Class mate, possible ko

[Guest guest]

Hello,

Yet again I have a question. I am so sorry that I am so needy these days

On the first day of classes a student in one of my classes introduced

himself to me. Immediately it was clear that he was, for some reason,

focusing on or attaching to me. At first I though it was a hitting on me

type behavior and ignored it, just continues to speak politely to him. Now

I am wondering if his mother is BPD or other PD and he somehow saw the same

in me. He has that same desperate wants to share his life story thing going

on that I used to do. Just like I was he seems over eager to talk about his

life. Conversations with him are not at all normal. There is no back and

forth. He can completly change the subject back to his life such as " hey,

do you wanna know what I got for my birthday? " . All this does not strike me

as him having the PD though. More like I used to be-a desperate attempt to

hang on to anyone who is nice. It is so hard to explain this in writing.

Anyway, through a few conversations I have noticed he seems to be in total

fear of his mother. After he recently turned 21 he mentioned that he had a

beer on his birthday and that his mother would never let him off the hook if

she found out. That struck me as very controlling. I'm sure any mother

would not want their child to get wasted but 1 beer hardly seems worth that

amount of fear. Every conversation he mentions his mother and it always

sounds the same--controlling.

So, Is there anything I can do to help him? I want to open the door for him

to look into BPD or just general abusive and contolling behaviors and see

that this is not ok(if it is as I perceive). I don't want to come off as

intruding and push him away. Am I just over thinking this? Should I

broach the subject? How?