Re: Feeling Bingey

[Guest guest]

,Well, it's awesome that you  have identified the feeling, and as of yet, are sitting with it, and naming it. That in itself is very powerful. The weighing thing is tricky. Is there a reason you decided to weigh yourself? did it have something to do with your mom's visit? 

i know for a lot of us that weighing can be a very triggering event, whether we have lost or gained -- doesn't seem to matter which! can you identify any emotions inside you? even if you don't know where they are coming from, try to figure out what you are FEELING. and then maybe address that feeling? 

sometimes i think when we have gained maybe a part of us thinks we are about to start restricting... if you are having that feeling, i suggest you eat something as soon as you are hungry. and try to eat frequently today, and dont let yourself get too hungry. 

keep us posted!abbyps and remember, if you do binge, it's not the end of the world. perhaps giving yourself permission to binge will remove some of the need for it?

 

For the first time in months I feel a binge coming on. Two possible

causes:

1) I weighed earlier and I've gained which I knew I would but I'm sure

it bothered me.

2) My mom is in town

I feel a way I haven't in months and I'm finding it very scary.

[Guest guest]

,Well, it's awesome that you  have identified the feeling, and as of yet, are sitting with it, and naming it. That in itself is very powerful. The weighing thing is tricky. Is there a reason you decided to weigh yourself? did it have something to do with your mom's visit? 

i know for a lot of us that weighing can be a very triggering event, whether we have lost or gained -- doesn't seem to matter which! can you identify any emotions inside you? even if you don't know where they are coming from, try to figure out what you are FEELING. and then maybe address that feeling? 

sometimes i think when we have gained maybe a part of us thinks we are about to start restricting... if you are having that feeling, i suggest you eat something as soon as you are hungry. and try to eat frequently today, and dont let yourself get too hungry. 

keep us posted!abbyps and remember, if you do binge, it's not the end of the world. perhaps giving yourself permission to binge will remove some of the need for it?

 

For the first time in months I feel a binge coming on. Two possible

causes:

1) I weighed earlier and I've gained which I knew I would but I'm sure

it bothered me.

2) My mom is in town

I feel a way I haven't in months and I'm finding it very scary.

[Guest guest]

,Well, it's awesome that you  have identified the feeling, and as of yet, are sitting with it, and naming it. That in itself is very powerful. The weighing thing is tricky. Is there a reason you decided to weigh yourself? did it have something to do with your mom's visit? 

i know for a lot of us that weighing can be a very triggering event, whether we have lost or gained -- doesn't seem to matter which! can you identify any emotions inside you? even if you don't know where they are coming from, try to figure out what you are FEELING. and then maybe address that feeling? 

sometimes i think when we have gained maybe a part of us thinks we are about to start restricting... if you are having that feeling, i suggest you eat something as soon as you are hungry. and try to eat frequently today, and dont let yourself get too hungry. 

keep us posted!abbyps and remember, if you do binge, it's not the end of the world. perhaps giving yourself permission to binge will remove some of the need for it?

 

For the first time in months I feel a binge coming on. Two possible

causes:

1) I weighed earlier and I've gained which I knew I would but I'm sure

it bothered me.

2) My mom is in town

I feel a way I haven't in months and I'm finding it very scary.

[Guest guest]

Very well said Abby!! Way to recognize and come here to post !!

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[Guest guest]

Very well said Abby!! Way to recognize and come here to post !!

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[Guest guest]

That's a great step in recognizing possible reasons for you wanting to binge, ! And your indirect request for help and support is quite awesome too!

Abby poses some interesting questions that may give you some good insight as to what is going on emotionally at the moment. I am wondering what it is about your mother's visit that may be triggering some anxiety? Is it possible that perhaps her impending visit triggered a little more eating prior to her arrival and so the subsequent weight gain? (Family can certainly touch a nerve sometimes!)

, however you choose to handle this, may I suggest you try to stay mindful and listen to what your body is telling you.

