Re: Overeating this weekend

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Hi, Styxia.

I'm not having my best weekend myself - sleep deprivation and fatigue are tough places to practice new Intuitive Eating skills.

I'm sure many on this list will have great suggestions for you, but let me offer mine: put the focus on satisfaction. Even if you're overeating, savor each bite as much as possible and think of letting it give you the most comfort that it possibly can. It would be good to gently shift from dreading overeating or trying not to overeat, to promising yourself that however you eat - even if it's not optimally when hungry - you'll do it in a loving, gentle way toward yourself. It's perfectionism and impatience that makes us dread not doing this well enough and makes us so harsh with ourselves.

I was feeling tired and sorry for myself today that I had to do some anxiety provoking work, and I found myself diving into the ice cream for comfort. I'm trying to just sigh with acceptance and say that's the best I could do for today, and the fact that I'm aware of it is better than it used to be, so progress, however slow, is being made, and it will be okay. Hope this is helpful.

April M.

I'm currently eperiencing a diffcult weekend concerning overeating. I'mwatching my drive to overeat this weekend, feeling tired and thoughtfulabout so many things.I'm so tired of fighting the urge to overeat all the time. It makes mefeel even more exhausted after a busy week.I'm also tired of dreading potentially overeating triggering situations(there will be a few within the next two weeks). Yes, this was mainly just a rant, I admit it. At the moment it feelslike I should get back to square one and focus on hunger and fullness asI get more and more often confused if I'm now eating because ofemotional issues or just because I didn't eat enough during the day.Best wishesstyxia------------------------------------

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exercise never made me lose weight... which makes it a lot easier for me to NOT associate it with dieting.and even the endurance effect... it's a bit long term.but i usually feel SOOOO great within a few minutes afterwards. it's a huge emotional/mental boost. and gives me a lot more energy. and i feel HAPPY afterwards.

to me, these are easier reasons to exercise than any less tangible (if no less real), reasons. eating too... it's easier to think about how it will make me feel, right now and at most in a couple of hours.

but i agree with Sunny... let's think about what's going on with you. as my mom would say, I'd be " dollars to donuts " (i love this funny random expression) that SOMETHING is going on in your life. often we start freaking out about our weight or eating or exercise or what have you when there's something else, totally unrelated, stressful going on in our lives. any work/home/relationship/family stressors going on right now?

 

So what do you need to bring you back to IE mode and how can we help you get it?? Let's talk it out. What changed for you to put you back in dietland??

Sunny

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> Sunny Arruda wrote:

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>> As far as going to restaurants everyday for a week sounds very exciting to

>> me. What a perfect opportunity for making sure I'll get to eat anything I

>> really want without worrying about what ingredients i have at home. I hope

>> this helps a bit.

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> There was a time when I thought like this. Now that I seem to be back in

> full-blown diet mode it scares the hell out of me.

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> Best wishes

> styxia

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rSunny Arruda wrote:

> So what do you need to bring you back to IE mode and how can we help you

> get it?? Let's talk it out. What changed for you to put you back in

> dietland??

It was in November when I had to go to the hospital, was weighed there,

they told ne the weight and I freaked out. :-/

I'm sure there's more to it since I'm also sure that I would have been

able to handle this but it was definitely the trigger that started it.

Best wishes

styxia

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rSunny Arruda wrote:

> So what do you need to bring you back to IE mode and how can we help you

> get it?? Let's talk it out. What changed for you to put you back in

> dietland??

It was in November when I had to go to the hospital, was weighed there,

they told ne the weight and I freaked out. :-/

I'm sure there's more to it since I'm also sure that I would have been

able to handle this but it was definitely the trigger that started it.

Best wishes

styxia

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Abigail Wolfson wrote:

> any

> work/home/relationship/family stressors going on right now?

Yes, but there were also issues present when things were going smoother

regarding food. As for the trigger that started it see my other mail.

Best wishes

s.

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FYI: Anytime you go to the doctor or the hospital you can refuse to be weighed.

My doc never weighs me. The nurse looks at me like I am crazy when I tell her no

when she asks me to step on the scale but it isn't like she can make me. Next

time, maybe you can just say you would rather not be weighed. I know that every

single time I am weighed I weigh more than what I expected and it always freaks

me out. It is soooo not worth it. Be blessed, Dawn

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> > So what do you need to bring you back to IE mode and how can we help you

> > get it?? Let's talk it out. What changed for you to put you back in

> > dietland??

>

> It was in November when I had to go to the hospital, was weighed there,

> they told ne the weight and I freaked out. :-/

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> I'm sure there's more to it since I'm also sure that I would have been

> able to handle this but it was definitely the trigger that started it.

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> Best wishes

> styxia

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Yes, I can relate. I used to count all my calories eatten and burnt on

sparkpeople.com and it killed me to see how many calories I was eatting compared

to what I was burning. It is ridiculous. If you live that way you have to work

yourself to death and starve yourself and that is NOT healthy. Now I am living

healthy by eatting good and staying active. I don't count anything! If it is a

number I dont' wanna have anything to do with it. I love feeling myself getting

stronger and having more endurance. It is much better than working myself to

death for what felt like nothing. Be blessed, Dawn

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> > That was a quick answer, and yes it was helpful. :-)

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> > I'm trying exactly that this weekend: IF I'm overeating anyway I might

> > as well enjoy it.

