Re: I really need some feedback, please

[Guest guest]

Still,

I can relate so much to what your saying. I am a very non-confrontational

person. For the most part I make no waves in life even if MANY times it has

meant stifling my feeling of resentment and living with it for along time.

I too have people who have verbal attached me and I do just what you said

just freeze and let them. In the end it makes me feel victimized and then

pissed because I let them. Before I understood what was going on I would

buy self help book to help me learn how to stick up for my self..which

really didn't help much. I believe these people..can sense something in us

that we are easy prey..They can sense the weakness we have and they take

advantage of that. In regards to builders specifically..some have very bad

people skills to begin with,,they are use to dealing with construction

workers and from my experience that is not a very professional behaving

world:)

Please be gentle with yourself..you are not faulty..you are growing and

learning to behave in different ways. I know you are learning because you

put that boundary up with this builder by walking away! even at your

financial loss. Your husband I'm sorry to say seems very non assertive and

no confrontational as well. But you can't change him....you CAN and seems

like are already beginning to change YOU!. Don't give up....rest a bit...

regain your strength..then straighten your shoulder lift up your chin and

face the world with out letting it push you around!

Someone in another group suggested to me that I take some self defense

classes. It teaches you the self confidence we are missing. I am seriously

looking into this as soon as I get back to work and have the funds for

it..this may be an option for you as well.

Suicide is the worst thing you can do! Quite frankly it's a very cowardly

act..and hurts so many people. I know your intention isn't to cause others

pain. If you are still feeling this was please muster up all the strength

you have and call 911 or suicide prevention because if you are thinking this

way you are not at that moment in your right mind..and certainly would not

want to make such permanent decisions while you are momentarily not in your

right mind.

I send you Lots of Love and Prayers your way.

Please keep posting you will find soo much help here..you will be understood

here

Stefanie

>

>

> I have spilt ties from Nada and all family three years ago. I have done a

> lot of healing and growing, but this one thing keeps knocking me off of my

> feet. It seems that every once in a while, I run into someone that spews

> verbal venom at me. It's usually in a business situation. Most of the time

> when it happens, I am so totally stunned and taken aback that I don't say

> anything. The frequency of this has been occurring more and more. I am a

> soft spoken, nice, agreeable person, and can't for the life of me understand

> why this keeps happening! I try to look over our history to see if I did

> anything to antagonize them, and the answer is always no! I just am not like

> that. A few years ago when my hubby and I bought this house, the female

> builder was so mean! I didn't get half of the choices I wanted, because she

> was soabrasive to deal with. It made me hate the house, her, myself for not

> standing up to her better, and my husband for not coming to my defense. A

> few months a go, I tried to buy a new house, and went in with the intention

> of correcting any of the builder's(a different one) bad behavior at the

> start. Well she turned psycho too, and I set her straight. It was very shaky

> and we stressed every detail, wondering how it was gonna go minute to

> minute, when it happened again! This time was so bad! She said some horrible

> personal things to me, yelled at me, and talked down to me like I was an

> idiot. The entire time my husband sat there, and said nothing. I told her

> that her behavior was uncalled for, and then my husband continued on talking

> to her like it never happened! I stormed out. My husband folled behind me

> like a dog at my heels. I cancelled the house. By doing this, we are losing

> somewhere between $7000 and $9000 dollars! I signed the contract, it says I

> forfit the money. I simply can't let anyone treat me that way EVER again! My

> husband and I are on really shaky terms. We have been married 24 years, and

> he knows all about my abusive family history, yet will not take up for me,

> and I'm afraid it's going to cost me my marriage as well. I am so damn

> distraught, I am thinking of suicide. I have been abused in one way or

> another all of my life. I simply can not take one more of these episodes! He

> is scared to death of anyone the slightest bit aggressive, and he had a

> great upbringing! I don't know what I can do. Please help me. Somebody.

> Please.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Still,

I can relate so much to what your saying. I am a very non-confrontational

person. For the most part I make no waves in life even if MANY times it has

meant stifling my feeling of resentment and living with it for along time.

