Guest guest Posted April 20, 2011 Report Share Posted April 20, 2011 Dawn, Sometimes I find myself eating past fullness because I don't want to do what comes after the meal; eating is a way to procrastinate what comes next. Also, I think it takes a while practicing IE to figure out when to stop. When I do experience the ease of pushing my plate away, it is way more complicated than just knowing when I am full. It is the complex web of knowing I trust and listen to myself in other areas of my life, not just eating. I guess I just say that to let you know this is a journey, and there are many pieces beyond just understanding what it means to stop when you are full. Continue on your journey, this piece will fall into place. And for the right now, try to have some awareness that you are eating past fullness. And then give yourself permission to do it. It's OK, it is totally your choice. Anne  This is very true for me. I know that I am always feeling like I have to finish what is on my plate. BUT...I went out to eat the other day and did not finish what was on my plate. A first for me! It was great! Now, if I could just always practice this. I also tend to eat on a schedule and I have to stop doing that too.   From: jain_daugh To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Wed, April 20, 2011 11:30:00 AM Subject: Re: Advice pls....  Dawn - could your wanting to continue eating be 'Clean Plate' syndrome? I know that remains a strong 'do' for me. I sometimes wonder if eating in 'courses' would be better or worse instead of 'family style' where one fills a plate and then proceeds to eat. I know that if I remind myself before, or even during, eating that I do NOT have to finish everything on my plate, I stand a better chance of being able to do that. Its like DUH! do I forget that I can always microwave and finish up later if I get hungry then? And I do have 2 very willing plate cleaners (dogs) who are more than willing to help me 'finish' :-) Thanks for reminding me to resume practice of this! Katcha IEing since March 2007 > > I can tell when I am full I just can't seem to stop. I guess it is just such a habit to continue eating that it is hard for me to stop. I do see how some of it is still last supper eating and when I recognize that I can stop. But sometimes....I just don't wanna stop ya know? It is crazy. But, I don't feel uncomfortable or anything. Or do I? I mean, to be totally honest....I don't really know how I am suppsed to feel. I have been doing the IE thing now for a little over a month. I have gotten heavier and I am okay with that. I am really just wanting to be healthy is all. But, does a person ever reach a point in which it is not so hard to stop eating. I mean, if I force myself to stop I just feeling like I am dieting. So, how does this work. Any advice would be helpful. Be blessed, ~DawnC~ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 21, 2011 Report Share Posted April 21, 2011 Thanks for the advice. I am going to try walking away from the food but giving myself permission to come back if I still hungry. Tonight I ate a bit to much. We had some bread that was soooooo good that I got seconds but then I was all like, "Wow, I haven't eatten my salad yet!" And, my mind told me that I had to eat it...LOL. I know that was wrong. I didn't have to eat it then. Then I found out that my mom bought ice cream...didn't know we even had it...had I known I would not have eatten more bread...UGH! But, I had a very small bowl. Still it was all too much for me. But, I am learning and I will get there. Be Blessed, Dawn To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Thu, April 21, 2011 7:53:25 PMSubject: Re: Advice pls.... It's definitely a learning process for me.I just finished dinner. I was very happy because I really figured out exactly what I wanted - some kale (my favorite vegetable!), a few crackers and cheese, and a little bit of a leftover beets/feta/caramelized onion dish. I was saving room for some ice cream. The ice cream, btw, was a couple scoops I'd gone out last night to buy, and then on the very short ride home lost my desire for, so only had a couple spoonfuls when I got home - that was new behavior for me for sure - I was in touch with the desire for it AND when it left me.But back to tonite - as I was eating the ice cream, I definitely had a couple moments when had I been willing to listen to my body, I was getting a gentle "enough" signal, but I was enjoying the taste and overrode the signal.Then on top of that, when I went to put the rest of the kale away, I ate it instead.So now I'm overly full - not horribly stuffed - but overly full. Had I listened when I got those first signals, I think I'd be feeling just right, right now.Two things I'm learning from this. One, is I need to slow down. I don't usually eat that quickly, but I think I was going pretty quickly with the ice cream, and that was part of my not stopping.Another is an idea I either read in an IE book or heard here, I forget which - and that's to say to myself when I recognize that first signal, something like, " oh, good, I'm recognizing a fullness signal, that's real progress for me! now, I'm choosing to disregard it, and keep eating, that's ok." By naming it in that way, I might sometimes decide to change my choice...it feels worth a try, in any case. And naming it feels like it will help me have that initial recognition happen more often, and since I too have been struggling with knowing when I'm full, that feels helpful.Finally, when I'm at home, I find it VERY helpful to just stop at a certain point, and walk away telling myself (and meaning it) that if I'm still hungry in 20 minutes, I'll come back for more. I've heard it said that it's a myth that it takes the body time to process that it's full, but it seems very true for me - once in a blue moon I'll go back for more, but much more often, I know by then that I'm no longer hungry, even tho' when I walked away from the table I was not at all sure.I wish I could do that when at work or out at a restaurant. Tho' as I write that, I realize that at a restaurant, I can excuse myself to go to the ladies room at the moment that if I were home I'd be walking away, and see if that helps.