Re: Newbie: Tired of having a war with myself

[Guest guest]

How do you avoid the trap of being overly focused with what you eat, if you are

writing it down? I'm concerned it will just make me more uptight, like when I

used to calorie count.

Kate

> >

> > I read Intuitive eating several years ago and thought it was the best book

I've ever read on weight loss. It seemed so " loving " and gentle, versus

restrictive and lecturing.

> >

> > I'm one of those people who used to eat anything and never gain weight, then

I turned 40 ten years ago, and I started putting on weight and I keep gaining.

I have a hard time finding clothes that fit and once I got into the 1x sizes I

was in complete denial. I started hating getting my photo taken.

> >

> > In the rest of my life I am completely happy and have a great career and

personal life. I am not an emotional eater and have never had an eating

disorder. The best I can say is " I enjoy food, because it tastes good! " I

don't feel like I over eat. I probably eat 2/3 of what I used to eat in my 30's,

but I still gain weight.

> >

> > One thing I haven't tried is reach out for a support buddy. I think I've

isolated myself because I don't want to talk about my weight problem with people

I know. Most are thin and into exercising. Some of them are obsessed with food.

The way they deal with food would feel like self-abuse to me.

> >

> > I want to enjoy who I am and what I do, and not be at war with who I am. I

want to treat my body well and not hate it for being fat.

> >

> > I don't want to attend diet meetings, nor do I want to weigh myself, because

all it does is make me demoralized.

> >

> > I've always felt that if I get my mind in the right place and really pay

attention, the problem will solve itself. I think if I had someone to check in

with, or make weekly mini goals with, it might be helpful, especially in a group

like this where people have the same values (intuitive eating) and challenges

and celebrations. I'm not sure how that would work, but I am interested in

maybe trying to have a few email buddies who I could write directly to, with

each other just to check in on what is going on around weight loss goals. I'm

not sure if that is doable on a yahoo site.

> >

> > Boy, I feel like I've written an essay here! Whew! Guess I got a lot off

my chest!

> >

>

[Guest guest]

How do you avoid the trap of being overly focused with what you eat, if you are

writing it down? I'm concerned it will just make me more uptight, like when I

used to calorie count.

Kate

> >

> > I read Intuitive eating several years ago and thought it was the best book

I've ever read on weight loss. It seemed so " loving " and gentle, versus

restrictive and lecturing.

> >

> > I'm one of those people who used to eat anything and never gain weight, then

I turned 40 ten years ago, and I started putting on weight and I keep gaining.

I have a hard time finding clothes that fit and once I got into the 1x sizes I

was in complete denial. I started hating getting my photo taken.

> >

> > In the rest of my life I am completely happy and have a great career and

personal life. I am not an emotional eater and have never had an eating

disorder. The best I can say is " I enjoy food, because it tastes good! " I

don't feel like I over eat. I probably eat 2/3 of what I used to eat in my 30's,

but I still gain weight.

> >

> > One thing I haven't tried is reach out for a support buddy. I think I've

isolated myself because I don't want to talk about my weight problem with people

I know. Most are thin and into exercising. Some of them are obsessed with food.

The way they deal with food would feel like self-abuse to me.

> >

> > I want to enjoy who I am and what I do, and not be at war with who I am. I

want to treat my body well and not hate it for being fat.

> >

> > I don't want to attend diet meetings, nor do I want to weigh myself, because

all it does is make me demoralized.

> >

> > I've always felt that if I get my mind in the right place and really pay

attention, the problem will solve itself. I think if I had someone to check in

with, or make weekly mini goals with, it might be helpful, especially in a group

like this where people have the same values (intuitive eating) and challenges

and celebrations. I'm not sure how that would work, but I am interested in

maybe trying to have a few email buddies who I could write directly to, with

each other just to check in on what is going on around weight loss goals. I'm

not sure if that is doable on a yahoo site.

> >

> > Boy, I feel like I've written an essay here! Whew! Guess I got a lot off

my chest!

> >

>

[Guest guest]

How do you avoid the trap of being overly focused with what you eat, if you are

writing it down? I'm concerned it will just make me more uptight, like when I

used to calorie count.

Kate

> >

> > I read Intuitive eating several years ago and thought it was the best book

I've ever read on weight loss. It seemed so " loving " and gentle, versus

restrictive and lecturing.

> >

> > I'm one of those people who used to eat anything and never gain weight, then

I turned 40 ten years ago, and I started putting on weight and I keep gaining.

I have a hard time finding clothes that fit and once I got into the 1x sizes I

was in complete denial. I started hating getting my photo taken.

> >

> > In the rest of my life I am completely happy and have a great career and

personal life. I am not an emotional eater and have never had an eating

disorder. The best I can say is " I enjoy food, because it tastes good! " I

don't feel like I over eat. I probably eat 2/3 of what I used to eat in my 30's,

but I still gain weight.