Good luck! Please let us know it goes. We're here for you!

Jeanne

[Guest guest]

That's a great step in recognizing possible reasons for you wanting to binge, ! And your indirect request for help and support is quite awesome too!

Abby poses some interesting questions that may give you some good insight as to what is going on emotionally at the moment. I am wondering what it is about your mother's visit that may be triggering some anxiety? Is it possible that perhaps her impending visit triggered a little more eating prior to her arrival and so the subsequent weight gain? (Family can certainly touch a nerve sometimes!)

, however you choose to handle this, may I suggest you try to stay mindful and listen to what your body is telling you.

Good luck! Please let us know it goes. We're here for you!

Jeanne

[Guest guest]

Weighing is a definite trigger for me. 

Sohni

Abigail Wolfson wrote:

 

,

Well, it's awesome that you  have identified the feeling, and as

of yet, are sitting with it, and naming it. That in itself is very

powerful. 

The weighing thing is tricky. Is there a reason you decided to

weigh yourself? did it have something to do with your mom's visit? 

i know for a lot of us that weighing can be a very triggering

event, whether we have lost or gained -- doesn't seem to matter which! 

can you identify any emotions inside you? even if you don't know

where they are coming from, try to figure out what you are FEELING. and

then maybe address that feeling? 

sometimes i think when we have gained maybe a part of us thinks

we are about to start restricting... if you are having that

feeling, i suggest you eat something as soon as you are hungry. and try

to eat frequently today, and dont let yourself get too hungry. 

keep us posted!

abby

ps and remember, if you do binge, it's not the end of the world.

perhaps giving yourself permission to binge will remove some of the

need for it?

On Mon, Feb 15, 2010 at 9:10 PM,

Karlen <jkarlenkarlen>

wrote:

 

For the first time in months I feel a binge coming on. Two

possible

causes:

1) I weighed earlier and I've gained which I knew I would but I'm sure

it bothered me.

2) My mom is in town

I feel a way I haven't in months and I'm finding it very scary.

[Guest guest]

Weighing is a definite trigger for me. 

Sohni

Abigail Wolfson wrote:

 

,

Well, it's awesome that you  have identified the feeling, and as

of yet, are sitting with it, and naming it. That in itself is very

powerful. 

The weighing thing is tricky. Is there a reason you decided to

weigh yourself? did it have something to do with your mom's visit? 

i know for a lot of us that weighing can be a very triggering

event, whether we have lost or gained -- doesn't seem to matter which! 

can you identify any emotions inside you? even if you don't know

where they are coming from, try to figure out what you are FEELING. and

then maybe address that feeling? 

sometimes i think when we have gained maybe a part of us thinks

we are about to start restricting... if you are having that

feeling, i suggest you eat something as soon as you are hungry. and try

to eat frequently today, and dont let yourself get too hungry. 

keep us posted!

abby

ps and remember, if you do binge, it's not the end of the world.

perhaps giving yourself permission to binge will remove some of the

need for it?

On Mon, Feb 15, 2010 at 9:10 PM,

Karlen <jkarlenkarlen>

wrote:

 

For the first time in months I feel a binge coming on. Two

possible

causes:

1) I weighed earlier and I've gained which I knew I would but I'm sure

it bothered me.

2) My mom is in town

I feel a way I haven't in months and I'm finding it very scary.

[Guest guest]

Weighing is a definite trigger for me. 

Sohni

Abigail Wolfson wrote:

 

,

Well, it's awesome that you  have identified the feeling, and as

of yet, are sitting with it, and naming it. That in itself is very

powerful. 

