Guest guest Posted May 9, 2011 Report Share Posted May 9, 2011 Thanks for your post and suggestion about success stories. I did have one this weekend too. It was Mother's day and my daughter came to visit with a cake and some Monkey Bread. I had both and fully enjoyed them without guilt. I have a lot left over but have no real desire for them right now. If I find I am going to eat more and I really don't want it, I will throw them out. I am getting better at tossing food I really don't want. Now I need to get better at not buying it in the first place. I am a sucker for BOGO at the grocery store and since I live alone that can be a problem.. Last week I also had brownies that I had made for a potluck supper I did not attend. I gladly gave the brownies to my eager friend. And I gave him a box of cookies I had and didn't like. I still have a big bag of M & M's(it was a BOGO), and I will get rid of it. When I do the BOGO I figure the one I toss or give away is the free one anyway. Then I can feel ok about dumping it. I am so glad you enjoyed your ice cream cone. Sandy I was thinking about the email that went around in the last week or two, asking for stories of success with IE, and another that asked for reports of small successes, too.So I was thinking that maybe we could have an ongoing email where people can crow about their smallest successes. I think it's so helpful both to share when we are feeling good, and also to read when others have made progress. It's important to remember that progress can be really small steps! Often it's those first, smallest steps that are the hardest.So here's my success story for the weekend. On Saturday, I spoke with a Holistic Health Counselor as I am trying to make some tweaks to my eating to make sure I can have the healthiest pregnancy and baby possible. There were a few things about that conversation that were hard for me... the main one being, taking someone else's suggestions about my eating! I tend to be very rebellious. Also the fact that she referred to me as overweight (based on things I have told her -- she has never met me). This really upset me. Sunday I went for a hike with friends, and I was really craving an ice cream cone. I don't normally crave ice cream, but I love the experience of going out for ice cream with others on a beautiful day. So after a lovely time wandering through the woods, we drove a half an hour each way to get a scoop of homemade ice cream. Then we sat on wooden benches outside and enjoyed our treats. I am proud of myself because I really wanted this sugary treat... and let myself savor every moment of the total body experience. And acknowledged to myself that it was probably at least in part a reaction to the conversation of the day before... and that I was proud that I was not at ALL beating myself up for wanting the sugar. I was GLAD that i was reassuring myself, and not even trying to postpone the experience. The ice cream was great and I DID feel greatly reassured afterwards that I will not deprive myself. Did anyone else have a IE success this weekend?Best, AbbyIE since 11/08 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 9, 2011 Report Share Posted May 9, 2011 I agree with you the smallest success story really helps. I was really angry with myself for eating too much on mother's day BUT your e-mail brought me back to present. I was enjoying my food Friday and Sat. Sunday I was exhausted from all the Mother day parties so I allowed myself to eat whatever I want and oh boy I did eat whatever I wanted. I could not sleep well due to overeating. I hated myself for abusing myself. Somehow by reading your e-mail I was reminded, before IE , I overate all weekend. this week I overate only Sunday afternnoon. I am learning, Allowing myself not to diet and eat whatever I want does not mean to overeat and abuse myself. I still have a lot to learn. I still need to feel eating whatever I want does not mean to over eat too much Subject: IE successesTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Monday, May 9, 2011, 6:38 AM I was thinking about the email that went around in the last week or two, asking for stories of success with IE, and another that asked for reports of small successes, too. So I was thinking that maybe we could have an ongoing email where people can crow about their smallest successes. I think it's so helpful both to share when we are feeling good, and also to read when others have made progress. It's important to remember that progress can be really small steps! Often it's those first, smallest steps that are the hardest. So here's my success story for the weekend. On Saturday, I spoke with a Holistic Health Counselor as I am trying to make some tweaks to my eating to make sure I can have the healthiest pregnancy and baby possible. There were a few things about that conversation that were hard for me... the main one being, taking someone else's suggestions about my eating! I tend to be very