> >

> > One thing I haven't tried is reach out for a support buddy. I think I've

isolated myself because I don't want to talk about my weight problem with people

I know. Most are thin and into exercising. Some of them are obsessed with food.

The way they deal with food would feel like self-abuse to me.

> >

> > I want to enjoy who I am and what I do, and not be at war with who I am. I

want to treat my body well and not hate it for being fat.

> >

> > I don't want to attend diet meetings, nor do I want to weigh myself, because

all it does is make me demoralized.

> >

> > I've always felt that if I get my mind in the right place and really pay

attention, the problem will solve itself. I think if I had someone to check in

with, or make weekly mini goals with, it might be helpful, especially in a group

like this where people have the same values (intuitive eating) and challenges

and celebrations. I'm not sure how that would work, but I am interested in

maybe trying to have a few email buddies who I could write directly to, with

each other just to check in on what is going on around weight loss goals. I'm

not sure if that is doable on a yahoo site.

> >

> > Boy, I feel like I've written an essay here! Whew! Guess I got a lot off

my chest!

> >

>

[Guest guest]

If you tend to get fixated/obsessed with things like that, I wouldn't

keep a food log--as a matter of fact, I would recommend against it for

anyone. The idea of IE is "intuitive"; that is, not keeping track of

what you eat, but going by what your body wants/needs. Once you start

logging, you lose the intuitiveness. If you really must write things

down, write feelings!

Sohni

How do you avoid the trap of being overly focused with what you

eat, if you are writing it down? I'm concerned it will just make me

more uptight, like when I used to calorie count.

Kate

[Guest guest]

If you tend to get fixated/obsessed with things like that, I wouldn't

keep a food log--as a matter of fact, I would recommend against it for

anyone. The idea of IE is "intuitive"; that is, not keeping track of

what you eat, but going by what your body wants/needs. Once you start

logging, you lose the intuitiveness. If you really must write things

down, write feelings!

Sohni

How do you avoid the trap of being overly focused with what you

eat, if you are writing it down? I'm concerned it will just make me

more uptight, like when I used to calorie count.

Kate

[Guest guest]

If you tend to get fixated/obsessed with things like that, I wouldn't

keep a food log--as a matter of fact, I would recommend against it for

anyone. The idea of IE is "intuitive"; that is, not keeping track of

what you eat, but going by what your body wants/needs. Once you start

logging, you lose the intuitiveness. If you really must write things

down, write feelings!

Sohni

How do you avoid the trap of being overly focused with what you

eat, if you are writing it down? I'm concerned it will just make me

more uptight, like when I used to calorie count.

Kate

[Guest guest]

I'm not doing it now. I just mentioned that I was actually surprised to find out

when I did how much I was eating and how many calories things had. It actually

made me feel better though. Like you, before I had just assumed I was not eating

more or exercising less and still gaining weight. So un-empowering and scary. I

think the mindless eating and clean the plate eating just snuck up on me as well

as more sedentary free time use. I had lost touch totally with my own body

signals.

Bonnie

> > >

> > > I read Intuitive eating several years ago and thought it was the best book

I've ever read on weight loss. It seemed so " loving " and gentle, versus

restrictive and lecturing.

> > >

> > > I'm one of those people who used to eat anything and never gain weight,

then I turned 40 ten years ago, and I started putting on weight and I keep

gaining. I have a hard time finding clothes that fit and once I got into the 1x

sizes I was in complete denial. I started hating getting my photo taken.

> > >

> > > In the rest of my life I am completely happy and have a great career and

personal life. I am not an emotional eater and have never had an eating

disorder. The best I can say is " I enjoy food, because it tastes good! " I

don't feel like I over eat. I probably eat 2/3 of what I used to eat in my 30's,

but I still gain weight.

> > >

> > > One thing I haven't tried is reach out for a support buddy. I think I've

isolated myself because I don't want to talk about my weight problem with people

I know. Most are thin and into exercising. Some of them are obsessed with food.

The way they deal with food would feel like self-abuse to me.

> > >

> > > I want to enjoy who I am and what I do, and not be at war with who I am.

I want to treat my body well and not hate it for being fat.

> > >

> > > I don't want to attend diet meetings, nor do I want to weigh myself,

because all it does is make me demoralized.

> > >

> > > I've always felt that if I get my mind in the right place and really pay

attention, the problem will solve itself. I think if I had someone to check in

with, or make weekly mini goals with, it might be helpful, especially in a group

like this where people have the same values (intuitive eating) and challenges

and celebrations. I'm not sure how that would work, but I am interested in

maybe trying to have a few email buddies who I could write directly to, with

each other just to check in on what is going on around weight loss goals. I'm

not sure if that is doable on a yahoo site.

> > >

> > > Boy, I feel like I've written an essay here! Whew! Guess I got a lot off

my chest!