The weighing thing is tricky. Is there a reason you decided to

weigh yourself? did it have something to do with your mom's visit? 

i know for a lot of us that weighing can be a very triggering

event, whether we have lost or gained -- doesn't seem to matter which! 

can you identify any emotions inside you? even if you don't know

where they are coming from, try to figure out what you are FEELING. and

then maybe address that feeling? 

sometimes i think when we have gained maybe a part of us thinks

we are about to start restricting... if you are having that

feeling, i suggest you eat something as soon as you are hungry. and try

to eat frequently today, and dont let yourself get too hungry. 

keep us posted!

abby

ps and remember, if you do binge, it's not the end of the world.

perhaps giving yourself permission to binge will remove some of the

need for it?

On Mon, Feb 15, 2010 at 9:10 PM,

Karlen <jkarlenkarlen>

wrote:

 

For the first time in months I feel a binge coming on. Two

possible

causes:

1) I weighed earlier and I've gained which I knew I would but I'm sure

it bothered me.

2) My mom is in town

I feel a way I haven't in months and I'm finding it very scary.

[Guest guest]

Abby,

Thanks so much for your thoughtful response.

First of all, I’m pleased to report that the binge never

happened. I might have eaten more than I needed to of the things I was

going to eat anyway but the desire to rip the kitchen apart looking for

anything to munch on never materialized and today I’m grateful for that.

I don’t know why I weighed. I knew I had to have

gained from all of the experimentation I’ve been doing as part of my IE

process and, at least intellectually, I’m OK with it. I get that it’s

part of the process and I value that process. But, as I wrote about

before, I’m 330lb (now a bit higher) and the thought of even the

short-term gain is scary mostly because I on some level don’t trust that

this is going to be short-term. I’ve never gained weight in the

short-term before and substantial weight gain for me is potentially

deadly. So that I guess sums up the emotional and intellectual conflict I’m

going through with this.

I don’t know what about my mother triggers it. I

know it always did when I was a kid. We’ve always had a fairly

tense relationship. And food has always been a source of tension

between us.

From: IntuitiveEating_Support

[mailto:IntuitiveEating_Support ] On Behalf Of Abigail

Wolfson

Sent: Tuesday, February 16, 2010 9:09 AM

To: IntuitiveEating_Support

Subject: Re: Feeling " Bingey "

,

Well, it's awesome that you have identified the

feeling, and as of yet, are sitting with it, and naming it. That in itself is

very powerful.

The weighing thing is tricky. Is there a reason you decided

to weigh yourself? did it have something to do with your mom's visit?

i know for a lot of us that weighing can be a very

triggering event, whether we have lost or gained -- doesn't seem to matter

which!

can you identify any emotions inside you? even if you don't

know where they are coming from, try to figure out what you are FEELING. and

then maybe address that feeling?

sometimes i think when we have gained maybe a part of us

thinks we are about to start restricting... if you are having that feeling, i

suggest you eat something as soon as you are hungry. and try to eat frequently

today, and dont let yourself get too hungry.

keep us posted!

abby

ps and remember, if you do

binge, it's not the end of the world. perhaps giving yourself permission to

binge will remove some of the need for it?

For the first time in months I

feel a binge coming on. Two possible

causes:

1) I weighed earlier and I've gained which I knew I would but I'm sure

it bothered me.

2) My mom is in town

I feel a way I haven't in months and I'm finding it very scary.

[Guest guest]

Abby,

Thanks so much for your thoughtful response.

First of all, I’m pleased to report that the binge never

happened. I might have eaten more than I needed to of the things I was

going to eat anyway but the desire to rip the kitchen apart looking for

anything to munch on never materialized and today I’m grateful for that.

I don’t know why I weighed. I knew I had to have

gained from all of the experimentation I’ve been doing as part of my IE

process and, at least intellectually, I’m OK with it. I get that it’s

part of the process and I value that process. But, as I wrote about

before, I’m 330lb (now a bit higher) and the thought of even the

short-term gain is scary mostly because I on some level don’t trust that

this is going to be short-term. I’ve never gained weight in the

short-term before and substantial weight gain for me is potentially

deadly. So that I guess sums up the emotional and intellectual conflict I’m

going through with this.

