Re: Re: Cancer Faker with BPD

August 21, 2010

It is crazy how nadas seem to have all kinds of faked or exagerated

illnesses. And I know what you mean LB about wondering if you will believe

her when she is really dying of something. My nada has had, or has claimed

to have all kinds of ailments and illnesses. Turns out that now she does

have Stage IV cancer (though she has been living with it for 4 1/2 years

now) and it is legitimate. I have been to doctors appointments and have show

lab/scan reports to physician friends who do confirm that she really does

have cancer. The thing is, she tends to use having cancer as such a huge

manipulative tool to get sympathy or whatever she wants that I am often

disgusted with her rather than having any sympathy or compassion for her.

And I never know whether to believe her bad spells and many other ailments

are legitimate or just a manipulative ploy. Little by little I am getting

more comfortable with the fact that when she is really dying, I will likely

not believe it.

MY

On Sat, Aug 21, 2010 at 6:42 AM, faerydancing96 wrote:

>

> Holy Cow! That story is crazy, and to think she is only 23! She will have a

> long life.

>

> My nada has repeatedly been dying from something over the years. The first

> time she had " ovarian cancer " I was 8 and VERY worried! I brought it up to

> my doctor/her doctor also after giving birth because I wanted them to check

> for any signs in me at my check up. I was so worried because my grandma also

> had it and my aunt had the some things removed too form the same area all

> around my age, so I really thought I needed to be careful. I was talking to

> him about my " family medical history " or so I thought, when he told me, " no

> that never happened, she never had that. she lied to you " And that is when

> he told me all about BPD/NPD and Conversion Reaction Disorder. I about had

> to change my pants, I couldn't believe my ears.

>

> Ever since I have paid closer attention, and noticed all the many times she

> is " dying " . Now it is somewhat of a joke, we try to guess what she will

> catch next. Once we were playing the guessing game, and we had the medical

> dictionary open at a holiday at my grandma's house and dishrag unexpectedly

> walked in! OPPS! We quickly put it away. Lol! The real funny thing, is that

> just a few weeks later she was dying of something, but we were all wrong on

> the guess.

>

> My only fear is that I won't believe her when she really is dying of

> something…..LB

>

> >

> > My step mother has been " dying " from everything since I met her more than

> 20 years ago. Recently she " developed " cancer. I don't know if she has it or

> not, but she made a miraculous recovery this spring and went to Cuba!

> >

> > Here is a story of a woman in Ontario who claimed she had cancer too,

> surprise surprise, she has BPD:

> >

> > http://ca.news.yahoo.com/s/capress/100820/national/fake_cancer_arrest

> >

>

August 22, 2010

My goodnes, this sounds soooo familair. My mother feigned illness allll the

time. If she had a cold, she was " sicker than a dog " and it was always my fault

(or my dad or sister for " dragging it home to her. " She would claim she got

sicker than anyone else.

Well, then she got diagnosed with emphysema (she smoked my whole life) and she

sat in a chair because she " couldn't breathe. " Which meant she couldn't cook, do

laundry, or even walk -- she made my dad get her a wheelchair. She did finally

die in 2007, but the night before she died, I didn't even believe she was as

sick as she was claiming. How could I? She had cried wolf my whole life!!!

Then when she truly was sick or dying, no one believed her.

Re: Re: Cancer Faker with BPD

It is crazy how nadas seem to have all kinds of faked or exagerated

llnesses. And I know what you mean LB about wondering if you will believe

er when she is really dying of something. My nada has had, or has claimed

o have all kinds of ailments and illnesses. Turns out that now she does

ave Stage IV cancer (though she has been living with it for 4 1/2 years

ow) and it is legitimate. I have been to doctors appointments and have show

ab/scan reports to physician friends who do confirm that she really does

ave cancer. The thing is, she tends to use having cancer as such a huge

anipulative tool to get sympathy or whatever she wants that I am often

isgusted with her rather than having any sympathy or compassion for her.

nd I never know whether to believe her bad spells and many other ailments

re legitimate or just a manipulative ploy. Little by little I am getting

ore comfortable with the fact that when she is really dying, I will likely

ot believe it.

MY

On Sat, Aug 21, 2010 at 6:42 AM, faerydancing96 wrote:

>

Holy Cow! That story is crazy, and to think she is only 23! She will have a

long life.

My nada has repeatedly been dying from something over the years. The first

time she had " ovarian cancer " I was 8 and VERY worried! I brought it up to

my doctor/her doctor also after giving birth because I wanted them to check

for any signs in me at my check up. I was so worried because my grandma also

had it and my aunt had the some things removed too form the same area all

around my age, so I really thought I needed to be careful. I was talking to

him about my " family medical history " or so I thought, when he told me, " no

that never happened, she never had that. she lied to you " And that is when

he told me all about BPD/NPD and Conversion Reaction Disorder. I about had

to change my pants, I couldn't believe my ears.

Ever since I have paid closer attention, and noticed all the many times she

is " dying " . Now it is somewhat of a joke, we try to guess what she will

catch next. Once we were playing the guessing game, and we had the medical

dictionary open at a holiday at my grandma's house and dishrag unexpectedly

walked in! OPPS! We quickly put it away. Lol! The real funny thing, is that

just a few weeks later she was dying of something, but we were all wrong on

the guess.

My only fear is that I won't believe her when she really is dying of

somethingï¿½..LB

>

> My step mother has been " dying " from everything since I met her more than

20 years ago. Recently she " developed " cancer. I don't know if she has it or

not, but she made a miraculous recovery this spring and went to Cuba!

>

> Here is a story of a woman in Ontario who claimed she had cancer too,

surprise surprise, she has BPD:

>

> http://ca.news.yahoo.com/s/capress/100820/national/fake_cancer_arrest

>

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August 22, 2010

I have asked myself that question so many times....

My mother told me when I was about 11 that she had breast cancer and was going

to die. Turns out that she had a fibroid tumor removed.

And even if the doctor said they had to check for cancer (and she did have it

removed), she certainly did not handle it well with me at all.

Then when she got home, she laid on the couch for 2 years complaining about how

much pain she was in with her chest.

Re: Cancer Faker with BPD

OMG, why are we saddled with these nutjobs?

August 22, 2010

I have seen a lot of people online do things like that. If you google the

" April Rose Scandal, " you'll see a 20-someting year old woman who kept a blog

about her dying baby. She grabbed the hearts of many popular bloggers. People

sent her gifts and lots and lots of prayers. Some talked to her on the phone.

It was all a lie. There have been others to do that as well.

On a smaller scale, I met a woman who I now believe was BPD in a yahoo group

like this one for people with Dissociative Identity Disorder. We began emailing

privately and then eventually exchanged numbers. She was a little older than

me, single, and lived alone. Well, I began to doubt some of her story after we

became friends on FB and saw that she was " friends " with her very family she

claims so severely sexually molested her. Long story of why i doubted, but I

did....anyway, after a few months, she started calling me 3, 4, and 5 times a

day - sometimes more. Umm, I am a married woman with 3 children and I did not

have time to talk to her, so I just didn't answer a lot of times when she

called. She started leaving me really ugly messages. Like " I know you're

there! Why won't you just answer my calls? " This went on and on. I would email

and say, " Oh, sorry. I was just busy. " Finally it got worse and worse until I

had to break off the relationship and leave the group. I think she was BPD.

She psycho-called me just like my mother used to do and some of her story just

didn't add up. A HUGE attention-seeker is what she was.