Re: Re: As long as you don't make me mad

[Guest guest]

Oh yeah. Or the famous line of " as long as you don't nag me. "

My mother used to claim I " nagged " her, which made her nervous. She was

definitely the waify/hermit BPD with some witchy/queen thrown in for good

measure. It was always that people were supposedly expecting more of her than

they should and she was in some way going to be taken advantage of.

I once complained to her that she never wanted to do anything with me...like go

to lunch or just go shopping and she spouted back at me that the only reason I

wanted her to go somewhere was that she could pay for it. Totally untrue. Even

when I OFFERED to pay for she woudln't go. Stupid excuses. Stupid BPD. I hate

BPD.

Re: " As long as you don't make me mad "

gosh, before she gets a chance you can say, 'it will, as long as you don't make

me mad.'. LOL

>

> This is the USUAL catchy phrase that my nada uses every time she comes for a

visit.

> She starts with a " well, let's hope that everythig goes well.. " and to the

typical response " Why shouldn't it go well? " she always ends with a cryptic

" things will go well, as long as you don't make me mad " , which infuriates me

right away.

>

> She knows very well that the rage and the arguments are always around the

corner, but with a 'preemptive strike' she put the blame already on me, no

matter what. Even before nothing happens, she is ready to blame me or my family

if SHE starts acting up.

>

> They are devilish, aren't they?

>

[Guest guest]

In a way, I'd say is at least partially responsible, but not in

a way that says anything good about her. We are forced to learn

to be strong and tough to survive the abuse and neglect while

growing up.

Taking credit is something they're so good at. My nada acts like

she's basking in the glory of various things that we do when she

talks to outsiders. The things in question have nothing to do

with her, but she seems to feel like people should think well of

her because her children have done various good things. Her

prattlings about my sister being in the army make me sick. She

didn't like that choice when my sister made it, so what possible

right could she have to somehow take credit for her choice? How

can she go around bragging about my sister 's accomplishments

when she's never had a good word to say to my sister herself?

At 10:02 AM 08/23/2010 faerydancing96 wrote:

>Oh , I know how that goes. They take credit for

>everything. Even to this day, I have not spoken to my nada in

>over 8 years and yet she claims I am now strong and tough

>because that is how she raised me! I got my strength from her!

>HAHAHA ROTFLMAO! LB

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Katrina