Re: Re:the weight of the guilt

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Vent, whine, do it!!! That's what this group is for. Let it out!

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> Riah I totally get the feeling you are going through. When I recently

> tried to start up some boundaries with my mom, after first freaking out --

> she

> then blamed her irrational / inexplicable behavior on black mold poisonin

> g. It was for me as well the first time she had admitted that there might

> be some abnormal behaviors there...which is kind of weird and new to me in

> itself. I've been in the mother role for a long time, and the guilt for me

> is immense. I don't have good advice, I am new to all of this and therapy

> and just wanted to say I feel your pain on this...!! I guess for me it's

> been helpful when people have told me that I am enabling this behavior

> which

> isn't really helping her at all. You might be in the same situation?

> Maybe it will make you feel better to know that you are actually HELPING

> her

> by disallowing the " crazy " in your life any more?

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> Best,

> ~Star

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