Re: Article about how children get conditioned to tolerate an abusive parent

[Guest guest]

Wow. this is a great blog!

Thank you, Annie.

[Guest guest]

Whoa. That is huge.

Thanks for posting this--

Blessings,

Karla

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> I found this article at another site I belong to, for the adult children of

narcissistic pd parents.

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> Its a fascinating and rational example of how the non-pd but enabling spouse

unwittingly conditions the kids to believe that they deserve emotional abuse

and/or neglect. According to this writer, in a two-parent household its the

enabler who ends up doing the most damage!

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> This dynamic (control and punish the victim) is nearly a duplicate of what

happens when one parent is an alcoholic or drug-abuser, also.

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> Here's the link to the article:

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> http://narc-attack.blogspot.com/2006/11/how-children-of-narcissists-get.html

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> This author, Kathy Krajco, also makes a cogent argument that narcissists are

just sub-clinical psychopaths. I tend to lean toward this theory myself: that

all the Cluster B disorders are really on a spectrum of psychopathic pd.

>

> -Annie

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[Guest guest]

I love this, I have seen it before and it is spot on about how it works and the

environment I grew up in. It's classic. Thanks for posting it again, I'd lost

the link. That is absolutely the exact thing I grew up in, as far as my dad

being NPD and my mother enabling him. the other stuff with my mom, is far more

subtle

>

> I found this article at another site I belong to, for the adult children of

narcissistic pd parents.

>

> Its a fascinating and rational example of how the non-pd but enabling spouse

unwittingly conditions the kids to believe that they deserve emotional abuse

and/or neglect. According to this writer, in a two-parent household its the

enabler who ends up doing the most damage!

>

> This dynamic (control and punish the victim) is nearly a duplicate of what

happens when one parent is an alcoholic or drug-abuser, also.

>

> Here's the link to the article:

>

> http://narc-attack.blogspot.com/2006/11/how-children-of-narcissists-get.html

>

> This author, Kathy Krajco, also makes a cogent argument that narcissists are

just sub-clinical psychopaths. I tend to lean toward this theory myself: that

all the Cluster B disorders are really on a spectrum of psychopathic pd.

>

> -Annie

>

[Guest guest]

Annie,thanks so much for sharing this.That blog article was really deep and

thought provoking... " the cruel hope of conditional love " --Ouch! Yes! I know it

so well and the conditioning from conditional love and how it continues to suck

(and suck me under at times) so many years later...

I can't agree with you more that there is some species of sub clinical

psychopathy going on with these opportunistic bully Cluster B " parents " .

>

> I found this article at another site I belong to, for the adult children of

narcissistic pd parents.

>

> Its a fascinating and rational example of how the non-pd but enabling spouse

unwittingly conditions the kids to believe that they deserve emotional abuse

and/or neglect. According to this writer, in a two-parent household its the

enabler who ends up doing the most damage!

>

> This dynamic (control and punish the victim) is nearly a duplicate of what

happens when one parent is an alcoholic or drug-abuser, also.

>

> Here's the link to the article:

>

> http://narc-attack.blogspot.com/2006/11/how-children-of-narcissists-get.html

>

> This author, Kathy Krajco, also makes a cogent argument that narcissists are

just sub-clinical psychopaths. I tend to lean toward this theory myself: that

all the Cluster B disorders are really on a spectrum of psychopathic pd.

>

> -Annie

>