I too have people who have verbal attached me and I do just what you said

just freeze and let them. In the end it makes me feel victimized and then

pissed because I let them. Before I understood what was going on I would

buy self help book to help me learn how to stick up for my self..which

really didn't help much. I believe these people..can sense something in us

that we are easy prey..They can sense the weakness we have and they take

advantage of that. In regards to builders specifically..some have very bad

people skills to begin with,,they are use to dealing with construction

workers and from my experience that is not a very professional behaving

world:)

Please be gentle with yourself..you are not faulty..you are growing and

learning to behave in different ways. I know you are learning because you

put that boundary up with this builder by walking away! even at your

financial loss. Your husband I'm sorry to say seems very non assertive and

no confrontational as well. But you can't change him....you CAN and seems

like are already beginning to change YOU!. Don't give up....rest a bit...

regain your strength..then straighten your shoulder lift up your chin and

face the world with out letting it push you around!

Someone in another group suggested to me that I take some self defense

classes. It teaches you the self confidence we are missing. I am seriously

looking into this as soon as I get back to work and have the funds for

it..this may be an option for you as well.

Suicide is the worst thing you can do! Quite frankly it's a very cowardly

act..and hurts so many people. I know your intention isn't to cause others

pain. If you are still feeling this was please muster up all the strength

you have and call 911 or suicide prevention because if you are thinking this

way you are not at that moment in your right mind..and certainly would not

want to make such permanent decisions while you are momentarily not in your

right mind.

I send you Lots of Love and Prayers your way.

Please keep posting you will find soo much help here..you will be understood

here

Stefanie

>

>

> I have spilt ties from Nada and all family three years ago. I have done a

> lot of healing and growing, but this one thing keeps knocking me off of my

> feet. It seems that every once in a while, I run into someone that spews

> verbal venom at me. It's usually in a business situation. Most of the time

> when it happens, I am so totally stunned and taken aback that I don't say

> anything. The frequency of this has been occurring more and more. I am a

> soft spoken, nice, agreeable person, and can't for the life of me understand

> why this keeps happening! I try to look over our history to see if I did

> anything to antagonize them, and the answer is always no! I just am not like

> that. A few years ago when my hubby and I bought this house, the female

> builder was so mean! I didn't get half of the choices I wanted, because she

> was soabrasive to deal with. It made me hate the house, her, myself for not

> standing up to her better, and my husband for not coming to my defense. A

> few months a go, I tried to buy a new house, and went in with the intention

> of correcting any of the builder's(a different one) bad behavior at the

> start. Well she turned psycho too, and I set her straight. It was very shaky

> and we stressed every detail, wondering how it was gonna go minute to

> minute, when it happened again! This time was so bad! She said some horrible

> personal things to me, yelled at me, and talked down to me like I was an

> idiot. The entire time my husband sat there, and said nothing. I told her

> that her behavior was uncalled for, and then my husband continued on talking

> to her like it never happened! I stormed out. My husband folled behind me

> like a dog at my heels. I cancelled the house. By doing this, we are losing

> somewhere between $7000 and $9000 dollars! I signed the contract, it says I

> forfit the money. I simply can't let anyone treat me that way EVER again! My

> husband and I are on really shaky terms. We have been married 24 years, and

> he knows all about my abusive family history, yet will not take up for me,

> and I'm afraid it's going to cost me my marriage as well. I am so damn

> distraught, I am thinking of suicide. I have been abused in one way or

> another all of my life. I simply can not take one more of these episodes! He

> is scared to death of anyone the slightest bit aggressive, and he had a

> great upbringing! I don't know what I can do. Please help me. Somebody.

> Please.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Still,

I can relate so much to what your saying. I am a very non-confrontational

person. For the most part I make no waves in life even if MANY times it has

meant stifling my feeling of resentment and living with it for along time.

I too have people who have verbal attached me and I do just what you said

just freeze and let them. In the end it makes me feel victimized and then

pissed because I let them. Before I understood what was going on I would

buy self help book to help me learn how to stick up for my self..which

really didn't help much. I believe these people..can sense something in us

that we are easy prey..They can sense the weakness we have and they take

advantage of that. In regards to builders specifically..some have very bad

people skills to begin with,,they are use to dealing with construction

workers and from my experience that is not a very professional behaving

world:)

Please be gentle with yourself..you are not faulty..you are growing and

learning to behave in different ways. I know you are learning because you

put that boundary up with this builder by walking away! even at your

financial loss. Your husband I'm sorry to say seems very non assertive and

no confrontational as well. But you can't change him....you CAN and seems

like are already beginning to change YOU!. Don't give up....rest a bit...

regain your strength..then straighten your shoulder lift up your chin and

face the world with out letting it push you around!

