Guest guest Posted August 21, 2010 Report Share Posted August 21, 2010 Oh , I know the prospect of seeing a nada is a scary one. But you have so much power. You have so many choices to make. You could move the party to another location and not let nada know where it went. Or if that doesn't suit that's okay, just greet her politley, tell her she needs to leave, and tell her you will call the cops if she doesn't For my nada at least, this would probably bring on the helpless, clinging waif, and that's when someone puts her in the car and drives her away. Just think through it, be prepared, and remember, she has no power over you anymore. The only power she has left is to embarass you in public by acting like a mental patient. And while that is embarrassing, its not fatal, right. Does that help? Talk to us as you get ready and we'll see how you are feeling and things as it progresses. WIshin you the best. Almost wish I could be there to guard the door for you. Girlscout On Sat, Aug 21, 2010 at 6:44 PM, Stefanie Low wrote: > Kim, > I know how you feel. I have those feelings too at times..I hate it. If she > comes you send her away immediately. Do it while she is at the door > ..close > the door behind you so your guest don't see. Be firm..Be a wall! She can > not get past you no matter what. be prepared to call the cops if you have > to..And remember YOU didn't cause a scene..she did. A normal person would > not show up at a house she was told she is not welcomed at. > If guest do and say aw let her stay ..be firm and say ... " it's difficult > to explain " but I need to put my food down with her and follow thru with > what I say to her otherwise she will walk all over me. Most people even > if > they don't understand BPD with understand that part. > > I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you too..I hope your babies' Birthday is > wonderful and full of fun and wonderful things..Picture her pretty little > face opening gifts:) > > Stefanie > > > On Sat, Aug 21, 2010 at 6:28 PM, Simpson <rc822306@... > >wrote: > > > > > > > Hello, > > > > I am panicking and probably need talked some sense into. Tomorrow is my > DDs > > birthday as well as her party. I have an increasing feeling of > > dread/anxiety that nada will show up sometime tomorrow. Her behavior > always > > gets more out of control around birthdays/holidays. She is also already > out > > of control due to the boundaries and NC. I am well prepared to ask her to > > leave and call the police. I fear still that she will do something > > outrageous. I am also afraid that if she pulls the crying or being calm > at > > first stuff that I am going to have an argument with others at the party > > telling me to let her stay. Nada truly feels that she has a right to " her > > grandbabies " as she calls them and therefore has rights to > > birthdays/holidays. Hubby thinks that since she mailed the card that is a > > good indication she will not show and he may be right but I am still > > terrified. > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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