Guest guest Posted September 16, 2010 Report Share Posted September 16, 2010 Hi Sweetie, I'm glad it isn't as bad as you expected. One million hugs. I've often thought of volunteering at hospice - can you tell me about it? On Wed, Sep 15, 2010 at 10:15 PM, slingshot2hell wrote: > > > That sounds really difficult to go through, I'm glad it sounds like you are > getting through it alright. > > Best wishes > > Casey > > > > > > > I wrote earlier that my mom went on hospice and that my husband and I > > planned to visit her later in the week. Well, she went from alert and > > conscious though sleepy on Monday night - to no consciousness on Tuesday > > afternoon. My brother asked me to come and help him, so I am now here. > Many > > things have been good - it really is a blessing that she is not conscious > > and is not in pain. She will not be given food or liquids per her wishes > - > > comfort care only. So, it is a matter of time at this point. There have > > been a lot of things to navigate including a well meaning and helpful > friend > > who has become more than a bit too controlling and overbearing about my > > mom's care. And I am really tired, but overall grateful - things could be > > and could have been much worse. Have been able to make a bunch of future > > plans with my brother - thank fully we are really on the same page about > her > > care and what happens afterward. > > > > MY > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 2010 Report Share Posted September 16, 2010 Not mortified in the least. Unconcious is the only way I would be willing to face my nada. I totally understand, I think I could give her care if she were unable to speak, hit, lash out etc, just like I could any other dying woman. Good luck sweetie. I hope this journey is a healing one for you. > > > Thank you everyone for your kind messages. I really, really appreciate > them. > > One thing that I think I can reallly only say here and to my husband is - I > did not get here while she was conscious and that has turned out to be a > huge blessing .(I did not feel like I needed to see her at all before she > died so I mean in contrast to if she were conscious.) She is not so scary > to > me unconscious, she is not able to push all of my buttons by demanding > things and switching between the waif and the queen in her dying, I don't > have to deal with her waffling about every decision and then her doubt of > it > afterward - I am just making them for her (like no feeding tube, etc.). In > a > wierd way, having her unconscious has enabled me to care for her in a way > that I never could have if she were conscious. If she were conscious, I > would already have gone back home, but I find myself able to be here and to > actually be glad to be part of the process. > > I'm so glad I can expres this here and that you all understand. Many people > here assume that I am or should be upset that I did not see her when she > was > conscious and would be mortified that I am actually really, really glad > that > I did not and find relief in being with her in her current state. > > Thank you all. > > MY > > On Wed, Sep 15, 2010 at 7:45 PM, MY <mgrowingup@...<mgrowingup%40gmail.com>> > wrote: > > > I wrote earlier that my mom went on hospice and that my husband and I > > planned to visit her later in the week. Well, she went from alert and > > conscious though sleepy on Monday night - to no consciousness on Tuesday > > afternoon. My brother asked me to come and help him, so I am now here. > Many > > things have been good - it really is a blessing that she is not conscious > > and is not in pain. She will not be given food or liquids per her wishes > - > > comfort care only. So, it is a matter of time at this point. There have > > been a lot of things to navigate including a well meaning and helpful > friend > > who has become more than a bit too controlling and overbearing about my > > mom's care. And I am really tired, but overall grateful - things could be > > and could have been much worse. Have been able to make a bunch of future > > plans with my brother - thank fully we are really on the same page about > her > > care and what happens afterward. > > > > MY > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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