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[Guest guest]

Sohni,

Thanks for the welcome. There are a few contributing factors - I injured my back

(the jury's still out on what exactly I did) and was forced to stop running so I

gained a few pounds, my sister lost a lot of weight (I won't bore everyone with

the details of my long history of comparing myself to her even though we have

different body types), and I got engaged - which is slightly terrifying to me -

I finally found the right guy and I know that I want to be married to him, but

there's a staggering legacy of divorce in my family and I guess I have an innate

fear of taking the plunge, so to speak.  Anyway- I think all of these things

swirled together to make up the perfect storm and I latched on to the " oh I'll

look so much better in my dress if I lose 10lbs... " idea.  At least I've settled

down enough to realize what's happening and am trying to work through it, right?

AJ

[Guest guest]

Congratulations on your engagement! I understand that it can be both

wonderful and frightening.

I hear you on the sister thing, except my sister is thin as a rail and

always has been. She weighs within 2 lbs. of what she weighed in high

school (which was very little). Even when I was at what was probably

my ideal weight I was big compared to her. So you can imagine what a

struggle that has been--I adore my sister, but it's SO hard having a

really skinny sibling when you're not built that way naturally.

Self-awareness is always the first step, so you're going in the right

direction.

Sohni

Anjeanette Alldredge wrote:

Sohni,

Thanks for the welcome. There are a few contributing factors - I

injured my back (the jury's still out on what exactly I did) and was

forced to stop running so I gained a few pounds, my sister lost a lot

of weight (I won't bore everyone with the details of my long history of

comparing myself to her even though we have different body types), and

I got engaged - which is slightly terrifying to me - I finally found

the right guy and I know that I want to be married to him, but there's

a staggering legacy of divorce in my family and I guess I have an

innate fear of taking the plunge, so to speak. Anyway- I think all of

these things swirled together to make up the perfect storm and I

latched on to the "oh I'll look so much better in my dress if I lose

10lbs..." idea. At least I've settled down enough to realize what's

happening and am trying to work through it, right?

AJ

[Guest guest]

Yes - I forgot to mention that my sister was always thin as a rail, and could

eat anything and not gain weight. As was my Mom. So I clearly thought I was

gigantic just because I wasn't as thin as them - I look back at pictures of

myself in high school and see how big I WASN'T and it makes me sad that I

tortured myself for so long. Anyway- this was the only time in her life that

she had experienced any sort of weight gain. I thought nothing of it until she

lost it all and the old feelings of rivalry and comparison snuck back in again!

[Guest guest]

Sometimes when I'm visiting I watch how my sister eats because she's

very much a natural eater. She eats what she wants, but she really

eats very little (at least compared to what I would need to eat to keep

from starving). She has a minuscule stomach capacity. I don't think

she has ever finished an entire can of soda. She did go through a

period in her early 20s where she was in a depressing time and gained

about 20 lbs. from too much junk food, but she lost it and it's never

happened again (that was almost 30 years ago)--which just goes to show

that even natural eaters can have "those times." She has her issues,

but food problems aren't one of them.

Sohni

Anjeanette Alldredge wrote:

Yes - I forgot to mention that my sister was always thin as a

rail, and could eat anything and not gain weight. As was my Mom. So I

clearly thought I was gigantic just because I wasn't as thin as them -

I look back at pictures of myself in high school and see how big I

WASN'T and it makes me sad that I tortured myself for so long. Anyway-

this was the only time in her life that she had experienced any sort of

weight gain. I thought nothing of it until she lost it all and the old

feelings of rivalry and comparison snuck back in again!

[Guest guest]

Hi everyone,

My name is Jen, and I've been hip to the idea of Intuitive Eating for more than

five years now, but I can't say that I've ever gotten really good at practicing

it. In fact, I seem to fall back into dieting over and over and over again.

I recently recommitted to it, and am even taking Tribole's IE class for

health professionals (I'm a life coach), but I have a looooong way to go with

Intuitive Eating.

Every time I think I have given up dieting for good, somehow it seems that I've

been doing some " dieting in disguise " . Maybe I tricked myself into thinking that

the reason I'm not eating cheese/sugar/flour this week is because that's what my

body wants, but in reality, I'm not there yet when it comes to always listening

to my body. I can tell I feel better when I eat healthier foods, but that

doesn't mean I've gone through the processes I need to to always eat that way.

I'll keep rambling forever if I don't cut myself off, but I will say that I have

struggled with binge eating disorder which I believe started from dieting, not

ever feeling good enough about myself and of course food being the way that I

often cope with emotions. I would say my relationship with food is somewhat

disordered at this point, but I no longer have an eating disorder.

My wish: to be able to give up the idea that I need to lose weight. If I lose

weight through taking good care of myself, fine. But I think as long as I hold

onto that idea, I'm going to keep putting myself on diets on the sly, and if I

keep doing that, I won't be able to honestly eat intuitively.

Phew!

[Guest guest]

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> Hi everyone,

>

> My name is Jen, and I've been hip to the idea of Intuitive Eating for more

than five years now, but I can't say that I've ever gotten really good at

practicing it. In fact, I seem to fall back into dieting over and over and over

again.

Hi Jen, I just rejoined after a 5 year absence. We can practice together!

> My wish: to be able to give up the idea that I need to lose weight. If I lose

weight through taking good care of myself, fine. But I think as long as I hold

onto that idea, I'm going to keep putting myself on diets on the sly, and if I

keep doing that, I won't be able to honestly eat intuitively.

That's what I'm hoping for too. I actually got rid of my bathroom scale and am

only letting myself weigh in once a month (on the Wii Fit Plus balance board). I

have to really argue with myself to stay off it though... That weight thing is a

real beast.