Guest guest Posted September 1, 2010 Report Share Posted September 1, 2010 ((((((((sweetsoulmusic09)))))))) I'm so sorry you had to endure such unwarranted, inappropriate emotional abuse. No child deserves such treatment. -Annie > > > > Growing up with my nada, I always had severe abandoment issues. As a adult who has gone through therapy, I now know WHY I felt this way, but the issues still rear their ugly head. As a child, I was always threatened with abandonment if I didn't obey my nada's every command. If I didn't take out the trash, or do the dishes or date the wrong boy, or even come to visit her on weekends when I was away at college, she would simultaneously threaten to " cut me off " and never speak to me again. In typical nada-like fashion, I was ostracized from all friends and family. Any friend my nada made, she found some flaw in that person (because we are all flawed somehow)that would inevitably threaten her friendship and cause my nada to stay away. Same thing with family. I was an only child, lonely and crying for family. She completely cut me off from the world. > > > > Now, I find myself fighting these urges. Its hard for me to make friends and when I do, I get very self-conscious that I am sharing too much or not enough. When friends/husband doesn't call me back, I automatically think its me they don't want to talk to. Now, my SIL and my husband are fighting and it is so reminiscent of my childhood because she is refusing to allow us to see my nieces as a result. I keep crying over it thinking that my nieces will graduate from high school when I see them again. > > > > Does anyone else go through this? > > > > AJ > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 1, 2010 Report Share Posted September 1, 2010 ((((((((sweetsoulmusic09)))))))) I'm so sorry you had to endure such unwarranted, inappropriate emotional abuse. No child deserves such treatment. -Annie > > > > Growing up with my nada, I always had severe abandoment issues. As a adult who has gone through therapy, I now know WHY I felt this way, but the issues still rear their ugly head. As a child, I was always threatened with abandonment if I didn't obey my nada's every command. If I didn't take out the trash, or do the dishes or date the wrong boy, or even come to visit her on weekends when I was away at college, she would simultaneously threaten to " cut me off " and never speak to me again. In typical nada-like fashion, I was ostracized from all friends and family. Any friend my nada made, she found some flaw in that person (because we are all flawed somehow)that would inevitably threaten her friendship and cause my nada to stay away. Same thing with family. I was an only child, lonely and crying for family. She completely cut me off from the world. > > > > Now, I find myself fighting these urges. Its hard for me to make friends and when I do, I get very self-conscious that I am sharing too much or not enough. When friends/husband doesn't call me back, I automatically think its me they don't want to talk to. Now, my SIL and my husband are fighting and it is so reminiscent of my childhood because she is refusing to allow us to see my nieces as a result. I keep crying over it thinking that my nieces will graduate from high school when I see them again. > > > > Does anyone else go through this? > > > > AJ > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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