Re: the weight of the guilt

[Guest guest]

Sometimes the mentally ill person or alcoholic or drug abuser has to hit

rock-bottom before they see the need to take some personal responsibility and

seek help for themselves. Maybe this is the case with your nada.

-Annie

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> I spoke to Nada to tell her I will be NC from now on.

> She called 6 times in 2 days and I felt that it was either draw a line or

change my phone number.

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> The conversation was so out in left field I'm not sure I want to rehash it.

Point is, she is no longer in touch with reality. She fully believes she has a

parasite infection that manifested over 30 years ago. She says it's in her brain

and that accounts for all of her questionable judgment. Oh yeah, and she got it

before she had me so that means I probably have it too. *eye-roll*

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> I told her I'm not talking to her and she needs mental help and to see a real

doctor.

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> Now I'm feeling guilty again because obviously she isn't in her right mind.

She's moved again and the support system I thought she had when I originally

decided to go NC is gone.

> I'm not sure how to let go of this feeling of responsibility that I have for

her. She is an adult sure but she's also apparently a raving lunatic. I wish I

could get rid of this sense of dread I have.

>

> Riah

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[Guest guest]

Thanks annie. It saddens me that I'm not sure she will ever accept personal

responsibility. This is the closest she's ever come to admitting she isn't

always rational.

I almost hate to think about or post about any of this anymore because there

isnt a damned thing I can do about any of it and it feels like I'm just whining

to people who really don't need to hear it....

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> > I spoke to Nada to tell her I will be NC from now on.

> > She called 6 times in 2 days and I felt that it was either draw a line or

change my phone number.

> >

> > The conversation was so out in left field I'm not sure I want to rehash it.

Point is, she is no longer in touch with reality. She fully believes she has a

parasite infection that manifested over 30 years ago. She says it's in her brain

and that accounts for all of her questionable judgment. Oh yeah, and she got it

before she had me so that means I probably have it too. *eye-roll*

> >

> > I told her I'm not talking to her and she needs mental help and to see a

real doctor.

> >

> > Now I'm feeling guilty again because obviously she isn't in her right mind.

She's moved again and the support system I thought she had when I originally

decided to go NC is gone.

> > I'm not sure how to let go of this feeling of responsibility that I have for

her. She is an adult sure but she's also apparently a raving lunatic. I wish I

could get rid of this sense of dread I have.

> >

> > Riah

> >

>

[Guest guest]

As far as I'm concerned, this is the best place ever to just vent about it.

That's what we're all here for, to listen to each other, offer each other our

opinions, our experience, our insights. This place is about sharing the stuff

we mostly can't share with friends, co-workers, or casual acquaintances.

Its sort of a safety net, a virtual group therapy session.

We all get to whine sometimes.

-Annie

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> > > I spoke to Nada to tell her I will be NC from now on.

> > > She called 6 times in 2 days and I felt that it was either draw a line or

change my phone number.

> > >

> > > The conversation was so out in left field I'm not sure I want to rehash

it. Point is, she is no longer in touch with reality. She fully believes she has

a parasite infection that manifested over 30 years ago. She says it's in her

brain and that accounts for all of her questionable judgment. Oh yeah, and she

got it before she had me so that means I probably have it too. *eye-roll*

> > >

> > > I told her I'm not talking to her and she needs mental help and to see a

real doctor.

> > >

> > > Now I'm feeling guilty again because obviously she isn't in her right

mind. She's moved again and the support system I thought she had when I

originally decided to go NC is gone.

> > > I'm not sure how to let go of this feeling of responsibility that I have

for her. She is an adult sure but she's also apparently a raving lunatic. I wish

I could get rid of this sense of dread I have.

> > >

> > > Riah

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