Someone in another group suggested to me that I take some self defense

classes. It teaches you the self confidence we are missing. I am seriously

looking into this as soon as I get back to work and have the funds for

it..this may be an option for you as well.

Suicide is the worst thing you can do! Quite frankly it's a very cowardly

act..and hurts so many people. I know your intention isn't to cause others

pain. If you are still feeling this was please muster up all the strength

you have and call 911 or suicide prevention because if you are thinking this

way you are not at that moment in your right mind..and certainly would not

want to make such permanent decisions while you are momentarily not in your

right mind.

I send you Lots of Love and Prayers your way.

Please keep posting you will find soo much help here..you will be understood

here

Stefanie

>

>

> I have spilt ties from Nada and all family three years ago. I have done a

> lot of healing and growing, but this one thing keeps knocking me off of my

> feet. It seems that every once in a while, I run into someone that spews

> verbal venom at me. It's usually in a business situation. Most of the time

> when it happens, I am so totally stunned and taken aback that I don't say

> anything. The frequency of this has been occurring more and more. I am a

> soft spoken, nice, agreeable person, and can't for the life of me understand

> why this keeps happening! I try to look over our history to see if I did

> anything to antagonize them, and the answer is always no! I just am not like

> that. A few years ago when my hubby and I bought this house, the female

> builder was so mean! I didn't get half of the choices I wanted, because she

> was soabrasive to deal with. It made me hate the house, her, myself for not

> standing up to her better, and my husband for not coming to my defense. A

> few months a go, I tried to buy a new house, and went in with the intention

> of correcting any of the builder's(a different one) bad behavior at the

> start. Well she turned psycho too, and I set her straight. It was very shaky

> and we stressed every detail, wondering how it was gonna go minute to

> minute, when it happened again! This time was so bad! She said some horrible

> personal things to me, yelled at me, and talked down to me like I was an

> idiot. The entire time my husband sat there, and said nothing. I told her

> that her behavior was uncalled for, and then my husband continued on talking

> to her like it never happened! I stormed out. My husband folled behind me

> like a dog at my heels. I cancelled the house. By doing this, we are losing

> somewhere between $7000 and $9000 dollars! I signed the contract, it says I

> forfit the money. I simply can't let anyone treat me that way EVER again! My

> husband and I are on really shaky terms. We have been married 24 years, and

> he knows all about my abusive family history, yet will not take up for me,

> and I'm afraid it's going to cost me my marriage as well. I am so damn

> distraught, I am thinking of suicide. I have been abused in one way or

> another all of my life. I simply can not take one more of these episodes! He

> is scared to death of anyone the slightest bit aggressive, and he had a

> great upbringing! I don't know what I can do. Please help me. Somebody.

> Please.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

((((((((stilltooraw))))))))

If someone hits us and breaks our leg, we go get it taken care of properly by

the doctor so that the injury can heal straight and not give pain when we walk.

But when we have been wounded emotionally as children by our own parents and

other family of origin, somehow we feel ashamed about it and reluctant to seek

out a doctor to help us heal. Its not wrong or bad or an admission of weakness

or failure to seek help for the injuries you received as a child to your heart

and spirit and mind.

I hope you will look for a therapist who has experience treating the adult

survivors of child abuse, or the adult children of the personality disordered,

or the adult children of substance abusers. The psychological injuries

inflicted are pretty similar.

Meanwhile, we're here for you. We understand what growing up being emotionally,

or physically or sexually abused does to a person.

