Introducing myself and my current situation

[Guest guest]

Hello, my name is Chris. I am a 28 year old adult who has his masters in

psychology but am still just scraping by financially. I live an hour and a half

away from my mother, who is an undiagnosed person with Borderline Personality. I

feel this is more than simply someone in the field trying to diagnose their

wacky family. My mother is already diagnosed and is treated for OCD, depression,

and migraines. I overall see my mother as very controlling and manipulative and

tries to buy others love with gifts and seeks the gratitude from when she does.

My mother takes offense at everything my father does and will call me up to put

me in the middle, expecting me to agree with her. When I either stay neutral or

agree with him, or say I am not getting involved, her wrath will pivot towards

me or my sister who lives further away with her fiance. She will stalk me on

facebook or twitter, holding any posting on there as me being rude, having time

to do that rather than respond to her on things I am delaying discussing. She

also will claim suicidal thoughts to make others feel guilty to stay on the

phone when it is inconvenient for them.

My car was in need for major repairs that would cost more than it was currently

worth. My mother convinced my dad to help by purchasing a newer used car for me,

as I was unable to pay for repairs or the cost of monthly car payments. I was

hesitant to take the offer, but due to my situation I would of had no choice so

I did so. She has also recently bought tickets for a broadway show I was looking

forward to coming out which is Spider-man, me being a comic reader and fan of

U2.

Recently, she has had issues with the computer and she will be getting a new

one. She had asked me to help set it up as it didn't turn out well the last time

I was not there. The past couple weekends my girlfriend and I have spent time

away, either on vacation, overnight trips, or day trips that are hours away and

wanted a quiet weekend. Due to this I told her that I would be happy to do it

not this weekend but the following. She now claims I said to her " I don't come

at your beck and call " which was more of me just saying " I can't do things

according to your schedule, we need to work it out between both of ours. " It was

the same meaning, but less of an attitude from me. She is now throwing recent

" acts of kindness " in my face and sending nasty emails and text messages which

she says she wants no response from me on.

I'll appreciate any help or advice any of you may have. I know I went on

forever, but it helps to explain the situation. Thanks. I'll leave you with a

copy and paste of the emails I got today from her.

Maley

" Look

The subject is no longer up for discussion. You don't get it. It's not about

You. It's not about You and Becky. It's not even about Me. It's about your

Selfishness.Who cares what you said two weeks ago. I said a lot of things two

weeks ago. That isn't what this is about. This is about OTHER THINGS. But you

don't get that. Did you even READ what I wrote ? You are stubborn,

self-righeous, self-centered, and think the world revolves around YOU. For

someone who took up psychology, you have no empathy for even your own depressed

mother as well. THAT tells me a lot in itself, let alone you are given things

that in the end you evidently didn't deserve in the first place if you weren't a

person of character and appreciated what I have always tried to be there for you

BEFORE non-monitarily and since. Those things said last night ? Un-BELIEVABLE.

They hurt TO THEE BONE. And then you didn't want to let me get off the phone OR

I was " hanging up on YOU " ??? I was so hurt I HAD to get off right away, but YOU

in your controlling way, I wasn't ALLOWED to, or I was " Hanging Up " . I tried to

do something nice - with NO STRINGS. It was only afterward that I wanted to ask

you and I thought surely you would do it, as I could have gotten the tickets the

night before, but I wanted to make sure to talk to your dad AND you. I would

have had CLOSER seats by TWO ROWS then.

You are UNFu--ing believable, . Those 2 lines you said to me SUNK

you last night. I even wrote them down so I would get it write when telling your

dad. And I did nothing but try to do something nice for you and just ask you to

come down for a day - just a DAY, with just YOU. That was all. I just wanted you

here as with the depression I am not prepared for company and your sister was

coming up for the weekend as well. Believe me, I'll NEVER ask anything of you

again. And, I won't think of doing anything nice for you again either. You're

not the " man " I thought you were.

You know, I would have thought you would have done it for us, whether we had

bought you anything or not.... But even helping you out at desperate times, or

getting you courses to get you a better job that took you forever to say YES on,

or Treating you,you turn your back and things are at YOUR whim. Maybe you liked

it better when we did nothing for you. "