Re: Dessert

[Guest guest]

Isn't it amazing how many people try to get you to eat. I had not noticed it till I started IE also. It is like everyone wants us to fail. And it is funny because they wouldn't try to get me to eat if I would say, "No thank you, I am on a diet." But now that this is not my answer people think I should eat all things all the time! It is just wild. But, it is kinda funny to me sometimes...of course, other times it is very aggrivating.

Be blessed,

Dawn

To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Sun, March 27, 2011 10:17:21 AMSubject: Dessert

Last night I had a fantastic dinner out at one my favourite restaurants. I decided to get some blueberry pie for dessert and happily ate only half of it as I was full. The waitress asked if I was going to finish it and I said no thanks. She told me she was on a “cleanse†and that it was hurting her to see me not finish the pie and that she would leave it on the table in case I changed my mind (or my husband wanted it).

As I’m new to intuitive eating, I was really noticed how other people have pressured me to eat more than I what is comfortable. It is so much nicer to listen to my own body.

[Guest guest]

Yes, I too crave that sweet after I eat and I think part of that comes from my childhood when we knew a really good dessert was coming, so we saved room for it.  I still crave sweets of many kinds, especially chocolate.  I have been making chocolate pudding and having a small amount of that seems to help.  But I often have it with cool whip and/or nuts.  Just a little of each.  My friend eats one square of a chocolate candy bar, but I eat the whole thing.  The other thing I do is wait until I'm hungry again and then have that dessert.  I wrote a story titled an apple is not a cookie.  For me that is so true.  I love apples and they are sweet but they are not a cookie. I feel like I haven't finished the meal until I have that sweet.  Sandy

 

Hi, folks.

  Almost every time I eat, I find I crave something sweet at the end of a meal. I've tried not having it because I'm not hungry, but I'm left feeling unsatisfied. So I try, when I can, to leave room at the end of a meal for that sweet something. But I'm not always able to calibrate when I should stop eating my meal so that I have room for a bite of sweet, and sometimes I end up having it on top of an already full stomach. It might be ice cream, an apple, a cookie, a piece of chocolate or even some orange juice, depending on what I crave, as long as it's sweet. I do worry that this amounts to overeating.  

  Anyone else experience this?

April M.

[Guest guest]

Something I used to do, and still do occasionally, is to start with

the dessert. I have something small and sweet, which satisfies my

sweet cravings, then go on to the main course.

Another possible cause is dehydration; it can lead to cravings for

sweet things. Ensure you have had enough water before starting to

eat.

Paddy

 

Hi, folks.

  Almost every time I eat, I find I crave

something sweet at the end of a meal. I've tried not

having it because I'm not hungry, but I'm left

feeling unsatisfied. So I try, when I can, to leave

room at the end of a meal for that sweet something.

But I'm not always able to calibrate when I should

stop eating my meal so that I have room for a bite

of sweet, and sometimes I end up having it on top of

an already full stomach. It might be ice cream, an

apple, a cookie, a piece of chocolate or even some

orange juice, depending on what I crave, as long as

it's sweet. I do worry that this amounts to

overeating.  

  Anyone else experience this?

April M.

[Guest guest]

Thanks for the reminder about dessert first and I knew that dehydration can mimic hunger but I did not know it could lead to sweet cravings. Sandy

 

Something I used to do, and still do occasionally, is to start with

the dessert. I have something small and sweet, which satisfies my

sweet cravings, then go on to the main course.

Another possible cause is dehydration; it can lead to cravings for

sweet things. Ensure you have had enough water before starting to

eat.

Paddy

 

Hi, folks.

  Almost every time I eat, I find I crave

something sweet at the end of a meal. I've tried not

having it because I'm not hungry, but I'm left

feeling unsatisfied. So I try, when I can, to leave

room at the end of a meal for that sweet something.

But I'm not always able to calibrate when I should

stop eating my meal so that I have room for a bite

of sweet, and sometimes I end up having it on top of

an already full stomach. It might be ice cream, an

apple, a cookie, a piece of chocolate or even some

orange juice, depending on what I crave, as long as

it's sweet. I do worry that this amounts to

overeating.  

  Anyone else experience this?

April M.

[Guest guest]

Never thought about the water thing, Paddy. I do struggle with dehydration a lot because I have a hard time making myself drink. It will be interesting to see if the cravings diminish when I drink more. Thanks!

Something I used to do, and still do occasionally, is to start with the dessert. I have something small and sweet, which satisfies my sweet cravings, then go on to the main course.Another possible cause is dehydration; it can lead to cravings for sweet things. Ensure you have had enough water before starting to eat.Paddy

Hi, folks.

Almost every time I eat, I find I crave something sweet at the end of a meal. I've tried not having it because I'm not hungry, but I'm left feeling unsatisfied. So I try, when I can, to leave room at the end of a meal for that sweet something. But I'm not always able to calibrate when I should stop eating my meal so that I have room for a bite of sweet, and sometimes I end up having it on top of an already full stomach. It might be ice cream, an apple, a cookie, a piece of chocolate or even some orange juice, depending on what I crave, as long as it's sweet. I do worry that this amounts to overeating.