-Annie

>

> I have spilt ties from Nada and all family three years ago. I have done a lot

of healing and growing, but this one thing keeps knocking me off of my feet. It

seems that every once in a while, I run into someone that spews verbal venom at

me. It's usually in a business situation. Most of the time when it happens, I am

so totally stunned and taken aback that I don't say anything. The frequency of

this has been occurring more and more. I am a soft spoken, nice, agreeable

person, and can't for the life of me understand why this keeps happening! I try

to look over our history to see if I did anything to antagonize them, and the

answer is always no! I just am not like that. A few years ago when my hubby and

I bought this house, the female builder was so mean! I didn't get half of the

choices I wanted, because she was soabrasive to deal with. It made me hate the

house, her, myself for not standing up to her better, and my husband for not

coming to my defense. A few months a go, I tried to buy a new house, and went in

with the intention of correcting any of the builder's(a different one) bad

behavior at the start. Well she turned psycho too, and I set her straight. It

was very shaky and we stressed every detail, wondering how it was gonna go

minute to minute, when it happened again! This time was so bad! She said some

horrible personal things to me, yelled at me, and talked down to me like I was

an idiot. The entire time my husband sat there, and said nothing. I told her

that her behavior was uncalled for, and then my husband continued on talking to

her like it never happened! I stormed out. My husband folled behind me like a

dog at my heels. I cancelled the house. By doing this, we are losing somewhere

between $7000 and $9000 dollars! I signed the contract, it says I forfit the

money. I simply can't let anyone treat me that way EVER again! My husband and I

are on really shaky terms. We have been married 24 years, and he knows all about

my abusive family history, yet will not take up for me, and I'm afraid it's

going to cost me my marriage as well. I am so damn distraught, I am thinking of

suicide. I have been abused in one way or another all of my life. I simply can

not take one more of these episodes! He is scared to death of anyone the

slightest bit aggressive, and he had a great upbringing! I don't know what I can

do. Please help me. Somebody. Please.

>

[Guest guest]

I say 2 things:

1) Good for you for walking out.

2) Some people are just assholes. Put up your deflector sheilds and walk

out, get away, move on.

Can you sue them for the money? Maybe character assasination?

Hugs hugs hugs!

On Wed, Sep 8, 2010 at 9:18 AM, anuria67854 wrote:

>

>

> ((((((((stilltooraw))))))))

> If someone hits us and breaks our leg, we go get it taken care of properly

> by the doctor so that the injury can heal straight and not give pain when we

> walk.

>

> But when we have been wounded emotionally as children by our own parents

> and other family of origin, somehow we feel ashamed about it and reluctant

> to seek out a doctor to help us heal. Its not wrong or bad or an admission

> of weakness or failure to seek help for the injuries you received as a child

> to your heart and spirit and mind.

>

> I hope you will look for a therapist who has experience treating the adult

> survivors of child abuse, or the adult children of the personality

> disordered, or the adult children of substance abusers. The psychological

> injuries inflicted are pretty similar.

>

> Meanwhile, we're here for you. We understand what growing up being

> emotionally, or physically or sexually abused does to a person.

>

> -Annie

>

>

>

> >

> > I have spilt ties from Nada and all family three years ago. I have done a

> lot of healing and growing, but this one thing keeps knocking me off of my

> feet. It seems that every once in a while, I run into someone that spews

> verbal venom at me. It's usually in a business situation. Most of the time

> when it happens, I am so totally stunned and taken aback that I don't say

> anything. The frequency of this has been occurring more and more. I am a

> soft spoken, nice, agreeable person, and can't for the life of me understand

> why this keeps happening! I try to look over our history to see if I did

> anything to antagonize them, and the answer is always no! I just am not like

> that. A few years ago when my hubby and I bought this house, the female

> builder was so mean! I didn't get half of the choices I wanted, because she

> was soabrasive to deal with. It made me hate the house, her, myself for not

> standing up to her better, and my husband for not coming to my defense. A

> few months a go, I tried to buy a new house, and went in with the intention

> of correcting any of the builder's(a different one) bad behavior at the

> start. Well she turned psycho too, and I set her straight. It was very shaky

> and we stressed every detail, wondering how it was gonna go minute to

> minute, when it happened again! This time was so bad! She said some horrible

> personal things to me, yelled at me, and talked down to me like I was an

> idiot. The entire time my husband sat there, and said nothing. I told her

> that her behavior was uncalled for, and then my husband continued on talking

> to her like it never happened! I stormed out. My husband folled behind me

> like a dog at my heels. I cancelled the house. By doing this, we are losing

> somewhere between $7000 and $9000 dollars! I signed the contract, it says I

> forfit the money. I simply can't let anyone treat me that way EVER again! My

> husband and I are on really shaky terms. We have been married 24 years, and

> he knows all about my abusive family history, yet will not take up for me,

> and I'm afraid it's going to cost me my marriage as well. I am so damn

> distraught, I am thinking of suicide. I have been abused in one way or

> another all of my life. I simply can not take one more of these episodes! He

> is scared to death of anyone the slightest bit aggressive, and he had a

> great upbringing! I don't know what I can do. Please help me. Somebody.

> Please.

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I say 2 things:

1) Good for you for walking out.

2) Some people are just assholes. Put up your deflector sheilds and walk

out, get away, move on.