rebellious. Also the fact that she referred to me as overweight (based on things I have told her -- she has never met me). This really upset me. Sunday I went for a hike with friends, and I was really craving an ice cream cone. I don't normally crave ice cream, but I love the experience of going out for ice cream with others on a beautiful day. So after a lovely time wandering through the woods, we drove a half an hour each way to get a scoop of homemade ice cream. Then we sat on wooden benches outside and enjoyed our treats. I am proud of myself because I really wanted this sugary treat... and let myself savor every moment of the total body experience. And acknowledged to myself that it was probably at least in part a reaction to the conversation of the day before... and that I was proud that I was not at ALL beating myself up for wanting the sugar. I was GLAD that i was reassuring myself, and not even trying to postpone the experience. The ice cream was great and I DID feel greatly reassured afterwards that I will not deprive myself. Did anyone else have a IE success this weekend? Best, Abby IE since 11/08 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 9, 2011 Report Share Posted May 9, 2011 Shoku,I'm SOOO glad that the emails helped bring you back to the present!yes, overeating only once on the weekend if you used to do it all weekend long... that's a HUGE success! and also, i think it might help to think that it wasn't that you WANTED to overeat so much... a certain PART of you wanted or needed to overeat, because you were overtired and didn't know what other resources to draw on. but it's not that one part of you is deliberately sabotaging the other part... it's that one part of you was overwhelmed, and didn't know what other resources to draw on. so hopefully you can look at that part of you with tenderness and sympathy, and think about what you can do differently so that you won't NEED to eat to compensate for the fatigue. please do not hate yourself for not knowing where else to turn. you did the best you could. with time, you will get better with self-care, and you won't need food to take care of you. all the best, and CONGRATULATIONS and WELL DONE on your SUCCESS this weekend!abby I agree with you the smallest success story really helps. I was really angry with myself for eating too much on mother's day BUT your e-mail brought me back to present. I was enjoying my food Friday and Sat. Sunday I was exhausted from all the Mother day parties so I allowed myself to eat whatever I want and oh boy I did eat whatever I wanted. I could not sleep well due to overeating. I hated myself for abusing myself. Somehow by reading your e-mail I was reminded, before IE , I overate all weekend. this week I overate only Sunday afternnoon. I am learning, Allowing myself not to diet and eat whatever I want does not mean to overeat and abuse myself. I still have a lot to learn. I still need to feel eating whatever I want does not mean to over eat too much Subject: IE successes To: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Monday, May 9, 2011, 6:38 AM I was thinking about the email that went around in the last week or two, asking for stories of success with IE, and another that asked for reports of small successes, too. So I was thinking that maybe we could have an ongoing email where people can crow about their smallest successes. I think it's so helpful both to share when we are feeling good, and also to read when others have made progress. It's important to remember that progress can be really small steps! Often it's those first, smallest steps that are the hardest. So here's my success story for the weekend. On Saturday, I spoke with a Holistic Health Counselor as I am trying to make some tweaks to my eating to make sure I can have the healthiest pregnancy and baby possible. There were a few things about that conversation that were hard for me... the main one being, taking someone else's suggestions about my eating! I tend to be very rebellious. Also the fact that she referred to me as overweight (based on things I have told her -- she has never met me). This really upset me. Sunday I went for a hike with friends, and I was really craving an ice cream cone. I don't normally crave ice cream, but I love the experience of going out for ice cream with others on a beautiful day. So after a lovely time wandering through the woods, we drove a half an hour each way to get a scoop of homemade ice cream. Then we sat on wooden benches outside and enjoyed our treats. I am proud of myself because I really wanted this sugary treat... and let myself savor every moment of the total body experience. And acknowledged to myself that it was probably at least in part a reaction to the conversation of the day before... and that I was proud that I was not at ALL beating myself up for wanting the sugar. I was GLAD that i was reassuring myself, and not even trying to postpone the experience. The ice cream