Re: I need to stop overeating

[Guest guest]

Yes, taking a deep breath and trying to relax is good.

But you may also want to try to figure out what it was that happened last night

right before you started binging. If you can figure out what the trigger was,

it might make it easier to stop.

(((hugs)))

Josie

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> Since last night, I have been engaging in excessive eating (well I should say

binge) and I can't stop:

> After 9 pm I had:

> a whole box of 100 calories nabisco cookies

> 2 slices of bread and cream cheese

> 1 slice of bread and peanut butter

> A small bowl of cereal and milk

> Crackers

> More cereal

> Cheese

> and the list probably goes on

>

> I know I need to breathe in and relax..but it is so hard to stop

>

[Guest guest]

a lot is going on

I need to make a decision about going to a conference or not (lot of money

involved)

boyfriend issues

body image issues

PMS

so much

> >

> > Since last night, I have been engaging in excessive eating (well I should

say binge) and I can't stop:

> > After 9 pm I had:

> > a whole box of 100 calories nabisco cookies

> > 2 slices of bread and cream cheese

> > 1 slice of bread and peanut butter

> > A small bowl of cereal and milk

> > Crackers

> > More cereal

> > Cheese

> > and the list probably goes on

> >

> > I know I need to breathe in and relax..but it is so hard to stop

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Hugs. First, completely forgive yourself for overeating. Just observe neutrally that you have overeaten. You have already articulated the reasons why. Accept that you were using food to comfort yourself in a time of stress. That doesn't make you a bad person. It makes you human. Think of ways to help yourself with your current life issues without using food. Think of how that food made you feel. Were you feeling bloated, achy, uncomfortably full? Observe that. Then, give yourself permission to eat. If you need the food right now to get through this bad time, have it. Removing those restrictions from your mind will help remove the allure of those "forbidden foods." When I give myself permission to eat so-called "bad" foods, I eat a lot less of them, everytime. Try to continue heeding your biological AND phychological signals. Hope you are feeling better.

Mimi

Subject: Re: I need to stop overeatingTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Thursday, November 4, 2010, 2:52 PM

a lot is going onI need to make a decision about going to a conference or not (lot of money involved)boyfriend issuesbody image issuesPMSso much> >> > Since last night, I have been engaging in excessive eating (well I should say binge) and I can't stop:> > After 9 pm I had:> > a whole box of 100 calories nabisco cookies> > 2 slices of bread and cream cheese> > 1 slice of bread and peanut butter> > A small bowl of cereal and milk> > Crackers> > More cereal> > Cheese> > and the list probably goes on> > > > I know I need to breathe in and relax..but it is so hard to stop> >>

[Guest guest]

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I can relate ( I guess that's what this support group is for, huh!?) I have eaten like that many times. We don't even know what we are putting in our mouths. The hardest part for me is forgiving myself, realizing tomorrow is another day to wake up, eat when you're hungry, don't starve yourself in punishment, and forget about the day before.

Jami

Subject: Re: I need to stop overeatingTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Thursday, November 4, 2010, 12:52 PM

a lot is going onI need to make a decision about going to a conference or not (lot of money involved)boyfriend issuesbody image issuesPMSso much> >> > Since last night, I have been engaging in excessive eating (well I should say binge) and I can't stop:> > After 9 pm I had:> > a whole box of 100 calories nabisco cookies> > 2 slices of bread and cream cheese> > 1 slice of bread and peanut butter> > A small bowl of cereal and milk> > Crackers> > More cereal> > Cheese> > and the list probably goes on> > > > I know I need to breathe in and relax..but it is so hard to stop> >>

[Guest guest]

Geneen said when that happens, we overeat or we binge or we purge, it is

important NOT to add guilt on top of it all. Try to treat ourselves like we

would treat 2 year old children if they did something to make themselves feel

bad. " oh, sweetheart, what happened, why did you eat all those cookies, how does

your tummy feel etc etc etc.......... Remember to make your voice soft &

soothing & forgiving & the next time you are hungry again, EAT what your body

wants, not what you THINK you should have. I know that when I was in my dieting

mindset, if I over ate at one meal, I would severely restrict my intake at the

next meal. Also, I used to restrict intake before I was going out to eat

socially & now I don't do any of that anymore. It's taken time but this way of

thinking IS having an impact on my behaviour around food. And THAT is a VERY

good thing!!!!

mj

[Guest guest]

Hi Raina:

I completelyunderstand.

between 2007 and 2008 I was there,getting bigger and bigger and eating and

overeating after 8:30 or 9pm DAILY.