Can you sue them for the money? Maybe character assasination?

Hugs hugs hugs!

On Wed, Sep 8, 2010 at 9:18 AM, anuria67854 wrote:

>

>

> ((((((((stilltooraw))))))))

> If someone hits us and breaks our leg, we go get it taken care of properly

> by the doctor so that the injury can heal straight and not give pain when we

> walk.

>

> But when we have been wounded emotionally as children by our own parents

> and other family of origin, somehow we feel ashamed about it and reluctant

> to seek out a doctor to help us heal. Its not wrong or bad or an admission

> of weakness or failure to seek help for the injuries you received as a child

> to your heart and spirit and mind.

>

> I hope you will look for a therapist who has experience treating the adult

> survivors of child abuse, or the adult children of the personality

> disordered, or the adult children of substance abusers. The psychological

> injuries inflicted are pretty similar.

>

> Meanwhile, we're here for you. We understand what growing up being

> emotionally, or physically or sexually abused does to a person.

>

> -Annie

>

>

>

> >

> > I have spilt ties from Nada and all family three years ago. I have done a

> lot of healing and growing, but this one thing keeps knocking me off of my

> feet. It seems that every once in a while, I run into someone that spews

> verbal venom at me. It's usually in a business situation. Most of the time

> when it happens, I am so totally stunned and taken aback that I don't say

> anything. The frequency of this has been occurring more and more. I am a

> soft spoken, nice, agreeable person, and can't for the life of me understand

> why this keeps happening! I try to look over our history to see if I did

> anything to antagonize them, and the answer is always no! I just am not like

> that. A few years ago when my hubby and I bought this house, the female

> builder was so mean! I didn't get half of the choices I wanted, because she

> was soabrasive to deal with. It made me hate the house, her, myself for not

> standing up to her better, and my husband for not coming to my defense. A

> few months a go, I tried to buy a new house, and went in with the intention

> of correcting any of the builder's(a different one) bad behavior at the

> start. Well she turned psycho too, and I set her straight. It was very shaky

> and we stressed every detail, wondering how it was gonna go minute to

> minute, when it happened again! This time was so bad! She said some horrible

> personal things to me, yelled at me, and talked down to me like I was an

> idiot. The entire time my husband sat there, and said nothing. I told her

> that her behavior was uncalled for, and then my husband continued on talking

> to her like it never happened! I stormed out. My husband folled behind me

> like a dog at my heels. I cancelled the house. By doing this, we are losing

> somewhere between $7000 and $9000 dollars! I signed the contract, it says I

> forfit the money. I simply can't let anyone treat me that way EVER again! My

> husband and I are on really shaky terms. We have been married 24 years, and

> he knows all about my abusive family history, yet will not take up for me,

> and I'm afraid it's going to cost me my marriage as well. I am so damn

> distraught, I am thinking of suicide. I have been abused in one way or

> another all of my life. I simply can not take one more of these episodes! He

> is scared to death of anyone the slightest bit aggressive, and he had a

> great upbringing! I don't know what I can do. Please help me. Somebody.

> Please.

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I say 2 things:

1) Good for you for walking out.

2) Some people are just assholes. Put up your deflector sheilds and walk

out, get away, move on.

Can you sue them for the money? Maybe character assasination?

Hugs hugs hugs!

On Wed, Sep 8, 2010 at 9:18 AM, anuria67854 wrote:

>

>

> ((((((((stilltooraw))))))))

> If someone hits us and breaks our leg, we go get it taken care of properly

> by the doctor so that the injury can heal straight and not give pain when we

> walk.

>

> But when we have been wounded emotionally as children by our own parents

> and other family of origin, somehow we feel ashamed about it and reluctant

> to seek out a doctor to help us heal. Its not wrong or bad or an admission

> of weakness or failure to seek help for the injuries you received as a child

> to your heart and spirit and mind.

>

> I hope you will look for a therapist who has experience treating the adult

> survivors of child abuse, or the adult children of the personality

> disordered, or the adult children of substance abusers. The psychological

> injuries inflicted are pretty similar.

>

> Meanwhile, we're here for you. We understand what growing up being

> emotionally, or physically or sexually abused does to a person.

