How do I stop blaming/enabling her?

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I am a borderline who has a borderline parent. Lately, I've been trying to set

boundaries in our relationship that allow me some breathing room from her. I

have not called her or spoke to her except for when we both were at the hospital

for my nephew. The other day I got an email from her saying that we hadn't

talked in forever and that it was her fault. How do I go on from this? Do I keep

on with this and allow her to build our relationship or keep on with the usual

distressing pattern?

When I was younger, I was verbally and physically abused and I still don't know

how to move on from it, I don't know how to forgive her. For denying her mental

health state and denying that I had anything wrong with me. I learn all of my

borderline traits from her and her behavior. How do I forgive her for this?