Anyone else experience this?

April M.

[Guest guest]

Hi April,

I've been experiencing that craving for something sweet at the end of the meal,

too. I appreciate all the ideas people have given you and think I'll try some

of them. Also, tho', for me it's been a big thing just to give myself

permission for it to be ok to have this craving for something sweet at the end

of the meal, rather than try to get rid of it. By making it ok, there's no

question of whether I'm going to have it or not - I know I am - so I know I need

to stop eating a few bites short of feeling satisfied/full, to have room.

The other thing I'm doing recently, is keeping a bar of 85% cocoa in the house.

Sometimes I eat it before a meal, sometimes after. I find if I let it melt in

my mouth, I really only want a square or two of it. With other sweets I'm still

finding it difficult to stop before the point where I'll feel uncomfortable

after, so I like how this alternative works for me.

Where I have the most trouble with this, is at restaurants. Desserts at most

places are so big, and I don't always have someone to share with - and even if I

do, half is still often more than my body feels good with after - yet I don't do

well with either getting half to bring home, or just leaving it.

Best,

>

>

> Hi, folks.

> Almost every time I eat, I find I crave something sweet at the end of a

> meal. I've tried not having it because I'm not hungry, but I'm left feeling

> unsatisfied. So I try, when I can, to leave room at the end of a meal for

> that sweet something. But I'm not always able to calibrate when I should

> stop eating my meal so that I have room for a bite of sweet, and sometimes I

> end up having it on top of an already full stomach. It might be ice cream,

> an apple, a cookie, a piece of chocolate or even some orange juice,

> depending on what I crave, as long as it's sweet. I do worry that this

amounts to

> overeating.

> Anyone else experience this?

> April M.

>

[Guest guest]

Good observation Dawn. I too have noticed that such desires do wane if allowed

to run their course. Happily you are following the 'savor' suggestion of IE!

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

> I have been doing the IE thing for a little over a month now and I am soooooo

> enjoying the desserts! Maybe a little too much sometimes but it is getting

to a

> point where I don't want them quite as much. Of course...sometimes I still

do. I

> guess it just varies but I do have to watch myself because I WILL

eat desserts

> when I am not hungry. They are just so dang yummy! ~DawnC~

>  

>

[Guest guest]

Yes, I forgot to say, I don't ONLY have the very dark chocolate in the house, I

also (now) have all kinds of other goodies too. For the first month or maybe it

was more, I was loving eating them, whenever I wanted, however much. I did

experience some hours or even days of fear about weight gain, but I was

committed to this, so I kept on.

Then at some point I realized I was often ending up feeling uncomfortable,

either in fullness level or tired/logy level (too much sugar makes me tired) and

I didn't like how that felt. I realized this was happening 'cause I was doing

that thing of eating the " whatever " , without being true to paying attention to

my body's hunger or fullness cues (usually the latter).

I didn't want to feel so full or tired, so I started to not want to choose the

goodies so much anymore. It's true what people here have said, I'm amazed at

how long a bag of Pepperidge Farm cookies are staying on my shelf now, I never

would have guessed I could do that! And it's clearly because I know I CAN have

them if I'm hungry and want to, but more often choosing not to. And it's funny,

I'm even realizing that sometimes I know I'll be able to have just one or two

cookies, and other times I can feel that I'm not in a place to do that, and I'd

rather reach for something that feels easier for me to handle so I don't end up

feeling too tired.

That's why sometimes now I'm choosing to do the couple squares of dark chocolate

- it's a way to let it be ok that I want something sweet, without ending up with

the tiredness or too-fullness. It's funny, I stopped eating pancakes years ago

because I noticed they made me very, very tired. Then, every couple years, I'd

try them again, and have the same experience, and stop eating them again. Now I

never want them, because I don't want to feel that way. A lot of these other

goodies have the same effect on me but not nearly as dramatically - it's a

little too tired or full, rather than too tired for a whole afternoon or evening

- it's more subtle, so it's harder to figure out what choices I want to make.

But I'm learning!

I suspect this will still go thru other phases, but for now, I'm excited to be

where I am with it. Wish I could get there with restaurant eating, too, in some

way! (I'm doing well most of the time at saving part of the meal to bring home,

if I'm satisfied/full, but not the dessert).

> >

> >

> > Hi, folks.

> > Almost every time I eat, I find I crave something sweet at the end of a

> > meal. I've tried not having it because I'm not hungry, but I'm left feeling

> > unsatisfied. So I try, when I can, to leave room at the end of a meal for

> > that sweet something. But I'm not always able to calibrate when I should

> > stop eating my meal so that I have room for a bite of sweet, and sometimes I

> > end up having it on top of an already full stomach. It might be ice cream,

> > an apple, a cookie, a piece of chocolate or even some orange juice,

> > depending on what I crave, as long as it's sweet. I do worry that this

amounts

> >to

> >

> > overeating.

> > Anyone else experience this?

> > April M.

> >

>