>

> -Annie

>

>

>

> >

> > I have spilt ties from Nada and all family three years ago. I have done a

> lot of healing and growing, but this one thing keeps knocking me off of my

> feet. It seems that every once in a while, I run into someone that spews

> verbal venom at me. It's usually in a business situation. Most of the time

> when it happens, I am so totally stunned and taken aback that I don't say

> anything. The frequency of this has been occurring more and more. I am a

> soft spoken, nice, agreeable person, and can't for the life of me understand

> why this keeps happening! I try to look over our history to see if I did

> anything to antagonize them, and the answer is always no! I just am not like

> that. A few years ago when my hubby and I bought this house, the female

> builder was so mean! I didn't get half of the choices I wanted, because she

> was soabrasive to deal with. It made me hate the house, her, myself for not

> standing up to her better, and my husband for not coming to my defense. A

> few months a go, I tried to buy a new house, and went in with the intention

> of correcting any of the builder's(a different one) bad behavior at the

> start. Well she turned psycho too, and I set her straight. It was very shaky

> and we stressed every detail, wondering how it was gonna go minute to

> minute, when it happened again! This time was so bad! She said some horrible

> personal things to me, yelled at me, and talked down to me like I was an

> idiot. The entire time my husband sat there, and said nothing. I told her

> that her behavior was uncalled for, and then my husband continued on talking

> to her like it never happened! I stormed out. My husband folled behind me

> like a dog at my heels. I cancelled the house. By doing this, we are losing

> somewhere between $7000 and $9000 dollars! I signed the contract, it says I

> forfit the money. I simply can't let anyone treat me that way EVER again! My

> husband and I are on really shaky terms. We have been married 24 years, and

> he knows all about my abusive family history, yet will not take up for me,

> and I'm afraid it's going to cost me my marriage as well. I am so damn

> distraught, I am thinking of suicide. I have been abused in one way or

> another all of my life. I simply can not take one more of these episodes! He

> is scared to death of anyone the slightest bit aggressive, and he had a

> great upbringing! I don't know what I can do. Please help me. Somebody.

> Please.

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Have you thought about hiring an attorney to deal with this builder instead?

It might save you $$ and grief.

Good luck.

Letty

> > >

> > > I have spilt ties from Nada and all family three years ago. I have done a

> > lot of healing and growing, but this one thing keeps knocking me off of my

> > feet. It seems that every once in a while, I run into someone that spews

> > verbal venom at me. It's usually in a business situation. Most of the time

> > when it happens, I am so totally stunned and taken aback that I don't say

> > anything. The frequency of this has been occurring more and more. I am a

> > soft spoken, nice, agreeable person, and can't for the life of me understand

> > why this keeps happening! I try to look over our history to see if I did

> > anything to antagonize them, and the answer is always no! I just am not like

> > that. A few years ago when my hubby and I bought this house, the female

> > builder was so mean! I didn't get half of the choices I wanted, because she

> > was soabrasive to deal with. It made me hate the house, her, myself for not

> > standing up to her better, and my husband for not coming to my defense. A

> > few months a go, I tried to buy a new house, and went in with the intention

> > of correcting any of the builder's(a different one) bad behavior at the

> > start. Well she turned psycho too, and I set her straight. It was very shaky

> > and we stressed every detail, wondering how it was gonna go minute to

> > minute, when it happened again! This time was so bad! She said some horrible

> > personal things to me, yelled at me, and talked down to me like I was an

> > idiot. The entire time my husband sat there, and said nothing. I told her

> > that her behavior was uncalled for, and then my husband continued on talking

> > to her like it never happened! I stormed out. My husband folled behind me

> > like a dog at my heels. I cancelled the house. By doing this, we are losing

> > somewhere between $7000 and $9000 dollars! I signed the contract, it says I

> > forfit the money. I simply can't let anyone treat me that way EVER again! My

> > husband and I are on really shaky terms. We have been married 24 years, and

> > he knows all about my abusive family history, yet will not take up for me,

> > and I'm afraid it's going to cost me my marriage as well. I am so damn

> > distraught, I am thinking of suicide. I have been abused in one way or

> > another all of my life. I simply can not take one more of these episodes! He

> > is scared to death of anyone the slightest bit aggressive, and he had a

> > great upbringing! I don't know what I can do. Please help me. Somebody.

> > Please.

> > >

> >

> >

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Have you thought about hiring an attorney to deal with this builder instead?

It might save you $$ and grief.

Good luck.

