Birthday present (check)

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Hello,

I have a whole new dilemma I just cannot decide on. Today a birthday card

arrived for my older daughter whose birthday is on Sunday. There was no

return address. When I opened it it was from nada (who has NC with my

children and I). There is a fifty dollar check made out to DD. I have no

idea what I should do. I never thought nada would mail a gift due to her

insistence on seeing people receive gifts from her. We have decided how to

handle it if she shows up but not this. First of all, I don't even think

the check can be cashed. How would I convince the bank to cash a check in

someone else's name? DD can't confirm who she is. If I keep it and

cannot(or choose not) cash it I am leaving her bank account with a check out

but not cleared(perfect reason for her to try and contact us-to ask about

it). If I send it back she will probably fly off the handle(how dare I not

give that money to DD, it's hers ect) and try to make contact/show

up/possible use it as evidence that DD is being " mistreated " ). Part of me

feels that it is DD's and I should not keep it from her but I know it will

be very confusing for her when she gets old enough to understand why she

gets gifts from grandma but cannot see her. I would not want to lie to her

because if nada shows up or sneaks contact with DD then I will be the " bad

guy " . Help.