Re: I really need some help here...

[Guest guest]

Hi, Deb,

First of all, I'm so glad you came onto the list and aired this. It's hard (for me, at least) to admit that I don't have everything totally knocked all the time, and I suspect a lot of us with eating disorders have a good wide streak of the perfectionist in us. I have to keep telling myself about IE that I don't have to have it right all the time. That sometimes I'll backslide, but it's all a part of the process.

I had a shaky moment a few days ago when I saw a photograph of myself, double chin and big round face. It flew across my mind, "Who the heck do you think you're kidding here with this IE stuff??" And of course I started cycling through everything I've done "wrong" in the past month. Then I reminded myself that all I had to do to get back on track was to wait until I was hungry to eat the next time. And then stop when I was feeling satisfied.

Yes, sometimes it just doesn't work. But each time, just ask yourself if maybe you can forgive yourself for being human, for having to get some of this screwy diet mentality out of your system (think Geneen Roth and the cookie dough--how brave did she have to be to do that for weeks?), and no matter what happens, don't beat yourself up about it.

Instead, I'd ramp up on the self care. You say you're trying to work on that each day in some small way. How about doing significantly more? Yesterday I took an actual NAP in the middle of the day--not just sat and fell asleep in my chair, but actually laid myself down on the bed and slept. Radical! I highly recommend it if you're feeling drained. And also calling it quits on a day that has gone down the crapper: just go to bed with a good book, maybe after a nice shower with some salt scrub you bought just for yourself.

And on days when I feel like I'm just getting fatter, I ask myself if I'd rather get fatter dieting (know plenty well how to do THAT), or doing IE. No contest.

Laurie

I really need some help here...

For the past three weeks I have been really having a HARD time of it. I started IE the first week of July and it was wonderful. I took to it like a duck to water. Then very slowly everything started to go downhill. It started with a few meals going past full, then a few more.... Then the night-time munchies set in and yes enter the eating when not hungry! So I did some journaling / sitting quietly and tried to get to the emotions that I am trying to feed. I did find that I need to learn to nuture myself and am trying to work on that every day in some small way. And ofcourse the "just ducky" part is I know I am getting bigger, cause my clothes are all getting tight.

I know this sounds like a pity party... it's not really (I've got my boot laces in hand and am ready to keep on)... I guess I needed to vent it out and it's really the truth when I say that the people in this support group really seem to "get it" and are so helpful.

When I first read and learned about IE I thought, this is great, it makes sense, it sounds so easy and simple. But you all know it as I do now....This is way harder than it sounds.

[Guest guest]

Hi, Deb,

First of all, I'm so glad you came onto the list and aired this. It's hard (for me, at least) to admit that I don't have everything totally knocked all the time, and I suspect a lot of us with eating disorders have a good wide streak of the perfectionist in us. I have to keep telling myself about IE that I don't have to have it right all the time. That sometimes I'll backslide, but it's all a part of the process.

I had a shaky moment a few days ago when I saw a photograph of myself, double chin and big round face. It flew across my mind, "Who the heck do you think you're kidding here with this IE stuff??" And of course I started cycling through everything I've done "wrong" in the past month. Then I reminded myself that all I had to do to get back on track was to wait until I was hungry to eat the next time. And then stop when I was feeling satisfied.

Yes, sometimes it just doesn't work. But each time, just ask yourself if maybe you can forgive yourself for being human, for having to get some of this screwy diet mentality out of your system (think Geneen Roth and the cookie dough--how brave did she have to be to do that for weeks?), and no matter what happens, don't beat yourself up about it.

Instead, I'd ramp up on the self care. You say you're trying to work on that each day in some small way. How about doing significantly more? Yesterday I took an actual NAP in the middle of the day--not just sat and fell asleep in my chair, but actually laid myself down on the bed and slept. Radical! I highly recommend it if you're feeling drained. And also calling it quits on a day that has gone down the crapper: just go to bed with a good book, maybe after a nice shower with some salt scrub you bought just for yourself.

And on days when I feel like I'm just getting fatter, I ask myself if I'd rather get fatter dieting (know plenty well how to do THAT), or doing IE. No contest.

Laurie

I really need some help here...

For the past three weeks I have been really having a HARD time of it. I started IE the first week of July and it was wonderful. I took to it like a duck to water. Then very slowly everything started to go downhill. It started with a few meals going past full, then a few more.... Then the night-time munchies set in and yes enter the eating when not hungry! So I did some journaling / sitting quietly and tried to get to the emotions that I am trying to feed. I did find that I need to learn to nuture myself and am trying to work on that every day in some small way. And ofcourse the "just ducky" part is I know I am getting bigger, cause my clothes are all getting tight.

I know this sounds like a pity party... it's not really (I've got my boot laces in hand and am ready to keep on)... I guess I needed to vent it out and it's really the truth when I say that the people in this support group really seem to "get it" and are so helpful.

When I first read and learned about IE I thought, this is great, it makes sense, it sounds so easy and simple. But you all know it as I do now....This is way harder than it sounds.

[Guest guest]

Hi, Deb,

First of all, I'm so glad you came onto the list and aired this. It's hard (for me, at least) to admit that I don't have everything totally knocked all the time, and I suspect a lot of us with eating disorders have a good wide streak of the perfectionist in us. I have to keep telling myself about IE that I don't have to have it right all the time. That sometimes I'll backslide, but it's all a part of the process.

