Re: How do you handle this?

[Guest guest]

Eliza, if you can, go see your stepmother while she is still alive. Both my parents died suddenly, leaving much unsaid between us. Go to her.

Love always ends in grief -- the more love, the more grief. Embrace your grief -- cherish that pain. The depth of your grief is exactly equal to the depth of your love. Let yourself really feel it.

Harry

To: IntuitiveEating_Support From: elizahawkDate: Sun, 31 Jan 2010 17:47:26 +0000Subject: How do you handle this?

Death in family or friends. How do you handle the death without turn to foods to emotion comfort? This is something had hit me so hard. I have had 3 parents. 2 of them already passed away long time ago that I had no longer feel urge of the foods. Now, past few days I have had found out about my stepmother who is old woman and she is dying. I feel like I want to just eating until make myself feel sick. Yet I have not start it yet. I admit I am in debating which side would I likely win my intuiting eating or emotional eating? So, here my question. How do you deal with this death in family or friends? Eliza

[Guest guest]

Eliza, if you can, go see your stepmother while she is still alive. Both my parents died suddenly, leaving much unsaid between us. Go to her.

Love always ends in grief -- the more love, the more grief. Embrace your grief -- cherish that pain. The depth of your grief is exactly equal to the depth of your love. Let yourself really feel it.

Harry

To: IntuitiveEating_Support From: elizahawkDate: Sun, 31 Jan 2010 17:47:26 +0000Subject: How do you handle this?

Death in family or friends. How do you handle the death without turn to foods to emotion comfort? This is something had hit me so hard. I have had 3 parents. 2 of them already passed away long time ago that I had no longer feel urge of the foods. Now, past few days I have had found out about my stepmother who is old woman and she is dying. I feel like I want to just eating until make myself feel sick. Yet I have not start it yet. I admit I am in debating which side would I likely win my intuiting eating or emotional eating? So, here my question. How do you deal with this death in family or friends? Eliza

[Guest guest]

Eliza, if you can, go see your stepmother while she is still alive. Both my parents died suddenly, leaving much unsaid between us. Go to her.

Love always ends in grief -- the more love, the more grief. Embrace your grief -- cherish that pain. The depth of your grief is exactly equal to the depth of your love. Let yourself really feel it.

Harry

To: IntuitiveEating_Support From: elizahawkDate: Sun, 31 Jan 2010 17:47:26 +0000Subject: How do you handle this?

Death in family or friends. How do you handle the death without turn to foods to emotion comfort? This is something had hit me so hard. I have had 3 parents. 2 of them already passed away long time ago that I had no longer feel urge of the foods. Now, past few days I have had found out about my stepmother who is old woman and she is dying. I feel like I want to just eating until make myself feel sick. Yet I have not start it yet. I admit I am in debating which side would I likely win my intuiting eating or emotional eating? So, here my question. How do you deal with this death in family or friends? Eliza

[Guest guest]

Thank you everyone for give me various reasons. Yesterday one of my oldest

nephew come by to give me a ride to see my stepmother. She didn't look too good

but she was so happy to see me after a long while since last we had seen each

other. Along with some of those stepsister and stepbrothers. Believe it or not

my stepmother had 18 kids of her own before my sister and I come into the family

picture. So, I was not only see my stepmother but also some of them as well.

Once again thank you all for help out. Though today I end up very sick with some

type of stomach flu I think. At least I didn't binging with foods instead of.

Eliza

[Guest guest]

Eliza,

I am so sorry to hear of this recent sad, sad news for you. I know I will

(would) be devistated when the time comes for both my mother and step-mother's

time is coming. We are definately here for you.

I have a little different opionion on the matter. I do think that there are

times that food does help, but it is very temporary and eventually the sad

feelings will still be there and need to be dealt with. But in the here and

now, if you need to turn to food, give yourself permission to do so and do it as

mindfully as you can. I find that when I am mindful and give myself permission

to eat for emotional reasons and I know fully well what I am doing and why, I

really realize that it doesn't really help and I do end up just sitting with the

feelings.