> > > >> > >> I can tell when I am full I just can't seem to stop. I guess it is just such a habit to continue eating that it is hard for me to stop. I do see how some of it is still last supper eating and when I recognize that I can stop. But sometimes....I just don't wanna stop ya know? > >> > > > > Are you full or satisfied? Those are different for me and if I eat until full, it is easy to overeat. If I eat until satisfied, it might feel strange to stop, but I can and I'm less tempted to overeat. > > > > For me the cue is a kind of sigh from my body and then I stop. But you could also stop and give yourself permission to keep going if you want, just to see what it feels like. > > > > Patti> >> > > > >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 21, 2011 Report Share Posted April 21, 2011 Thanks for the advice. I am going to try walking away from the food but giving myself permission to come back if I still hungry. Tonight I ate a bit to much. We had some bread that was soooooo good that I got seconds but then I was all like, "Wow, I haven't eatten my salad yet!" And, my mind told me that I had to eat it...LOL. I know that was wrong. I didn't have to eat it then. Then I found out that my mom bought ice cream...didn't know we even had it...had I known I would not have eatten more bread...UGH! But, I had a very small bowl. Still it was all too much for me. But, I am learning and I will get there. Be Blessed, Dawn To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Thu, April 21, 2011 7:53:25 PMSubject: Re: Advice pls.... It's definitely a learning process for me.I just finished dinner. I was very happy because I really figured out exactly what I wanted - some kale (my favorite vegetable!), a few crackers and cheese, and a little bit of a leftover beets/feta/caramelized onion dish. I was saving room for some ice cream. The ice cream, btw, was a couple scoops I'd gone out last night to buy, and then on the very short ride home lost my desire for, so only had a couple spoonfuls when I got home - that was new behavior for me for sure - I was in touch with the desire for it AND when it left me.But back to tonite - as I was eating the ice cream, I definitely had a couple moments when had I been willing to listen to my body, I was getting a gentle "enough" signal, but I was enjoying the taste and overrode the signal.Then on top of that, when I went to put the rest of the kale away, I ate it instead.So now I'm overly full - not horribly stuffed - but overly full. Had I listened when I got those first signals, I think I'd be feeling just right, right now.Two things I'm learning from this. One, is I need to slow down. I don't usually eat that quickly, but I think I was going pretty quickly with the ice cream, and that was part of my not stopping.Another is an idea I either read in an IE book or heard here, I forget which - and that's to say to myself when I recognize that first signal, something like, " oh, good, I'm recognizing a fullness signal, that's real progress for me! now, I'm choosing to disregard it, and keep eating, that's ok." By naming it in that way, I might sometimes decide to change my choice...it feels worth a try, in any case. And naming it feels like it will help me have that initial recognition happen more often, and since I too have been struggling with knowing when I'm full, that feels helpful.Finally, when I'm at home, I find it VERY helpful to just stop at a certain point, and walk away telling myself (and meaning it) that if I'm still hungry in 20 minutes, I'll come back for more. I've heard it said that it's a myth that it takes the body time to process that it's full, but it seems very true for me - once in a blue moon I'll go back for more, but much more often, I know by then that I'm no longer hungry, even tho' when I walked away from the table I was not at all sure.I wish I could do that when at work or out at a restaurant. Tho' as I write that, I realize that at a restaurant, I can excuse myself to go to the ladies room at the moment that if I were home I'd be walking away, and see if that helps.> > > >> > >> I can tell when I am full I just can't seem to stop. I guess it is just such a habit to continue eating that it is hard for me to stop. I do see how some of it is still last supper eating and when I recognize that I can stop. But sometimes....I just don't wanna stop ya know? > >> > > > > Are you full or satisfied? Those are different for me and if I eat until full, it is easy to overeat. If I eat until satisfied, it might feel strange to stop, but I can and I'm less tempted to overeat. > > > > For me the cue is a kind of sigh from my body and then I stop. But you could also stop and give yourself permission to keep going if you want, just to see what it feels like. > > > > Patti> >> > > > >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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