Guest guest Posted September 10, 2010 Report Share Posted September 10, 2010 another one: " You are what and who I say you are. Any and all traits and characteristics you may have are determinable only by me and subject to revision at my whim. When I contradict myself it is not because I am lying but because you are crazy and are making things up that never happened 5 minutes ago. Audio is faked, photos are 'shopped, and video is doctored. There you go again with your stories. " > > Hello, > > I could use some help. Growing up the rules of living with nada were not > stated verbally but understood. I am having a hard time putting them into > words. Can you think of any rules that a BPD person would create if they > spoke them out loud? The most I can come up with is " mother always comes > first " . Thanks. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 10, 2010 Report Share Posted September 10, 2010 When nada is upset, all time must stop to hear her out, until she is satisfied and calmed down. Nada's feelings MATTER. When you are upset, it's just stupid and amusing. > > Hello, > > I could use some help. Growing up the rules of living with nada were not > stated verbally but understood. I am having a hard time putting them into > words. Can you think of any rules that a BPD person would create if they > spoke them out loud? The most I can come up with is " mother always comes > first " . Thanks. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 10, 2010 Report Share Posted September 10, 2010 (humbly submitting another one): " Your mission in life,which you chose to accept simply by being my child,is to make *me* feel good or better about *me*--even when or especially when that involves making *you* feel bad or worse about *you*. " > > Hello, > > I could use some help. Growing up the rules of living with nada were not > stated verbally but understood. I am having a hard time putting them into > words. Can you think of any rules that a BPD person would create if they > spoke them out loud? The most I can come up with is " mother always comes > first " . Thanks. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 10, 2010 Report Share Posted September 10, 2010 (humbly submitting another one): " Your mission in life,which you chose to accept simply by being my child,is to make *me* feel good or better about *me*--even when or especially when that involves making *you* feel bad or worse about *you*. " > > Hello, > > I could use some help. Growing up the rules of living with nada were not > stated verbally but understood. I am having a hard time putting them into > words. Can you think of any rules that a BPD person would create if they > spoke them out loud? The most I can come up with is " mother always comes > first " . Thanks. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 10, 2010 Report Share Posted September 10, 2010 You will always be required to make a choice: You can pick ME or you can pick HIM or HER or THEM. But when I demand you choose you must decide. Remember: BOTH is not an option. And the bpd law states that picking ME is your only acceptable choice and all other choices will be punished by accusations of disloyalty and other foul means. Sent from my blueberry. On Sep 10, 2010, at 8:28 PM, Simpson wrote: > Hello, > > I could use some help. Growing up the rules of living with nada were > not > stated verbally but understood. I am having a hard time putting them > into > words. Can you think of any rules that a BPD person would create if > they > spoke them out loud? The most I can come up with is " mother always > comes > first " . Thanks. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 10, 2010 Report Share Posted September 10, 2010 You will always be required to make a choice: You can pick ME or you can pick HIM or HER or THEM. But when I demand you choose you must decide. Remember: BOTH is not an option. And the bpd law states that picking ME is your only acceptable choice and all other choices will be punished by accusations of disloyalty and other foul means. Sent from my blueberry. On Sep 10, 2010, at 8:28 PM, Simpson wrote: > Hello, > > I could use some help. Growing up the rules of living with nada were > not > stated verbally but understood. I am having a hard time putting them > into > words. Can you think of any rules that a BPD person would create if > they > spoke them out loud? The most I can come up with is " mother always > comes > first " . Thanks. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 10, 2010 Report Share Posted September 10, 2010 You will always be required to make a choice: You can pick ME or you can pick HIM or HER or THEM. But when I demand you choose you must decide. Remember: BOTH is not an option. And the bpd law states that picking ME is your only acceptable choice and all other choices will be punished by accusations of disloyalty and other foul means. Sent from my blueberry. On Sep 10, 2010, at 8:28 PM, Simpson wrote: > Hello, > > I could use some help. Growing up the rules of living with nada were > not > stated verbally but understood. I am having a hard time putting them > into > words. Can you think of any rules that a BPD person would create if > they > spoke them out loud? The most I can come up with is " mother always > comes > first " . Thanks. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 10, 2010 Report Share Posted September 10, 2010 Here's one: " You exist solely to support my existence. " The end. > > Hello, > > I could use some help. Growing up the rules of living with nada were not > stated verbally but understood. I am having a hard time putting them into > words. Can you think of any rules that a BPD person would create if they > spoke them out loud? The most I can come up with is " mother always comes > first " . Thanks. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 10, 2010 Report Share Posted September 10, 2010 Here's one: " You exist solely to support my existence. " The end. > > Hello, > > I could use some help. Growing up the rules of living with nada were not > stated verbally but understood. I am having a hard time putting them into > words. Can you think of any rules that a BPD person would create if they > spoke them out loud? The most I can come up with is " mother always comes > first " . Thanks. