Re: Re: spoiling for a fight

September 14, 2010

Goodness, , same here on that pointing out reality thing! My family will

swear up and down that I just love a good fight, when in reality arguments and

fights tear me up internally.

That's not to say I don't still get in them...much more so in the past,

especially online. Since my profession involves childrearing, there's a lot of

debates that happen.

I think at the heart it is repetition compulsion...we want so badly to " do it

right " that we seek out (sometimes unconsciously) situations (even people) to

retry the argument with.

Heck, even when I try to avoid it I manage to end up with people who (literally)

stalk my comments (esp on facebook) to try and pick a fight. It's tough,

especially when I care deeply about the issue!

Ninera

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> Subject: Re: spoiling for a fight

> Date: Tuesday, September 14, 2010, 10:17 AM

> Joe and Felicia, thanks for your

> responses. Nice to know I'm not the only one.

> You know the funny part is that I hardly ever win or

> convince anyone of anything - ever. I'm stepping away

> though nothing good comes from it.

>

> A memory spark here...Joe what they said about you arguing

> with a stop sign, my FOO would say that I was very

> argumentative when I was a kid. But really I was just

> pointing out reality when they said crazy untrue

> things...they found this " argumentative " and rude.

> Maybe that's where it all started. Hmmmm.

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