I would highly recommend lots and lots of self care. Do whatever you need to do

to fill yourself up. Baths help me, lighting candles, journaling, sleeping etc.

Maybe writing a letter to your step mother (even if you never give it to her)

expressing how much she means to you and how sad you are about her illness and

that she will soon be leaving you.

And have heart, when it is time for her to go, know that you will be with her

again in heaven.

Take care of yourself,

Alana

>

> Death in family or friends. How do you handle the death without turn to foods

to emotion comfort? This is something had hit me so hard. I have had 3

parents. 2 of them already passed away long time ago that I had no longer feel

urge of the foods. Now, past few days I have had found out about my stepmother

who is old woman and she is dying. I feel like I want to just eating until make

myself feel sick. Yet I have not start it yet. I admit I am in debating which

side would I likely win my intuiting eating or emotional eating?

>

> So, here my question. How do you deal with this death in family or friends?

>

> Eliza

>

[Guest guest]

Eliza,

I am so sorry to hear of this recent sad, sad news for you. I know I will

(would) be devistated when the time comes for both my mother and step-mother's

time is coming. We are definately here for you.

I have a little different opionion on the matter. I do think that there are

times that food does help, but it is very temporary and eventually the sad

feelings will still be there and need to be dealt with. But in the here and

now, if you need to turn to food, give yourself permission to do so and do it as

mindfully as you can. I find that when I am mindful and give myself permission

to eat for emotional reasons and I know fully well what I am doing and why, I

really realize that it doesn't really help and I do end up just sitting with the

feelings.

I would highly recommend lots and lots of self care. Do whatever you need to do

to fill yourself up. Baths help me, lighting candles, journaling, sleeping etc.

Maybe writing a letter to your step mother (even if you never give it to her)

expressing how much she means to you and how sad you are about her illness and

that she will soon be leaving you.

And have heart, when it is time for her to go, know that you will be with her

again in heaven.

Take care of yourself,

Alana

>

> Death in family or friends. How do you handle the death without turn to foods

to emotion comfort? This is something had hit me so hard. I have had 3

parents. 2 of them already passed away long time ago that I had no longer feel

urge of the foods. Now, past few days I have had found out about my stepmother

who is old woman and she is dying. I feel like I want to just eating until make

myself feel sick. Yet I have not start it yet. I admit I am in debating which

side would I likely win my intuiting eating or emotional eating?

>

> So, here my question. How do you deal with this death in family or friends?

>

> Eliza

>

[Guest guest]

Eliza,

I am so sorry to hear of this recent sad, sad news for you. I know I will

(would) be devistated when the time comes for both my mother and step-mother's

time is coming. We are definately here for you.

I have a little different opionion on the matter. I do think that there are

times that food does help, but it is very temporary and eventually the sad

feelings will still be there and need to be dealt with. But in the here and

now, if you need to turn to food, give yourself permission to do so and do it as

mindfully as you can. I find that when I am mindful and give myself permission

to eat for emotional reasons and I know fully well what I am doing and why, I

really realize that it doesn't really help and I do end up just sitting with the

feelings.

I would highly recommend lots and lots of self care. Do whatever you need to do

to fill yourself up. Baths help me, lighting candles, journaling, sleeping etc.

Maybe writing a letter to your step mother (even if you never give it to her)

expressing how much she means to you and how sad you are about her illness and

that she will soon be leaving you.

And have heart, when it is time for her to go, know that you will be with her

again in heaven.

Take care of yourself,

Alana

>

> Death in family or friends. How do you handle the death without turn to foods

to emotion comfort? This is something had hit me so hard. I have had 3

parents. 2 of them already passed away long time ago that I had no longer feel

urge of the foods. Now, past few days I have had found out about my stepmother

who is old woman and she is dying. I feel like I want to just eating until make

myself feel sick. Yet I have not start it yet. I admit I am in debating which

side would I likely win my intuiting eating or emotional eating?

>

> So, here my question. How do you deal with this death in family or friends?

>

> Eliza

>