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2010 Report Share Posted September 11, 2010 These are all brilliant " BPD rules " and very on target. I humbly submit a " cream of condensed bpd/npd soup " version: " Its Always All About Me. " -Annie > > > > Hello, > > > > I could use some help. Growing up the rules of living with nada were not > > stated verbally but understood. I am having a hard time putting them into > > words. Can you think of any rules that a BPD person would create if they > > spoke them out loud? The most I can come up with is " mother always comes > > first " . Thanks. > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2010 Report Share Posted September 11, 2010 Follow my rules. I did NOT say XYZ was a rule! I said XYZ was a rule. You're a horrible kid because you don't follow the rules. That's not a rule. No, I didn't tell you that rule 5 minutes ago, you're insane as well as disobedient. All you have to do is follow the rules. What are the rules? Well, if you don't know, you're stupid as well as insane. I said follow my rules. That's not a rule, you made that up. No, I didn't tell you that was a rule--you're mistaken. The rule is obviously do XYZ, not ABC. Who told you that was a rule? You're trying to con me!! You know very well the rule is ABC and NOT XYZ. How dare you try to fool me--you sure think you're smart, don't you? I can't believe how sneaky you are at your age. You clearly have no conscience. It must be your worthless father's genes. I think he's showing signs of psychosis. Okay, I think I've made my point. Great question, though. > > Hello, > > I could use some help. Growing up the rules of living with nada were not > stated verbally but understood. I am having a hard time putting them into > words. Can you think of any rules that a BPD person would create if they > spoke them out loud? The most I can come up with is " mother always comes > first " . Thanks. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2010 Report Share Posted September 11, 2010 Follow my rules. I did NOT say XYZ was a rule! I said XYZ was a rule. You're a horrible kid because you don't follow the rules. That's not a rule. No, I didn't tell you that rule 5 minutes ago, you're insane as well as disobedient. All you have to do is follow the rules. What are the rules? Well, if you don't know, you're stupid as well as insane. I said follow my rules. That's not a rule, you made that up. No, I didn't tell you that was a rule--you're mistaken. The rule is obviously do XYZ, not ABC. Who told you that was a rule? You're trying to con me!! You know very well the rule is ABC and NOT XYZ. How dare you try to fool me--you sure think you're smart, don't you? I can't believe how sneaky you are at your age. You clearly have no conscience. It must be your worthless father's genes. I think he's showing signs of psychosis. Okay, I think I've made my point. Great question, though. > > Hello, > > I could use some help. Growing up the rules of living with nada were not > stated verbally but understood. I am having a hard time putting them into > words. Can you think of any rules that a BPD person would create if they > spoke them out loud? The most I can come up with is " mother always comes > first " . Thanks. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2010 Report Share Posted September 11, 2010 Follow my rules. I did NOT say XYZ was a rule! I said XYZ was a rule. You're a horrible kid because you don't follow the rules. That's not a rule. No, I didn't tell you that rule 5 minutes ago, you're insane as well as disobedient. All you have to do is follow the rules. What are the rules? Well, if you don't know, you're stupid as well as insane. I said follow my rules. That's not a rule, you made that up. No, I didn't tell you that was a rule--you're mistaken. The rule is obviously do XYZ, not ABC. Who told you that was a rule? You're trying to con me!! You know very well the rule is ABC and NOT XYZ. How dare you try to fool me--you sure think you're smart, don't you? I can't believe how sneaky you are at your age. You clearly have no conscience. It must be your worthless father's genes. I think he's showing signs of psychosis. Okay, I think I've made my point. Great question, though. > > Hello, > > I could use some help. Growing up the rules of living with nada were not > stated verbally but understood. I am having a hard time putting them into > words. Can you think of any rules that a BPD person would create if they > spoke them out loud? The most I can come up with is " mother always comes > first " . Thanks. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2010 Report Share Posted September 11, 2010 This is one I felt many times " I'm never wrong..or have any reason to feel sorry " ..You just twist things around Stefanie On Fri, Sep 10, 2010 at 8:28 PM, Simpson wrote: > > > Hello, > > I could use some help. Growing up the rules of living with nada were not > stated verbally but understood. I am having a hard time putting them into > words. Can you think of any rules that a BPD person would create if they > spoke them out loud? The most I can come up with is " mother always comes > first " . Thanks. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2010 Report Share Posted September 11, 2010 This is one I felt many times " I'm never wrong..or have any reason to feel sorry " ..You just twist things around Stefanie On Fri, Sep 10, 2010 at 8:28 PM, Simpson wrote: > > > Hello, > > I could use some help. Growing up the rules of living with nada were not > stated verbally but understood. I am having a hard time putting them into > words. Can you think of any rules that a BPD person would create if they > spoke them out loud? The most I can come up with is " mother always comes > first " . Thanks. