Re : Re: Avoiding the Mirror?

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My key to many calm happy days in a row is keeping an eye on that internal dialogue, too.

I can feel a big difference in my level of energy and joy of life. ( Eating and weight are positively influenced also).

I tend to criticize myself when I pass a mirror so I decide to consciously pay myself a compliment EACH time. I replace that negative judgemental voice by my kinder voice AND the voices of all those that have sincerely paid me a compliment. Somebody just suggests you should blow yourself a kiss.

Have a lovely day,

Martha

De : Alana À : IntuitiveEating_Support Envoyé le : Mar 1 mars 2011, 11h 35min 25sObjet : Re: Avoiding the Mirror?

I really like your poem!When I first read the original post about avoiding mirrors I sat on that thought for a while. I kind of bothered me. Because I agree with you, we have to change our perception and our thought processes. I don't particularly like seeing myself in a mirror or a glass as I'm walking by a window. But I really try to pay attention to what my thoughts are about my body. And then I try to find something nice I can say to myself rather than things like "god you look fat!". Instead I try to say things like "wow! Those workouts are really starting to pay off - You are looking fiiiiinnnnne! Look how much firmer you look!". I also thought about how putting lotion on my body helps me to learn to love my body. I think I read about this therapy somewhere. But putting a nice lotion all over your naked body can be a loving act in itself - maybe even after a nice, relaxing soak in the bathtub.And I so agree with doing away with

the fashion magazines. They so screw with our minds, particularly the ones with the fad diets. They so drive the diet mentality and the mentality that there is something wrong with us. We are beautiful just the way we are! God loves us just the way we are! We were created in his image!check out http://operationbeautiful.com/Alana--- In IntuitiveEating_Support , "J. Sommerkorn" wrote:>> Hi Deandra,> > I was there for a while... avoiding looking or really touching my body. Now I > work to see that my body IS beautiful and so is yours. You need to change your > mind and how it perceieves. All of us in my opinion, have diseased self >

perceptions based on a lifetime of media and social bombardment which is soooo > contextual. What helped me was to stop reading magazines, stop most mainstream > crap and instead starting looking at body and fat aceptance blogs and Fatshion > blogs... and also art! lots and lots of art... during this "reprogramming" > experience I noticed that I could LOOK at myself for the first time and realize: > 1. that how I perceieved myself was totally distorted and not reality and 2. > that I am lovely as I am. no ifs, buts, exceptions... its an ongoing process but > trust me making the effort to "change the channel" to one where you are > beautiful and whole just the way you ARE and not the way you "should be".> > That dear ones actually... I wrote a poem about acceptence and for my sisters > who struggle with it.... i hope you like it.> > MetaSyndromes> >

> Please stop telling me about your New Year’s Resolutions. There is no pride in > your shame> As if this conversation were about how you are lacking, how you think I might > actually look on in> Approval when you tell me you have lost weight or going to or maybe how> Management scares you with Metabolic Syndrome and you should jump on board with > their plan.> > Cause I wanna teach you about how lovely you are. like> a kitten like a cloud at dawn like the rolling sea…are you gonna tell me those > waves are too fat? The Moon too rounded? That boulder afflicted with too much > lump?> > Cause I won’t give you… approval for a maybeâ€"someday you… What.> Surprised? you get no smile. no head nod. no glib remark about lunch’s > largesse…nu uh!> How DARE you believe yourself to be anything

besides the Perfect Now-ness of > You?> > While you are busy with that madness. I whisper sweet dalliances to your body, > a terrorist perhaps in your time of brainwashing but really I like to call > myself> the freedom fighter for> your soul.> > > > > > > > > ________________________________> > To: IntuitiveEating_Support > Sent: Thu, February 24, 2011 9:28:25 PM> Subject: Avoiding the Mirror?> > > Hello all!> > I've noticed that the more I glance in the mirror, the more I scrutinize, the > more body areas I find fault with, the lower my

self-esteem goes. > > > There's nothing wrong with my body. It allows me to move and get where I need to > go everyday; my heart pumps my blood, and my lungs take in the oxygen needed to > keep my metabolic processes going. > > > At the same time I cannot get past the, "you could look better." "You're small, > but not small enough," thoughts that plague me.> > It's as if there's an angel and devil inside my head and the devil has the lead. > Well I want the angel to crush the devil with sugary sweet thoughts and send it > into a diabetic coma!> > So I figured if I avoid the mirror for a while or at the very least no more than > a quick glance to make sure my clothes match, that I could rebuild my love for > my body as it is without all the judgment by not making it the focus of my life > everyday after I step out the shower.

> > > After all, I can't put down what I can't see, right?> > I'm just not sure if this is healthy or not.>