I don’t know what about my mother triggers it. I

know it always did when I was a kid. We’ve always had a fairly

tense relationship. And food has always been a source of tension

between us.

From: IntuitiveEating_Support

[mailto:IntuitiveEating_Support ] On Behalf Of Abigail

Wolfson

Sent: Tuesday, February 16, 2010 9:09 AM

To: IntuitiveEating_Support

Subject: Re: Feeling " Bingey "

,

Well, it's awesome that you have identified the

feeling, and as of yet, are sitting with it, and naming it. That in itself is

very powerful.

The weighing thing is tricky. Is there a reason you decided

to weigh yourself? did it have something to do with your mom's visit?

i know for a lot of us that weighing can be a very

triggering event, whether we have lost or gained -- doesn't seem to matter

which!

can you identify any emotions inside you? even if you don't

know where they are coming from, try to figure out what you are FEELING. and

then maybe address that feeling?

sometimes i think when we have gained maybe a part of us

thinks we are about to start restricting... if you are having that feeling, i

suggest you eat something as soon as you are hungry. and try to eat frequently

today, and dont let yourself get too hungry.

keep us posted!

abby

ps and remember, if you do

binge, it's not the end of the world. perhaps giving yourself permission to

binge will remove some of the need for it?

For the first time in months I

feel a binge coming on. Two possible

causes:

1) I weighed earlier and I've gained which I knew I would but I'm sure

it bothered me.

2) My mom is in town

I feel a way I haven't in months and I'm finding it very scary.

[Guest guest]

Abby,

Thanks so much for your thoughtful response.

First of all, I’m pleased to report that the binge never

happened. I might have eaten more than I needed to of the things I was

going to eat anyway but the desire to rip the kitchen apart looking for

anything to munch on never materialized and today I’m grateful for that.

I don’t know why I weighed. I knew I had to have

gained from all of the experimentation I’ve been doing as part of my IE

process and, at least intellectually, I’m OK with it. I get that it’s

part of the process and I value that process. But, as I wrote about

before, I’m 330lb (now a bit higher) and the thought of even the

short-term gain is scary mostly because I on some level don’t trust that

this is going to be short-term. I’ve never gained weight in the

short-term before and substantial weight gain for me is potentially

deadly. So that I guess sums up the emotional and intellectual conflict I’m

going through with this.

I don’t know what about my mother triggers it. I

know it always did when I was a kid. We’ve always had a fairly

tense relationship. And food has always been a source of tension

between us.

From: IntuitiveEating_Support

[mailto:IntuitiveEating_Support ] On Behalf Of Abigail

Wolfson

Sent: Tuesday, February 16, 2010 9:09 AM

To: IntuitiveEating_Support

Subject: Re: Feeling " Bingey "

,

Well, it's awesome that you have identified the

feeling, and as of yet, are sitting with it, and naming it. That in itself is

very powerful.

The weighing thing is tricky. Is there a reason you decided

to weigh yourself? did it have something to do with your mom's visit?

i know for a lot of us that weighing can be a very

triggering event, whether we have lost or gained -- doesn't seem to matter

which!

can you identify any emotions inside you? even if you don't

know where they are coming from, try to figure out what you are FEELING. and

then maybe address that feeling?

sometimes i think when we have gained maybe a part of us

thinks we are about to start restricting... if you are having that feeling, i

suggest you eat something as soon as you are hungry. and try to eat frequently

today, and dont let yourself get too hungry.

keep us posted!

abby

ps and remember, if you do

binge, it's not the end of the world. perhaps giving yourself permission to

binge will remove some of the need for it?

For the first time in months I

feel a binge coming on. Two possible

causes:

1) I weighed earlier and I've gained which I knew I would but I'm sure

it bothered me.

2) My mom is in town

I feel a way I haven't in months and I'm finding it very scary.