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2010 Report Share Posted September 11, 2010 " Be what I need you to be, when I need you to be it. " " Don't cross me, if you do you will pay dearly. " " I am right. You are wrong and an idiot for speaking at all. " " Open up to me, but do not be hurt when I judge you. " Interesting to think about, and try to list in the fashion of rules. These are not written concisely, but I think you get the idea. > > > > > > > Hello, > > > > I could use some help. Growing up the rules of living with nada were not > > stated verbally but understood. I am having a hard time putting them into > > words. Can you think of any rules that a BPD person would create if they > > spoke them out loud? The most I can come up with is " mother always comes > > first " . Thanks. > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2010 Report Share Posted September 11, 2010 " Be what I need you to be, when I need you to be it. " " Don't cross me, if you do you will pay dearly. " " I am right. You are wrong and an idiot for speaking at all. " " Open up to me, but do not be hurt when I judge you. " Interesting to think about, and try to list in the fashion of rules. These are not written concisely, but I think you get the idea. > > > > > > > Hello, > > > > I could use some help. Growing up the rules of living with nada were not > > stated verbally but understood. I am having a hard time putting them into > > words. Can you think of any rules that a BPD person would create if they > > spoke them out loud? The most I can come up with is " mother always comes > > first " . Thanks. > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2010 Report Share Posted September 11, 2010 " Be what I need you to be, when I need you to be it. " " Don't cross me, if you do you will pay dearly. " " I am right. You are wrong and an idiot for speaking at all. " " Open up to me, but do not be hurt when I judge you. " Interesting to think about, and try to list in the fashion of rules. These are not written concisely, but I think you get the idea. > > > > > > > Hello, > > > > I could use some help. Growing up the rules of living with nada were not > > stated verbally but understood. I am having a hard time putting them into > > words. Can you think of any rules that a BPD person would create if they > > spoke them out loud? The most I can come up with is " mother always comes > > first " . Thanks. > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 11, 2010 Report Share Posted September 11, 2010 Irene, I've lived through that crap from my two siblings my entire life...they wishing I'd never been born, them blaming all the dysfunction in the family on me. I was a baby when they were teenagers. All this fear of spoiling the baby and the others won't get as much. Therefore, give the baby nothing. Blah, blah, blah.. After listening to this crap all of my life from my narcissistic siblings, I finally realized that their feelings they were displaying of " She'll get everything, she's spoiled " and etc were not developmentally appropriate sibling rivalry for their ages. If they had been a year or two older than myself, maybe there would be some jealousy. But, like I said I was a baby when they were teens...which, would have meant they didn't care if the baby got a lollipop to quiet her when they didn't get one. They would have been giving the baby the lollipop. They used me for years to get extra gifts, money, etc from mom. They've used it long into adulthood until I had enough. In fact when my mom told me that she had my share towards a new home when I'd just gotten married, she called the next day to say that my sister didn't think that was fair as she needed the money more (she'd had help already with several homes of her own). I never got my share. Finally, I told them that I'm basically done with relationships with either of them. Then, they tried excuse their treatment of me by pulling the same crap again on me... " You were spoiled, you always have more " Excuse me? I had NONE! I told them to grow up and get over it. It was a lie anyways. And I'M DONE! I told my brother that he'd never been a brother to me. I'll tell my sister the same when it comes up. They haven't. They've been sheer enemies taking even the smallest portion that was alloted for me in the name of fairness. > > > > > > Hello, > > > > > > I could use some help. Growing up the rules of living with nada were not > > > stated verbally but understood. I am having a hard time putting them into > > > words. Can you think of any rules that a BPD person would create if they > > > spoke them out loud? The most I can come up with is " mother always comes > > > first " . Thanks. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2010 Report Share Posted September 13, 2010 Wow I like this topic! I'm pretty sure my nada had every single one of these rules! How about: Nothing is ever my fault, and don't even THINK about suggesting, or even implying that something is. Reality is only what I say it is, there is no objective reality. Everything is your fault, even your own existence. I can read your mind, and this is what it's thinking. Casey > > My mum had quite a few spoken rules: > > The only person in the house allowed to have privacy in this house is me (even now if I visited I can guarantee she would go through my handbag, suitcase etc when Im not around. Just because she can.) > > You are not allowed to be different from your twin sister - no different friends, no different grades, no different opinions, and if one of you does something to annoy me - both get punished for it. You are two halves OF THE SAME PERSON and will be treated as such. Both of you only have one soul between you. > > You will never talk about home life to anyone. Ever. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2010 Report Share Posted September 13, 2010 Ooooh, Casey. That last one really hit me. How true. > > > > My mum had quite a few spoken rules: > > > > The only person in the house allowed to have privacy in this house is me (even now if I visited I can guarantee she would go through my handbag, suitcase etc when Im not around. Just because she can.) > > > > You are not allowed to be different from your twin sister - no different friends, no different grades, no different opinions, and if one of you does something to annoy me - both get punished for it. You are two halves OF THE SAME PERSON and will be treated as such. Both of you only have one soul between you. > > > > You will never talk about home life to anyone. Ever. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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