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I'm not doing it now. I just mentioned that I was actually surprised to find out

when I did how much I was eating and how many calories things had. It actually

made me feel better though. Like you, before I had just assumed I was not eating

more or exercising less and still gaining weight. So un-empowering and scary. I

think the mindless eating and clean the plate eating just snuck up on me as well

as more sedentary free time use. I had lost touch totally with my own body

signals.

Bonnie

> > >

> > > I read Intuitive eating several years ago and thought it was the best book

I've ever read on weight loss. It seemed so " loving " and gentle, versus

restrictive and lecturing.

> > >

> > > I'm one of those people who used to eat anything and never gain weight,

then I turned 40 ten years ago, and I started putting on weight and I keep

gaining. I have a hard time finding clothes that fit and once I got into the 1x

sizes I was in complete denial. I started hating getting my photo taken.

> > >

> > > In the rest of my life I am completely happy and have a great career and

personal life. I am not an emotional eater and have never had an eating

disorder. The best I can say is " I enjoy food, because it tastes good! " I

don't feel like I over eat. I probably eat 2/3 of what I used to eat in my 30's,

but I still gain weight.

> > >

> > > One thing I haven't tried is reach out for a support buddy. I think I've

isolated myself because I don't want to talk about my weight problem with people

I know. Most are thin and into exercising. Some of them are obsessed with food.

The way they deal with food would feel like self-abuse to me.

> > >

> > > I want to enjoy who I am and what I do, and not be at war with who I am.

I want to treat my body well and not hate it for being fat.

> > >

> > > I don't want to attend diet meetings, nor do I want to weigh myself,

because all it does is make me demoralized.

> > >

> > > I've always felt that if I get my mind in the right place and really pay

attention, the problem will solve itself. I think if I had someone to check in

with, or make weekly mini goals with, it might be helpful, especially in a group

like this where people have the same values (intuitive eating) and challenges

and celebrations. I'm not sure how that would work, but I am interested in

maybe trying to have a few email buddies who I could write directly to, with

each other just to check in on what is going on around weight loss goals. I'm

not sure if that is doable on a yahoo site.

> > >

> > > Boy, I feel like I've written an essay here! Whew! Guess I got a lot off

my chest!

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Welcome to the group Kate. I can totally relate to so much of what you described

about yourself! I'm new to the group, too, and am really benefiting from

everyone's posts. We all face similar challenges and what I like is that we are

all at different places in our IE journey. I'm learning alot and look forward

to hearing more from you!

PJ

>

> I read Intuitive eating several years ago and thought it was the best book

I've ever read on weight loss. It seemed so " loving " and gentle, versus

restrictive and lecturing.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Catlady,Welcome to the group!I think this will be a great place for you to get support. it sounds like you are in a great place, emotionally, with your body in that you are not willing to abuse yourself with diets. that's fantastic!

I am currently " reading " /working with a book called the Appetite Awareness Workbook. it has you record how hungry you were when you started eating and how full you were when you stopped. and also asked if you ate each meal or snack mindfully. i think this is great because it gets you to pay attention to eating without having to record food -- this would not work for me at all! but doing this seems like a great exercise for me to get more in touch with my appetite... without judgement! 

anyway, please write us as often as you like, and let us know how we can support you.best,abbypracticing IE since 11/08... and still feeling like i have a VERY long way to go... 

 

Welcome to the group Kate. I can totally relate to so much of what you described about yourself! I'm new to the group, too, and am really benefiting from everyone's posts. We all face similar challenges and what I like is that we are all at different places in our IE journey. I'm learning alot and look forward to hearing more from you!

PJ

>

> I read Intuitive eating several years ago and thought it was the best book I've ever read on weight loss. It seemed so " loving " and gentle, versus restrictive and lecturing.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Catlady,Welcome to the group!I think this will be a great place for you to get support. it sounds like you are in a great place, emotionally, with your body in that you are not willing to abuse yourself with diets. that's fantastic!

I am currently " reading " /working with a book called the Appetite Awareness Workbook. it has you record how hungry you were when you started eating and how full you were when you stopped. and also asked if you ate each meal or snack mindfully. i think this is great because it gets you to pay attention to eating without having to record food -- this would not work for me at all! but doing this seems like a great exercise for me to get more in touch with my appetite... without judgement! 

anyway, please write us as often as you like, and let us know how we can support you.best,abbypracticing IE since 11/08... and still feeling like i have a VERY long way to go... 

 

Welcome to the group Kate. I can totally relate to so much of what you described about yourself! I'm new to the group, too, and am really benefiting from everyone's posts. We all face similar challenges and what I like is that we are all at different places in our IE journey. I'm learning alot and look forward to hearing more from you!

PJ

>

> I read Intuitive eating several years ago and thought it was the best book I've ever read on weight loss. It seemed so " loving " and gentle, versus restrictive and lecturing.

>

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