Guest guest Posted September 17, 2010 Report Share Posted September 17, 2010 ((((()))))) I send you my sincere condolences.Your post brought tears to my eyes.My fada died two and half years ago in hospice when we were expecting he'd be there for a couple of weeks more--he died instead within a few days.It's alot to take in ; there are so many emotions involved when a mentally ill parent dies. That priest does sound amazing and a credit to his profession.I'm glad he was there to validate you and to understand and that he was able to offer grace and caring to your mother with such clear sightedness.What a blessing of empathy for you when it is so needed. Yes,it's a long road...please know that you are in my thoughts at this difficult time. With sympathy and ((((HUGS)))) > > So, it turned out that it was not 2 - 3 weeks, but more like 3 days. She > died peacefully today - just stopped breathing. I'm sad and tired and > relieved and empty and weary. But I know it will be a long road toward > healing. > > When I have more time and am thinking more clearly I will post about this > amazing priest who came to see her today. He blessed her, prayed for her and > clearly cared about her, but he also told her and my brother and I the truth > about who she was. Just one example, apparently once when she came to see > him, he said to her " You are an incredibly conniving woman. Do you see how > much you are trying to manipulate and control your children? " > > He basically completely validated how difficult it has been for us to be her > children and that she was incredibly demanding and needy and controlling and > stubborn and difficult to be with - these were seriously words he used to > describe her all while clearly caring for her as a person. Anyway, this was > such a blessing to me - I did not think anyone did not simply believe her > tales of woe about her awful children - and this was from someone who had > never even met us. > > This priest told her that he knows she is stubborn, but that it is time to > let go and be with Jesus and she did just a few hours later. > > Grateful but weary, > > MY - (I have no more fear of my mom finding me on here.) > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2010 Report Share Posted September 17, 2010 ((((()))))) I send you my sincere condolences.Your post brought tears to my eyes.My fada died two and half years ago in hospice when we were expecting he'd be there for a couple of weeks more--he died instead within a few days.It's alot to take in ; there are so many emotions involved when a mentally ill parent dies. That priest does sound amazing and a credit to his profession.I'm glad he was there to validate you and to understand and that he was able to offer grace and caring to your mother with such clear sightedness.What a blessing of empathy for you when it is so needed. Yes,it's a long road...please know that you are in my thoughts at this difficult time. With sympathy and ((((HUGS)))) > > So, it turned out that it was not 2 - 3 weeks, but more like 3 days. She > died peacefully today - just stopped breathing. I'm sad and tired and > relieved and empty and weary. But I know it will be a long road toward > healing. > > When I have more time and am thinking more clearly I will post about this > amazing priest who came to see her today. He blessed her, prayed for her and > clearly cared about her, but he also told her and my brother and I the truth > about who she was. Just one example, apparently once when she came to see > him, he said to her " You are an incredibly conniving woman. Do you see how > much you are trying to manipulate and control your children? " > > He basically completely validated how difficult it has been for us to be her > children and that she was incredibly demanding and needy and controlling and > stubborn and difficult to be with - these were seriously words he used to > describe her all while clearly caring for her as a person. Anyway, this was > such a blessing to me - I did not think anyone did not simply believe her > tales of woe about her awful children - and this was from someone who had > never even met us. > > This priest told her that he knows she is stubborn, but that it is time to > let go and be with Jesus and she did just a few hours later. > > Grateful but weary, > > MY - (I have no more fear of my mom finding me on here.) > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2010 Report Share Posted September 17, 2010 ((((()))))) I send you my sincere condolences.Your post brought tears to my eyes.My fada died two and half years ago in hospice when we were expecting he'd be there for a couple of weeks more--he died instead within a few days.It's alot to take in ; there are so many emotions involved when a mentally ill parent dies. That priest does sound amazing and a credit to his profession.I'm glad he was there to validate you and to understand and that he was able to offer grace and caring to your mother with such clear sightedness.What a blessing of empathy for you when it is so needed. Yes,it's a long road...please know that you are in my thoughts at this difficult time. With sympathy and ((((HUGS)))) > > So, it turned out that it was not 2 - 3 weeks, but more like 3 days. She > died peacefully today - just stopped breathing. I'm sad and tired and > relieved and empty and weary. But I know it will be a long road toward > healing. > > When I have more time and am thinking more clearly I will post about this > amazing priest who came to see her today. He blessed her, prayed for her and > clearly cared about her, but he also told her and my brother and I the truth > about who she was. Just one example, apparently once when she came to see > him, he said to her " You are an incredibly conniving woman. Do you see how > much you are trying to manipulate and control your children? " > > He basically completely validated how difficult it has been for us to be her > children and that she was incredibly demanding and needy and controlling and > stubborn and difficult to be with - these were seriously words he used to > describe her all while clearly caring for her as a person. Anyway, this was > such a blessing to me - I did not think anyone did not simply believe her > tales of woe about her awful children - and this was from someone who had > never even met us. > > This priest told her that he knows she is stubborn, but that it is time to > let go and be with Jesus and she did just a few hours later. > > Grateful but weary, > > MY - (I have no more fear of my mom finding me on here.) > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2010 Report Share Posted September 18, 2010 The priest sounds like an amazing guy who knew how to do his ministry--blunt, but caring. I'm glad your nada went peacefully, despite the un-peaceful life she caused. (((hugs))) Holly > > > So, it turned out that it was not 2 - 3 weeks, but more like 3 days. She > died peacefully today - just stopped breathing. I'm sad and tired and > relieved and empty and weary. But I know it will be a long road toward > healing. > > When I have more time and am thinking more clearly I will post about this > amazing priest who came to see her today. He blessed her, prayed for her > and > clearly cared about her, but he also told her and my brother and I the > truth > about who she was. Just one example, apparently once when she came to see > him, he said to her " You are an incredibly conniving woman. Do you see how > much you are trying to manipulate and control your children? " > > He basically completely validated how difficult it has been for us to be > her > children and that she was incredibly demanding and needy and controlling > and > stubborn and difficult to be with - these were seriously words he used to > describe her all while clearly caring for her as a person. Anyway, this was > such a blessing to me - I did not think anyone did not simply believe her > tales of woe about her awful children - and this was from someone who had > never even met us. > > This priest told her that he knows she is stubborn, but that it is time to > let go and be with Jesus and she did just a few hours later. > > Grateful but weary, > > MY - (I have no more fear of my mom finding me on here.) > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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