I had a shaky moment a few days ago when I saw a photograph of myself, double chin and big round face. It flew across my mind, "Who the heck do you think you're kidding here with this IE stuff??" And of course I started cycling through everything I've done "wrong" in the past month. Then I reminded myself that all I had to do to get back on track was to wait until I was hungry to eat the next time. And then stop when I was feeling satisfied.

Yes, sometimes it just doesn't work. But each time, just ask yourself if maybe you can forgive yourself for being human, for having to get some of this screwy diet mentality out of your system (think Geneen Roth and the cookie dough--how brave did she have to be to do that for weeks?), and no matter what happens, don't beat yourself up about it.

Instead, I'd ramp up on the self care. You say you're trying to work on that each day in some small way. How about doing significantly more? Yesterday I took an actual NAP in the middle of the day--not just sat and fell asleep in my chair, but actually laid myself down on the bed and slept. Radical! I highly recommend it if you're feeling drained. And also calling it quits on a day that has gone down the crapper: just go to bed with a good book, maybe after a nice shower with some salt scrub you bought just for yourself.

And on days when I feel like I'm just getting fatter, I ask myself if I'd rather get fatter dieting (know plenty well how to do THAT), or doing IE. No contest.

Laurie

I really need some help here...

For the past three weeks I have been really having a HARD time of it. I started IE the first week of July and it was wonderful. I took to it like a duck to water. Then very slowly everything started to go downhill. It started with a few meals going past full, then a few more.... Then the night-time munchies set in and yes enter the eating when not hungry! So I did some journaling / sitting quietly and tried to get to the emotions that I am trying to feed. I did find that I need to learn to nuture myself and am trying to work on that every day in some small way. And ofcourse the "just ducky" part is I know I am getting bigger, cause my clothes are all getting tight.

I know this sounds like a pity party... it's not really (I've got my boot laces in hand and am ready to keep on)... I guess I needed to vent it out and it's really the truth when I say that the people in this support group really seem to "get it" and are so helpful.

When I first read and learned about IE I thought, this is great, it makes sense, it sounds so easy and simple. But you all know it as I do now....This is way harder than it sounds.

[Guest guest]

" Who the heck do you think you're kidding here with this IE stuff?? "

You said it perfectly, Laurie! I say this to myself at least once a day, even as

I trudge on with this journey of IE. Today I was weighed at the drs. and in one

month I have not lost even ONE ounce. I was positive that at least a couple of

pounds had found another home, since I have not been bingeing and seems like I

am eating less. But, I also know that this is not about the # on the scale. I

blame it on the dr.! I was so discouraged but the fleeting thought to give this

up was just that, fleeting. I don't know much, but I do know for sure that this

is the ONLY way, at least for me. Cheers to all.

Virginia

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> First of all, I'm so glad you came onto the list and aired this. It's hard

(for me, at least) to admit that I don't have everything totally knocked all the

time, and I suspect a lot of us with eating disorders have a good wide streak of

the perfectionist in us. I have to keep telling myself about IE that I don't

have to have it right all the time. That sometimes I'll backslide, but it's all

a part of the process.

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> I had a shaky moment a few days ago when I saw a photograph of myself, double

chin and big round face. It flew across my mind,

" wrong " in the past month. Then I reminded myself that all I had to do to get

back on track was to wait until I was hungry to eat the next time. And then stop

when I was feeling satisfied.

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> Yes, sometimes it just doesn't work. But each time, just ask yourself if maybe

you can forgive yourself for being human, for having to get some of this screwy

diet mentality out of your system (think Geneen Roth and the cookie dough--how

brave did she have to be to do that for weeks?), and no matter what happens,

don't beat yourself up about it.

>

> Instead, I'd ramp up on the self care. You say you're trying to work on that

each day in some small way. How about doing significantly more? Yesterday I took

an actual NAP in the middle of the day--not just sat and fell asleep in my

chair, but actually laid myself down on the bed and slept. Radical! I highly

recommend it if you're feeling drained. And also calling it quits on a day that

has gone down the crapper: just go to bed with a good book, maybe after a nice

shower with some salt scrub you bought just for yourself.

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> And on days when I feel like I'm just getting fatter, I ask myself if I'd

rather get fatter dieting (know plenty well how to do THAT), or doing IE. No

contest.

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> For the past three weeks I have been really having a HARD time of it. I

started IE the first week of July and it was wonderful. I took to it like a duck

to water. Then very slowly everything started to go downhill. It started with a

few meals going past full, then a few more.... Then the night-time munchies set

in and yes enter the eating when not hungry! So I did some journaling / sitting

quietly and tried to get to the emotions that I am trying to feed. I did find

that I need to learn to nuture myself and am trying to work on that every day in

some small way. And ofcourse the " just ducky " part is I know I am getting

bigger, cause my clothes are all getting tight.

> I know this sounds like a pity party... it's not really (I've got my boot

laces in hand and am ready to keep on)... I guess I needed to vent it out and

it's really the truth when I say that the people in this support group really

seem to " get it " and are so helpful.

> When I first read and learned about IE I thought, this is great, it makes

sense, it sounds so easy and simple. But you all know it as I do now....This is

way harder than it sounds.

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