[Guest guest]

That's great, Jon. This is kind of the stage I'm in--transitioning

from binging to overeating, to (hopefully) normal eating (most of the

time). I've noticed I feel much less upset about the overeating than

the binging.

Sohni

Karlen wrote:

Abby,

Thanks so much for

your thoughtful response.

First of all, I’m

pleased to report that the binge never

happened. I might have eaten more than I needed to of the things I was

going to eat anyway but the desire to rip the kitchen apart looking for

anything to munch on never materialized and today I’m grateful for that.

I don’t know why I

weighed. I knew I had to have

gained from all of the experimentation I’ve been doing as part of my IE

process and, at least intellectually, I’m OK with it. I get that it’s

part of the process and I value that process. But, as I wrote about

before, I’m 330lb (now a bit higher) and the thought of even the

short-term gain is scary mostly because I on some level don’t trust

that

this is going to be short-term. I’ve never gained weight in the

short-term before and substantial weight gain for me is potentially

deadly. So that I guess sums up the emotional and intellectual

conflict I’m

going through with this.

I don’t know what

about my mother triggers it. I

know it always did when I was a kid. We’ve always had a fairly

tense relationship. And food has always been a source of tension

between us.

From: IntuitiveEating_Support

[mailto:IntuitiveEating_Support ] On

Behalf Of Abigail

Wolfson

Sent: Tuesday, February 16, 2010 9:09 AM

To: IntuitiveEating_Support

Subject: Re: Feeling "Bingey"

,

Well, it's awesome that you have identified the

feeling, and as of yet, are sitting with it, and naming it. That in

itself is

very powerful.

The weighing thing is tricky. Is there a reason

you decided

to weigh yourself? did it have something to do with your mom's visit?

i know for a lot of us that weighing can be a

very

triggering event, whether we have lost or gained -- doesn't seem to

matter

which!

can you identify any emotions inside you? even

if you don't

know where they are coming from, try to figure out what you are

FEELING. and

then maybe address that feeling?

sometimes i think when we have gained maybe a

part of us

thinks we are about to start restricting... if you are having that

feeling, i

suggest you eat something as soon as you are hungry. and try to eat

frequently

today, and dont let yourself get too hungry.

keep us posted!

abby

ps and remember, if you do

binge, it's not the end of the world. perhaps giving yourself

permission to

binge will remove some of the need for it?

On Mon, Feb 15, 2010 at 9:10 PM, Karlen

<jkarlenkarlen>

wrote:

For

the first time in months I

feel a binge coming on. Two possible

causes:

1) I weighed earlier and I've gained which I knew I would but I'm sure

it bothered me.

2) My mom is in town

I feel a way I haven't in months and I'm finding it very scary.

[Guest guest]

,

Although my mother and I, for the most part, had a wonderful, loving relationship, she could be very strong and perhaps a little overbearing sometimes. We certainly had some tense moments ourselves over the years about weight. (My favorite was, "Jeanne, you look sick!") And since I found it rather difficult to stand up for myself with her, I wonder now if the weight thing wasn't my way of rebelling. Is this crazy or what?

Jeanne

[Guest guest]

,

Although my mother and I, for the most part, had a wonderful, loving relationship, she could be very strong and perhaps a little overbearing sometimes. We certainly had some tense moments ourselves over the years about weight. (My favorite was, "Jeanne, you look sick!") And since I found it rather difficult to stand up for myself with her, I wonder now if the weight thing wasn't my way of rebelling. Is this crazy or what?

Jeanne

[Guest guest]

,

Although my mother and I, for the most part, had a wonderful, loving relationship, she could be very strong and perhaps a little overbearing sometimes. We certainly had some tense moments ourselves over the years about weight. (My favorite was, "Jeanne, you look sick!") And since I found it rather difficult to stand up for myself with her, I wonder now if the weight thing wasn't my way of rebelling. Is this crazy or what?

Jeanne