was great and I DID feel greatly reassured afterwards that I will not deprive myself. Did anyone else have a IE success this weekend? Best, Abby IE since 11/08 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 9, 2011 Report Share Posted May 9, 2011 I agree. I often over eat especially at night and then am unable to go to bed/sleep. Not sure how many times I will have to learn that lesson. But one day at a time. Sandy I agree with you the smallest success story really helps. I was really angry with myself for eating too much on mother's day BUT your e-mail brought me back to present. I was enjoying my food Friday and Sat. Sunday I was exhausted from all the Mother day parties so I allowed myself to eat whatever I want and oh boy I did eat whatever I wanted. I could not sleep well due to overeating. I hated myself for abusing myself. Somehow by reading your e-mail I was reminded, before IE , I overate all weekend. this week I overate only Sunday afternnoon. I am learning, Allowing myself not to diet and eat whatever I want does not mean to overeat and abuse myself. I still have a lot to learn. I still need to feel eating whatever I want does not mean to over eat too much Subject: IE successes To: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Monday, May 9, 2011, 6:38 AM I was thinking about the email that went around in the last week or two, asking for stories of success with IE, and another that asked for reports of small successes, too. So I was thinking that maybe we could have an ongoing email where people can crow about their smallest successes. I think it's so helpful both to share when we are feeling good, and also to read when others have made progress. It's important to remember that progress can be really small steps! Often it's those first, smallest steps that are the hardest. So here's my success story for the weekend. On Saturday, I spoke with a Holistic Health Counselor as I am trying to make some tweaks to my eating to make sure I can have the healthiest pregnancy and baby possible. There were a few things about that conversation that were hard for me... the main one being, taking someone else's suggestions about my eating! I tend to be very rebellious. Also the fact that she referred to me as overweight (based on things I have told her -- she has never met me). This really upset me. Sunday I went for a hike with friends, and I was really craving an ice cream cone. I don't normally crave ice cream, but I love the experience of going out for ice cream with others on a beautiful day. So after a lovely time wandering through the woods, we drove a half an hour each way to get a scoop of homemade ice cream. Then we sat on wooden benches outside and enjoyed our treats. I am proud of myself because I really wanted this sugary treat... and let myself savor every moment of the total body experience. And acknowledged to myself that it was probably at least in part a reaction to the conversation of the day before... and that I was proud that I was not at ALL beating myself up for wanting the sugar. I was GLAD that i was reassuring myself, and not even trying to postpone the experience. The ice cream was great and I DID feel greatly reassured afterwards that I will not deprive myself. Did anyone else have a IE success this weekend? Best, Abby IE since 11/08 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 9, 2011 Report Share Posted May 9, 2011 Sometimes I have to remind myself that if I am tired, take a nap, even if for 10 min. Sandy Shoku,I'm SOOO glad that the emails helped bring you back to the present!yes, overeating only once on the weekend if you used to do it all weekend long... that's a HUGE success! and also, i think it might help to think that it wasn't that you WANTED to overeat so much... a certain PART of you wanted or needed to overeat, because you were overtired and didn't know what other resources to draw on. but it's not that one part of you is deliberately sabotaging the other part... it's that one part of you was overwhelmed, and didn't know what other resources to draw on. so hopefully you can look at that part of you with tenderness and sympathy, and think about what you can do differently so that you won't NEED to eat to compensate for the fatigue. please do not hate yourself for not knowing where else to turn. you did the best you could. with time, you will get better with self-care, and you won't need food to take care of you. all the best, and CONGRATULATIONS and WELL DONE on your SUCCESS this weekend!abby I agree with you the smallest success story really helps. I was really angry with myself for eating too much on mother's day BUT your e-mail brought me back to present. I was enjoying my food Friday and Sat. Sunday I was exhausted from all the Mother day parties so I allowed myself to eat whatever I want and oh boy I did eat whatever I wanted. I could not sleep well due to overeating. I hated myself for abusing myself. Somehow by reading your