Re: hate my body right now

[Guest guest]

A,

I am pregnant too, and I can really relate!

I feel like people make it sound like pregnancy is when you abandon all your body issues... but sometimes I feel like it accentuates them! The rapid changes in our bodies can be totally bewildering! And for me, people don't know at work apart from in my office and I am self conscious about when they will notice. So I'm walking around like a teenager with brand new breasts... shoulders and back hunched over.

Try to remember your body is doing a beautiful, miraculous thing, something we are privileged to experience. What could be more incredible than building a baby?!

And have patience with yourself... becoming a parent, even if not for the first time, is a LOT to adjust to! I freak out pretty often, too, also mostly about body issues.

Try to let go and trust your body if you can... it's amazing what it can do! And focus on nurturing your inner you.

Best,

Abby

18 weeks pregnant and completely weirded out by the maternity jeans she is wearing

> I was just video taping dialogues with my students and I played it back and that's when i WENT LIKE : OH MY GOSH..i HATE MY FAT BODY RIGHT NOW.

> I am pregnant by the way..so the challenge is biogger now.> I didn't gain weight during the first trimester.This past week was quite emotional and I overate and I have not stepped on the scale..but I feel the gain, the pain, the struggle

> > anyway, time to work on accepting my body> > have a good weekend everyone> A>

[Guest guest]

I was doing fine in terms of eating normal and body omages until this week.

I do know I went into an emotional battle this week and I did engage in

emotional eating.I have avoided the scale which I didnt before and I do feel all

of the sudden super huge.It is accentuated by the fact that i saw that video.

I know what I need to do and I know what affirmations I need to use but it just

feels good to share it here too.

So far I am not wearing maternity clothes but I might need to start

anyway, good luck.

When are you due?I am expecting for late August

A

> > I was just video taping dialogues with my students and I played it back

> and that's when i WENT LIKE : OH MY GOSH..i HATE MY FAT BODY RIGHT NOW.

> > I am pregnant by the way..so the challenge is biogger now.

> > I didn't gain weight during the first trimester.This past week was quite

> emotional and I overate and I have not stepped on the scale..but I feel the

> gain, the pain, the struggle

> >

> > anyway, time to work on accepting my body

> >

> > have a good weekend everyone

> > A

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Hi A and Abby,

Congratulations to you both! Pregnancy is so amazing!

I'm and I have a 3 and 4 year old so I remember well the pregnancy feelings

of not recognizing and frankly being disgusted by my body during pregnancy. If

it helps, it's totally normal to feel that way. I loved the parts of feeling

the baby kick, but when I would look in the mirror when taking a shower I was

horrified. I don't even have hardly any pictures of me pregnant because I

didn't want pictures taken of me. I can't imagine how a video would have felt!

Then toward the end despite the lotions, to my horror I got stretch marks all

over my belly and even some other places! They were horrible looking! So if

you get them, don't panic because mine have faded and are barely noticeable now!

I guess it's because literally your body isn't your own for this time. If you

breastfeed (I'm so glad I did, totally worth it), you'll feel your body isn't

your own even longer.

However, I didn't know about IE back then,but after having each child I didn't

have time to think about dieting so much and without knowing it, I was eating

intuitively. Food lost its power during that time because I was so immersed in

taking care of this newborn. Between breastfeeding which helps getting your

body back and being more active with the baby and just eating when hungry, I got

back to my pre-pregnancy size. It's just that I wasn't happy there and

eventually started back with the dieting and obsessing over calories, binging,

etc.

I'm sure it is hard to eat intuitively when pregnant since it feels like at

times you could eat and eat and eat all day. Just don't stress about it

because someday you'll be like me and miss that special time of being pregnant

and having a newborn. There is nothing easy about it, but it is so special and

short lived. Try to roll with all of it because you will feel like your body

is your own again.... and those stretch marks will fade.

All the best,

> > > I was just video taping dialogues with my students and I played it back

> > and that's when i WENT LIKE : OH MY GOSH..i HATE MY FAT BODY RIGHT NOW.

> > > I am pregnant by the way..so the challenge is biogger now.

> > > I didn't gain weight during the first trimester.This past week was quite

> > emotional and I overate and I have not stepped on the scale..but I feel the

> > gain, the pain, the struggle

> > >

> > > anyway, time to work on accepting my body

> > >

> > > have a good weekend everyone

> > > A

> > >

> >

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