> >

> > I will also try to shift my focus when going to the gym again. I started

> > going to the gym very often because it relaxed me after work but I

> > noticed that the focus gradually changed over the last weeks. I will

> > concentrate on the relaxing and endorphine producing qualities again

> > next week.

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> > I'm already dreading that I won't be able to go to the gym the week

> > after that because I'm gone for a 5-day seminar and that raised some red

> > flags in my mind. Also that there will be a rich breakfast buffet and I

> > will most likely go to a restaurant every evening that week and that

> > there will be a lot of snacks available and that I'm kind of panicking

> > about this raises more red flags.

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> > I'm back in full-blown diet mode and hating it.

> >

> > Best wishes

> > s.

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It never occurred to me to say no to being weighef and i have bothed dreaded

going to the doctor because of it and been shamed by the number they seem to

need to shout out when they read it. The last time i was at the drs office was

before i heard of IE and joined this list. My next appt i had considered asking

them not to say the weight but the longer i'm here the more i've come to decide

i can and will refuse to weigh at all. I'm sure it will be a bit awkward but

also very empowering. Who cares if the medical assistant disapproves??

Sunny

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> FYI: Anytime you go to the doctor or the hospital you can refuse to be

weighed. My doc never weighs me. The nurse looks at me like I am crazy when I

tell her no when she asks me to step on the scale but it isn't like she can make

me. Next time, maybe you can just say you would rather not be weighed. I know

that every single time I am weighed I weigh more than what I expected and it

always freaks me out. It is soooo not worth it. Be blessed, Dawn

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>>> So what do you need to bring you back to IE mode and how can we help you

>>> get it?? Let's talk it out. What changed for you to put you back in

>>> dietland??

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>> It was in November when I had to go to the hospital, was weighed there,

>> they told ne the weight and I freaked out. :-/

>>

>> I'm sure there's more to it since I'm also sure that I would have been

>> able to handle this but it was definitely the trigger that started it.

>>

>> Best wishes

>> styxia

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Yes, the nurse always gives me a strange look and she asked a couple times why

not. I just tell her that I don't like to know how much I weigh. It is a little

ackward BUT SO WORTH not having to go through what we go through after hearing

our weight being shouted out in the middle of the nurses station...UGH! The

first time I decided to do this I just told the nurse I would weigh but that I

didn't want to know how much. She read it out anyway and then apologized. I

really think she just did it out of habit and she really did seem to be sorry

but this is why I just don't weigh at all...much easier...and I don't have to

dread going to the doc. I hope this helps you at the doc as much as it has me.

Be blessed, Dawn

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On my last visit to the doctor's, I did refuse to be weighed.  The nurse was surprised.  She probably doesn't hear that often either.  The doctor mentioned it when he came in but did not make a big issue of it.  Then he said " you look good anyway. It looks like you've lost weight. " I had gained 20-25 lbs. and the visit before when I had lost 15lbs., he never even noticed.  I am going to refuse again on my next visit and I don't think I will try to explain why.  I don't need to and they wouldn't get it anyway. I did however find myself last week planning what I would wear so I would look thinner.  Then I stopped myself and went back to IE thinking.  I figure I have been facing the dreaded scales for over 50 years and that's enough.  My daughter had started a while ago by turning her back and having them not tell her.  I suppose you could just close your eyes and tell them not to say anything, but I felt so empowered jjust saying no.  And I will do it again!

 

It never occurred to me to say no to being weighef and i have bothed dreaded going to the doctor because of it and been shamed by the number they seem to need to shout out when they read it. The last time i was at the drs office was before i heard of IE and joined this list. My next appt i had considered asking them not to say the weight but the longer i'm here the more i've come to decide i can and will refuse to weigh at all. I'm sure it will be a bit awkward but also very empowering. Who cares if the medical assistant disapproves??

Sunny

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> FYI: Anytime you go to the doctor or the hospital you can refuse to be weighed. My doc never weighs me. The nurse looks at me like I am crazy when I tell her no when she asks me to step on the scale but it isn't like she can make me. Next time, maybe you can just say you would rather not be weighed. I know that every single time I am weighed I weigh more than what I expected and it always freaks me out. It is soooo not worth it. Be blessed, Dawn

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>>> So what do you need to bring you back to IE mode and how can we help you

>>> get it?? Let's talk it out. What changed for you to put you back in

>>> dietland??

>>

>> It was in November when I had to go to the hospital, was weighed there,

>> they told ne the weight and I freaked out. :-/

>>

>> I'm sure there's more to it since I'm also sure that I would have been

>> able to handle this but it was definitely the trigger that started it.

>>

>> Best wishes

>> styxia

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Dawn wrote:

> FYI: Anytime you go to the doctor or the hospital you can refuse to be

> weighed.

It took me by surprise somehow. I felt like **** anyway and not like

myself after being admitted during the night. It only occured to me

after the weighing that I should have refused. :-/

It felt humiliating though.

Best wishes

s.