e-mail I was reminded, before IE , I overate all weekend. this week I overate only Sunday afternnoon. I am learning, Allowing myself not to diet and eat whatever I want does not mean to overeat and abuse myself. I still have a lot to learn. I still need to feel eating whatever I want does not mean to over eat too much Subject: IE successes To: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Monday, May 9, 2011, 6:38 AM I was thinking about the email that went around in the last week or two, asking for stories of success with IE, and another that asked for reports of small successes, too. So I was thinking that maybe we could have an ongoing email where people can crow about their smallest successes. I think it's so helpful both to share when we are feeling good, and also to read when others have made progress. It's important to remember that progress can be really small steps! Often it's those first, smallest steps that are the hardest. So here's my success story for the weekend. On Saturday, I spoke with a Holistic Health Counselor as I am trying to make some tweaks to my eating to make sure I can have the healthiest pregnancy and baby possible. There were a few things about that conversation that were hard for me... the main one being, taking someone else's suggestions about my eating! I tend to be very rebellious. Also the fact that she referred to me as overweight (based on things I have told her -- she has never met me). This really upset me. Sunday I went for a hike with friends, and I was really craving an ice cream cone. I don't normally crave ice cream, but I love the experience of going out for ice cream with others on a beautiful day. So after a lovely time wandering through the woods, we drove a half an hour each way to get a scoop of homemade ice cream. Then we sat on wooden benches outside and enjoyed our treats. I am proud of myself because I really wanted this sugary treat... and let myself savor every moment of the total body experience. And acknowledged to myself that it was probably at least in part a reaction to the conversation of the day before... and that I was proud that I was not at ALL beating myself up for wanting the sugar. I was GLAD that i was reassuring myself, and not even trying to postpone the experience. The ice cream was great and I DID feel greatly reassured afterwards that I will not deprive myself. Did anyone else have a IE success this weekend? Best, Abby IE since 11/08 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 9, 2011 Report Share Posted May 9, 2011 It's so hard to remember how very important self-care is! Sometimes I have to remind myself that if I am tired, take a nap, even if for 10 min. Sandy Shoku,I'm SOOO glad that the emails helped bring you back to the present!yes, overeating only once on the weekend if you used to do it all weekend long... that's a HUGE success! and also, i think it might help to think that it wasn't that you WANTED to overeat so much... a certain PART of you wanted or needed to overeat, because you were overtired and didn't know what other resources to draw on. but it's not that one part of you is deliberately sabotaging the other part... it's that one part of you was overwhelmed, and didn't know what other resources to draw on. so hopefully you can look at that part of you with tenderness and sympathy, and think about what you can do differently so that you won't NEED to eat to compensate for the fatigue. please do not hate yourself for not knowing where else to turn. you did the best you could. with time, you will get better with self-care, and you won't need food to take care of you. all the best, and CONGRATULATIONS and WELL DONE on your SUCCESS this weekend!abby I agree with you the smallest success story really helps. I was really angry with myself for eating too much on mother's day BUT your e-mail brought me back to present. I was enjoying my food Friday and Sat. Sunday I was exhausted from all the Mother day parties so I allowed myself to eat whatever I want and oh boy I did eat whatever I wanted. I could not sleep well due to overeating. I hated myself for abusing myself. Somehow by reading your e-mail I was reminded, before IE , I overate all weekend. this week I overate only Sunday afternnoon. I am learning, Allowing myself not to diet and eat whatever I want does not mean to overeat and abuse myself. I still have a lot to learn. I still need to feel eating whatever I want does not mean to over eat too much Subject: IE successes To: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Monday, May 9, 2011, 6:38 AM I was thinking about the email that went around in the last week or two, asking for stories of success with IE, and another that asked for reports of small successes, too. So I was thinking that maybe we could have an ongoing email where people can crow about their smallest successes. I think it's so helpful both to share when we are feeling good, and also to read when others have made