Letty

> > >

> > > I have spilt ties from Nada and all family three years ago. I have done a

> > lot of healing and growing, but this one thing keeps knocking me off of my

> > feet. It seems that every once in a while, I run into someone that spews

> > verbal venom at me. It's usually in a business situation. Most of the time

> > when it happens, I am so totally stunned and taken aback that I don't say

> > anything. The frequency of this has been occurring more and more. I am a

> > soft spoken, nice, agreeable person, and can't for the life of me understand

> > why this keeps happening! I try to look over our history to see if I did

> > anything to antagonize them, and the answer is always no! I just am not like

> > that. A few years ago when my hubby and I bought this house, the female

> > builder was so mean! I didn't get half of the choices I wanted, because she

> > was soabrasive to deal with. It made me hate the house, her, myself for not

> > standing up to her better, and my husband for not coming to my defense. A

> > few months a go, I tried to buy a new house, and went in with the intention

> > of correcting any of the builder's(a different one) bad behavior at the

> > start. Well she turned psycho too, and I set her straight. It was very shaky

> > and we stressed every detail, wondering how it was gonna go minute to

> > minute, when it happened again! This time was so bad! She said some horrible

> > personal things to me, yelled at me, and talked down to me like I was an

> > idiot. The entire time my husband sat there, and said nothing. I told her

> > that her behavior was uncalled for, and then my husband continued on talking

> > to her like it never happened! I stormed out. My husband folled behind me

> > like a dog at my heels. I cancelled the house. By doing this, we are losing

> > somewhere between $7000 and $9000 dollars! I signed the contract, it says I

> > forfit the money. I simply can't let anyone treat me that way EVER again! My

> > husband and I are on really shaky terms. We have been married 24 years, and

> > he knows all about my abusive family history, yet will not take up for me,

> > and I'm afraid it's going to cost me my marriage as well. I am so damn

> > distraught, I am thinking of suicide. I have been abused in one way or

> > another all of my life. I simply can not take one more of these episodes! He

> > is scared to death of anyone the slightest bit aggressive, and he had a

> > great upbringing! I don't know what I can do. Please help me. Somebody.

> > Please.

> > >

> >

> >

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Have you thought about hiring an attorney to deal with this builder instead?

It might save you $$ and grief.

Good luck.

Letty

> > >

> > > I have spilt ties from Nada and all family three years ago. I have done a

> > lot of healing and growing, but this one thing keeps knocking me off of my

> > feet. It seems that every once in a while, I run into someone that spews

> > verbal venom at me. It's usually in a business situation. Most of the time

> > when it happens, I am so totally stunned and taken aback that I don't say

> > anything. The frequency of this has been occurring more and more. I am a

> > soft spoken, nice, agreeable person, and can't for the life of me understand

> > why this keeps happening! I try to look over our history to see if I did

> > anything to antagonize them, and the answer is always no! I just am not like

> > that. A few years ago when my hubby and I bought this house, the female

> > builder was so mean! I didn't get half of the choices I wanted, because she

> > was soabrasive to deal with. It made me hate the house, her, myself for not

> > standing up to her better, and my husband for not coming to my defense. A

> > few months a go, I tried to buy a new house, and went in with the intention

> > of correcting any of the builder's(a different one) bad behavior at the

> > start. Well she turned psycho too, and I set her straight. It was very shaky

> > and we stressed every detail, wondering how it was gonna go minute to

> > minute, when it happened again! This time was so bad! She said some horrible

> > personal things to me, yelled at me, and talked down to me like I was an

> > idiot. The entire time my husband sat there, and said nothing. I told her

> > that her behavior was uncalled for, and then my husband continued on talking

> > to her like it never happened! I stormed out. My husband folled behind me

> > like a dog at my heels. I cancelled the house. By doing this, we are losing

> > somewhere between $7000 and $9000 dollars! I signed the contract, it says I

> > forfit the money. I simply can't let anyone treat me that way EVER again! My

> > husband and I are on really shaky terms. We have been married 24 years, and

> > he knows all about my abusive family history, yet will not take up for me,

> > and I'm afraid it's going to cost me my marriage as well. I am so damn

> > distraught, I am thinking of suicide. I have been abused in one way or

> > another all of my life. I simply can not take one more of these episodes! He

> > is scared to death of anyone the slightest bit aggressive, and he had a

> > great upbringing! I don't know what I can do. Please help me. Somebody.

> > Please.

> > >

> >

> >

> >

>

>

>