I could not take it any longer and I looked for help.My doc said that I just

needed to do it on my own and watch portions.

It was not doable.

I looked for eating disorder center and they would not take me as I didn't purge

or used laxatives.

Fortunately, one eating disorder center accepted me and little by little, I

started to stop my bad behaviors.

I lost 50 pounds since I was there.I didn't need to stop working to be in

teatment as the place I went takes outpatienst from 5 to 9:15 pm.At first I was

going 5 days a week and then as I was getting stronger, less and less.

I stoped going in May 2009 and I am mainting my weight and eating habits except

for lately.

I thought about checking in again but they really gave me enough tools to handle

this on my own.

I will see.It has gotten better

All the best

A

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> > Since last night, I have been engaging in excessive eating (well I

> > should say binge) and I can't stop:

> > After 9 pm I had:

> > a whole box of 100 calories nabisco cookies

> > 2 slices of bread and cream cheese

> > 1 slice of bread and peanut butter

> > A small bowl of cereal and milk

> > Crackers

> > More cereal

> > Cheese

> > and the list probably goes on

> >

> > I know I need to breathe in and relax..but it is so hard to stop

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Raina,

I second 's advice. I was also struggling, but I've just started working

with a therapist who specializes in eating orders and uses IE in her treatment

and it may just be therapy honeymoon, but I'm already finding it really helpful

and have noticed a change for the better in my eating. I've always been fairly

resistant to the idea of therapy for myself. Thought that I was just being lazy

and that if I really worked hard enough, I should be able to get back on track

by myself. But I'm really seeing now how helpful it can be. Kind of wish I had

done it a lot sooner. Not that I think it's going to be some sort of easy

joyride all the time, but I'm feeling really hopeful right now about IE and I

hadn't felt that way for a while and was totally contemplating going back to

dieting.

Check your health insurance. Therapy is probably covered. If not, there are

many therapists that have sliding scale fees to make it more affordable. While

surfing the net one day I found the following website that allows you to search

for a therapist by location and what they treat and the listings usually say

what insurance they take and whether they do fees on a sliding scale. You might

want to take a look.

http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/

Hope that helps.

Josie

> >

> > > Since last night, I have been engaging in excessive eating (well I

> > > should say binge) and I can't stop:

> > > After 9 pm I had:

> > > a whole box of 100 calories nabisco cookies

> > > 2 slices of bread and cream cheese

> > > 1 slice of bread and peanut butter

> > > A small bowl of cereal and milk

> > > Crackers

> > > More cereal

> > > Cheese

> > > and the list probably goes on

> > >

> > > I know I need to breathe in and relax..but it is so hard to stop

> > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks Josie. I will check into it. Sent from my iPhone

Hi Raina,

I second 's advice. I was also struggling, but I've just started working with a therapist who specializes in eating orders and uses IE in her treatment and it may just be therapy honeymoon, but I'm already finding it really helpful and have noticed a change for the better in my eating. I've always been fairly resistant to the idea of therapy for myself. Thought that I was just being lazy and that if I really worked hard enough, I should be able to get back on track by myself. But I'm really seeing now how helpful it can be. Kind of wish I had done it a lot sooner. Not that I think it's going to be some sort of easy joyride all the time, but I'm feeling really hopeful right now about IE and I hadn't felt that way for a while and was totally contemplating going back to dieting.

Check your health insurance. Therapy is probably covered. If not, there are many therapists that have sliding scale fees to make it more affordable. While surfing the net one day I found the following website that allows you to search for a therapist by location and what they treat and the listings usually say what insurance they take and whether they do fees on a sliding scale. You might want to take a look.

http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/

Hope that helps.

Josie

> >

> > > Since last night, I have been engaging in excessive eating (well I

> > > should say binge) and I can't stop:

> > > After 9 pm I had:

> > > a whole box of 100 calories nabisco cookies

> > > 2 slices of bread and cream cheese

> > > 1 slice of bread and peanut butter

> > > A small bowl of cereal and milk

> > > Crackers

> > > More cereal

> > > Cheese

> > > and the list probably goes on

> > >

> > > I know I need to breathe in and relax..but it is so hard to stop

> > >

> > >

> >

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