Re: Feeling Bingey

[Guest guest]

That's great, Jon. This is kind of the stage I'm in--transitioning

from binging to overeating, to (hopefully) normal eating (most of the

time). I've noticed I feel much less upset about the overeating than

the binging.

Sohni

Karlen wrote:

Abby,

Thanks so much for

your thoughtful response.

First of all, I’m

pleased to report that the binge never

happened. I might have eaten more than I needed to of the things I was

going to eat anyway but the desire to rip the kitchen apart looking for

anything to munch on never materialized and today I’m grateful for that.

I don’t know why I

weighed. I knew I had to have

gained from all of the experimentation I’ve been doing as part of my IE

process and, at least intellectually, I’m OK with it. I get that it’s

part of the process and I value that process. But, as I wrote about

before, I’m 330lb (now a bit higher) and the thought of even the

short-term gain is scary mostly because I on some level don’t trust

that

this is going to be short-term. I’ve never gained weight in the

short-term before and substantial weight gain for me is potentially

deadly. So that I guess sums up the emotional and intellectual

conflict I’m

going through with this.

I don’t know what

about my mother triggers it. I

know it always did when I was a kid. We’ve always had a fairly

tense relationship. And food has always been a source of tension

between us.

From: IntuitiveEating_Support

[mailto:IntuitiveEating_Support ] On

Behalf Of Abigail

Wolfson

Sent: Tuesday, February 16, 2010 9:09 AM

To: IntuitiveEating_Support

Subject: Re: Feeling "Bingey"

,

Well, it's awesome that you have identified the

feeling, and as of yet, are sitting with it, and naming it. That in

itself is

very powerful.

The weighing thing is tricky. Is there a reason

you decided

to weigh yourself? did it have something to do with your mom's visit?

i know for a lot of us that weighing can be a

very

triggering event, whether we have lost or gained -- doesn't seem to

matter

which!

can you identify any emotions inside you? even

if you don't

know where they are coming from, try to figure out what you are

FEELING. and

then maybe address that feeling?

sometimes i think when we have gained maybe a

part of us

thinks we are about to start restricting... if you are having that

feeling, i

suggest you eat something as soon as you are hungry. and try to eat

frequently

today, and dont let yourself get too hungry.

keep us posted!

abby

ps and remember, if you do

binge, it's not the end of the world. perhaps giving yourself

permission to

binge will remove some of the need for it?

On Mon, Feb 15, 2010 at 9:10 PM, Karlen

<jkarlenkarlen>

wrote:

For

the first time in months I

feel a binge coming on. Two possible

causes:

1) I weighed earlier and I've gained which I knew I would but I'm sure

it bothered me.

2) My mom is in town

I feel a way I haven't in months and I'm finding it very scary.