. (ie no forbidden foods but stop when satisfied or close.) I've been weighing myself because when I dont I'm less than honest with myself about my true food needs. So I put back on some weight since seeing dr. because I'm trying to stretch my limits. As usual. As I write this, I see a lot of conflicted feelings & semi-rules going on, and see it would help to explore the emotions behind the behaviour, but frankly I'd just prefer to stop the behaviour because the emotions just keep on coming and going. (I'm 62, & have a little perspective on my life.) Any feedback welcome! Sent from my iPhone Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 1, 2010 Report Share Posted June 1, 2010 I like the idea of a buddy but am concerned that I'll get rebellious. This is what happened in the past couple of days: went to the dr to check blood sugar & cholesterol (big issues for my health right now). Both went down after a general effort to stay mindful esp around sweets. Then I swore I would stick to being mindful and not eat sweets and more fatty foods without really checking in on hunger signals. (ie no forbidden foods but stop when satisfied or close.) I've been weighing myself because when I dont I'm less than honest with myself about my true food needs. So I put back on some weight since seeing dr. because I'm trying to stretch my limits. As usual. As I write this, I see a lot of conflicted feelings & semi-rules going on, and see it would help to explore the emotions behind the behaviour, but frankly I'd just prefer to stop the behaviour because the emotions just keep on coming and going. (I'm 62, & have a little perspective on my life.) Any feedback welcome! Sent from my iPhone Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 1, 2010 Report Share Posted June 1, 2010 Hi, Ellen, I feel the same way about having a buddy. I'm afraid I'd set myself up into a rebellion mode if I set up some goals for myself informally with a buddy, because I cop to rebelliousness pretty quickly! As soon as I set up any rules or semi-rules for myself, I almost immediately break them. I think part of it is that in my job I swallow back a lot of stuff I'd rather say, but which would likely get me fired. So my tack is to keep reading books that give me inspiration, keep reading this list (reset it to individual posts so that I get inspiration throughout the day) and then I work out a system that feels right and good, given the new input. But I know for some people this would be too loosy-goosy. For me, at age 59 and with a lot of experience with what doesn't work for me, this does work. We're all different, and trusting ourselves is what IE is all about. Doesn't that feel good? Laurie Ellen wrote: >>>I like the idea of a buddy but am concerned that I'll get rebellious.<<< .. . . >>>As I write this, I see a lot of conflicted feelings & semi-rules going on, and see it would help to explore the emotions behind the behaviour, but frankly I'd just prefer to stop the behaviour because the emotions just keep on coming and going. (I'm 62, & have a little perspective on my life.)<<< Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 1, 2010 Report Share Posted June 1, 2010 Hi Ellen, I tend to get rebellious with my eating when I set up rules or restrict too. You and your buddy don't have to do that unless you choose to. My buddy and I have a flexible structure with no shoulds or have to's. We choose things we would like to work on during the week, try to make progress on the goals and check in with each other. I'm really enjoying the experience and really hope you'll give it a try! Jeanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 1, 2010 Report Share Posted June 1, 2010 Hi Ellen, I tend to get rebellious with my eating when I set up rules or restrict too. You and your buddy don't have to do that unless you choose to. My buddy and I have a flexible structure with no shoulds or have to's. We choose things we would like to work on during the week, try to make progress on the goals and check in with each other. I'm really enjoying the experience and really hope you'll give it a try! Jeanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 1, 2010 Report Share Posted June 1, 2010 AS I mentioned some weeks ago in my intro I try and keep a journal, No rules....just write. I discover my feelings much better thru writing so that was my only goal....log what I eat approximately and record my feelings. I totally hate rules...and its clear from my eating I am punishing myself from a million self imposed perfectionism rules I cant follow. So with a buddy the goals can be a general thing....writing once a day or just promising to check in.... Just a thought Hi Ellen, I tend to get rebellious with my eating when I set up rules or restrict too. You and your buddy don't have to do that unless you choose to. My buddy and I have a flexible structure with no shoulds or have to's. We choose things we would like to work on during the week, try to make progress on the goals and check in with each other. I'm really enjoying the experience and really hope you'll give it a try! Jeanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 1, 2010 Report Share Posted June 1, 2010 AS I mentioned some weeks ago in my intro I try and keep a journal, No rules....just write. I discover my feelings much better thru writing so that was my only goal....log what I eat approximately and record my feelings. I totally hate rules...and its clear from my eating I am punishing myself from a million self imposed perfectionism rules I cant follow. So with a buddy the goals can be a general thing....writing once a day or just promising to check in.... Just a thought Hi Ellen, I tend to get rebellious with my eating when I set up rules or restrict too. You and your buddy don't have to do that unless you choose to. My buddy and I have a flexible structure with no shoulds or have to's. We choose things we would like to work on during the week, try to make progress on the goals and check in with each other. I'm really enjoying the experience and really hope you'll give it a try! Jeanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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