progress. It's important to remember that progress can be really small steps! Often it's those first, smallest steps that are the hardest. So here's my success story for the weekend. On Saturday, I spoke with a Holistic Health Counselor as I am trying to make some tweaks to my eating to make sure I can have the healthiest pregnancy and baby possible. There were a few things about that conversation that were hard for me... the main one being, taking someone else's suggestions about my eating! I tend to be very rebellious. Also the fact that she referred to me as overweight (based on things I have told her -- she has never met me). This really upset me. Sunday I went for a hike with friends, and I was really craving an ice cream cone. I don't normally crave ice cream, but I love the experience of going out for ice cream with others on a beautiful day. So after a lovely time wandering through the woods, we drove a half an hour each way to get a scoop of homemade ice cream. Then we sat on wooden benches outside and enjoyed our treats. I am proud of myself because I really wanted this sugary treat... and let myself savor every moment of the total body experience. And acknowledged to myself that it was probably at least in part a reaction to the conversation of the day before... and that I was proud that I was not at ALL beating myself up for wanting the sugar. I was GLAD that i was reassuring myself, and not even trying to postpone the experience. The ice cream was great and I DID feel greatly reassured afterwards that I will not deprive myself. Did anyone else have a IE success this weekend? Best, Abby IE since 11/08 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 I still have a big bag of M & M's(it was a BOGO), and I will get rid of it. When I do the BOGO I figure the one I toss or give away is the free one anyway. Can I ask why? M & ms don't really go bad. Perhaps you might want them someday. That would be something I left in my pantry. Patti Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 I haven't reached that level where I can just leave certain foods alone. I devoured the first bag of M & M's and don't even really like them. For me I think the bigger question is why did I buy them in the first place. Was I testing my " will power " , or the validity of IE, or was it just the rebellious child? Part of it that I have a hard time passing up a " bargain " , but was it a bargain if it hurts my health or I toss one bag? By the way I gave it to my friend who loves M & M's and doesn't have a weight issue. I would also say that although the M & M's themselves don't really go bad, they go " bad " in my system. That is they do not contribute to my health but do it harm. That's just me. They may be fine for other people's health. I'm glad you brought that up though because it has given me a lot to think about. Thanks. Sandy I still have a big bag of M & M's(it was a BOGO), and I will get rid of it. When I do the BOGO I figure the one I toss or give away is the free one anyway. Can I ask why? M & ms don't really go bad. Perhaps you might want them someday. That would be something I left in my pantry. Patti Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 10, 2011 Report Share Posted May 10, 2011 Hi Sandy - It sounds like you could use this as an opportunity to think about " legalizing " a food like this for yourself. One activity recommended in the Intuitive Eating audio book (I don't believe it's in the hard copy version) is to take one of your typically forbidden foods, and prepare or buy a lot of it. Enough so you'll know you can have as much as you want. And then sit and practice a mindful eating activity with that food. Really focus on what you enjoy about it, with your senses, physically and emotionally. It might help you learn more about the " why you bought it " aspect of yourself, or empower you to not feeling like M & Ms are testing your " will power " Take your power back from those M & Ms! I know this sort of activity sounds difficult, but given time and self trust, and really working on legalizing foods, and can become more and more natural and " intuitive. " I guess this is my own mini-success story. In the past I would buy pints of Haagen Dazs, then let them sit in my freezer for weeks b/c they didn't " fit " in my diet plan. And then I would take them out and eat the whole thing during the course of an evening or of couple of days during a binge. Now I keep a pint of ice cream in my freezer for weeks and weeks, but not because it's " forbidden. " Because that's how long it takes me to eat it! Sometimes I'm not interested in it for a week, and then when I want some I usually only want to eat a very small amount b/c its so rich and delicious. It does help to take a step back, and even it we're not " there " yet, contemplate and celebrate our small successes - Casey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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