Re: Is my response normal? Thanks!

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Thanks for the responses for this. I deleted the post because I am so paranoid

right now about who reads these boards so I was pleasantly surprised to see the

responses. Nada has a computer now and it wouldn't surprise me if she is on

here.

One of biggest struggles right now is how to know when to be easygoing and when

to know if I should be annoyed. It seemed like nada was always, and I mean

always, finding fault with everyone. I don't want to be like that, but at the

same time I feel like I don't stand up for myself when I should. I seem to

attract users in my life.

mom2

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> > My cousin and her family recently visited my family for an overnight

> > visit. My cousin lives in another state and couldn't give me more

> > than 3 days notice when they were coming. I was very gracious about

> > their circumstances and just decided to be easy going about it even

> > though I hate last minute planning. I thought the visit went well.

> > They arrived on a Saturday evening and planned to leave early Sunday

> > morning. I made a homecooked meal and had activities planned that

> > all of the kids could do together since my kids had never been

> > around my cousin's kids. Even though we hadn't seen each other for

> > years, my cousin's family had to leave early Sunday morning to spend

> > the day at the zoo. I was rather insulted, but o well.

> >

> > The reason I am posting this here is I never know if I respond

> > correctly to situations after growing up with a nada and her weird

> > reactions. It's been over two weeks since the visit and I haven't

> > heard a word from cousin. I called to make sure they got home safely

> > and her husband spoke with me briefly. Cousin on the other hasn't

> > even bothered to drop me a note on Facebook. I am furious!! Should I

> > be? I did everything in the world to accomodate them. They wanted to

> > leave very early Sunday so we even made a breakfast the night before

> > so they could microwave it. They didn't end up leaving as early as

> > they wanted because their stuff was so disorganized, but that had

> > nothing to do with me, my family, or my house (which was very clean,

> > by the way).

> >

> > I feel like I was a doormat in this entire situation. I didn't even

> > know until the Wednesday before the visit if they were staying one

> > night or three. And now, I don't hear from them.

> >

> > What do you think? What is normal? What is it like to experience

> > kind, considerate people? I am so frustrated.

> >

> > Thanks,

> > mom2adeline

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