Re: Flying monkeys

[Guest guest]

My nephew was a Scout; I have a lot of respect for what the organization teaches

young people about becoming self-reliant, responsible, and service-oriented. I

think perhaps what Girlscout may have meant in a tongue-in-cheek way is that IF

those with bpd/npd/aspd formed a " club " in which honorary awards could be earned

for mastering specific tasks ( " Basic Guilt " , " Intermediate Triangulating " ,

" Advanced Emotional Manipulation " , etc.) the pd people would figure out a way to

cheat or to foist the work onto someone else and then claim the honorary reward

as though they'd done the work themselves. Sort of the " Anti-Scouts. "

I too got a weird vibe from the idea that Riah's brother feels that its OK to

send Riah unsolicited pornographic images. If that was happening to me, I'd

think I'd consider blocking calls from his number. Ew.

-Annie

> > > > >

> > > > > I don't know whether to laugh, cry, or just smack my forehead into my

> > > > palm.

> > > > > As I mentioned I haven't spoken to Nada since mid-June. She has

called,

> > > I

> > > > just don't answer. I haven't specifically told her I don't want contact.

> > > > > My brother, who is the middle child and a male, is the favorite. He

> > > just

> > > > got out of prison for car theft 2 months ago. I have cautiously been in

> > > > contact with him.

> > > > > I called him yesterday in response to a filthy image being text

> > > messaged

> > > > to me, in order to ask him not to do that ever again.

> > > > >

> > > > > His response was " have you talked to mom? " He knows I haven't and

don't

> > > > want to. He tells me she has a staph infection that she thought was

> > > breast

> > > > cancer and has moved from Texas to Colorado without telling anyone

> > > because

> > > > the humidity was making the staph worse.

> > > > >

> > > > > If you just had to re-read that to try to see if there is any sense in

> > > it

> > > > don't worry there isn't.

> > > > >

> > > > > Ok he then says she believes the staph has infected her brain.

> > > > > He is very concerned and wants me to be too.

> > > > >

> > > > > At this point I decided if she does or does not have a staph infection

> > > > there isn't anything I can do about it and I still do not wish to speak

> > > to

> > > > her.

> > > > >

> > > > > This afternoon I got a call from an unknown number. I answered (which

> > > is

> > > > rare because those are often Nada) and it was my Aunt, Nada's sister.

She

> > > > too ask if I've been in touch with my mother. I gently tell her no and

> > > > remind her that we had had that discussion a few months ago. She says

she

> > > > talked to her and she is concerned because Nada's boyfriend dumped her

> > > due

> > > > to her not getting a biopsy on the suspected breast cancer. Nada has

> > > > apparently told her she has " been in a different universe the past

month,

> > > > but it's ok because it's a happy one " This concerns my aunt greatly,

> > > along

> > > > with the medical concern. My Aunt also says Nada has gone to Colorado to

> > > see

> > > > a boyfriend from 25 years ago. Nada is infamous for her bed-jumping so

> > > this

> > > > is not a surprise.

> > > > > I again tell my Aunt that while this is troubling I do not wish to be

> > > > involved.

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > > I explained this to my SO who tells me he thinks I will buckle and

talk

> > > > to Nada. His lack of confidence is completely irritating.

> > > > >

> > > > > Then tonight AGAIN my brother calls/ texts/ calls until I text back.

> > > > > He says now Nada thinks she has a parasite from eating pork and " she

> > > > hasn't told us because she didn't want us to worry. " My response was she

> > > > needs to see a doctor. He wanted me to call so we can talk. I turned my

> > > > phone off.

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > > My head is spinning. Part of me feels that old responsibility to rush

> > > in

> > > > and get her medical care. Part of me wonders if this is enough to have

> > > her

> > > > committed. (I know it's not) Most of all, I'm just angry. I feel like

> > > this

> > > > is a test to check my resolve on going NC.

> > > > > I hate that my SO said I will talk to her, when in conversations it

> > > > sounds like he believes I shouldn't.

> > > > >

> > > > > I'm not really sure what to do here. Any thoughts are welcome.

> > > > >

> > > > > Riah

> > > > >

> > > >

> > > >