Re: Re: Scared to be thin?

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Latoya,

Just out of curiosity (I'm new to the program), did IE help you release weight?

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To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Sun, May 2, 2010 6:28:30 PMSubject: Re: Scared to be thin?

I've definitely felt resistance to "losing weight" for a variety of reasons. I've realized that I don't want to associate with being "thin" or with being "fat." Both of these words have gotten way too supercharged in our society. I make it a point not to use words like skinny, thin, or fat.I heard about a story on the radio as I was taking a trip out of town this weekend. Some of you may have heard about it. A woman tackled and bit off the ear of a guy who called her "fat." When I got back into town today, I decided to look into the story to make sure that it was real! It was: http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/2010/04/30/2010-04-30_woman_bites_man_after_being_called_fat.htmlAbby mentioned the intuitive eating concept of allowing your body to find its natural size/weight. Trusting the IE process in that way is a challenge. On a diet, you can see pretty immediate "results" in terms of forcing a change in your body size. With IE, a

change in body size is not the focus, though it can be a side effect. For me, the process has been about creating the most optimal and caring relationship with my body that's possible. Instead of thinking about being fat or thin, I've practiced and committed to IE because I have enjoyed my life so much more through this process.LatoyaPracticing IE since Jan '08>> Hi and Dawn,> > I think both wanting and fearing being thin is incredibly common in our> group. I think when we are always dieting, weight loss is held out as the> goal that will solve all of our problems. But when we stop dieting and start> to get better acquainted

with our own selves we discover that eating isn't> really the problem, and weight loss isn't really the solution... but both of> these things help us, in some ways, cope with our other issues. If we start> facing our fears and stop eating for comfort we lose two coping mechanims,> one being eating and the other being dieting.> > I don't feel like I'm being articulate at all, in terms of addressing what> you said...sorry!> > Anyway, , I think it's AWESOME that you are in a comfortable place> with your body! Being negative doesn't make you more likely to lose weight,> anyway! I think when you love your body it ceases to be a battleground. ..> which makes it more, not less, likely to seek it's own natural level. This> is something I still really struggle with. I know intellectually that loving> myself can only help but at the same time there's a big part

of me that> feels like accepting myself now means giving up on ever losing weight, which> I don't feel ready for.> > I hope maybe some of this is helpful.> > Best,> Abby> > IE since 11/08>

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Latoya,

I visited/subscribed to your blog. Your story gives me hope for change. I am average sized, but my parents started me with negative talk and diets at the age of 6. I am now 28 and have been on every diet which led to compulsive overeating which turned into full-on bulimia and now am working through all of it. Thank you so much for sharing your success. It truely inspires me that I too can change:o)

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To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Mon, May 3, 2010 11:14:38 AMSubject: Re: Scared to be thin?

,The short answer is: Yes. I wrote about the process recently on my new Transformative Eating site: http://wellness. firstgenerationp rofessional. com/the-quest- for-balance- and-an-unexpecte d-peace-treatyI like that you used the term "release weight" because in my experience I didn't actually "lose weight"...my body changed sizes in response to me finally learning to listen to it and take care of it, in large part through practicing IE.> >> > Hi and Dawn,> > > > I think both wanting and fearing being thin is incredibly common in our> > group. I think when we are always dieting, weight loss is held out as the> > goal that will solve all of our problems. But when we stop dieting and start> > to get better acquainted with our own selves we discover that eating isn't> > really the problem, and weight loss isn't really the solution... but both of> > these things help us, in some ways, cope with our other issues. If we start> > facing our fears and stop eating for comfort we lose two coping mechanims,> > one being eating and the other being dieting.> > > > I don't feel like I'm being articulate at all, in

terms of addressing what> > you said...sorry!> > > > Anyway, , I think it's AWESOME that you are in a comfortable place> > with your body! Being negative doesn't make you more likely to lose weight,> > anyway! I think when you love your body it ceases to be a battleground. ..> > which makes it more, not less, likely to seek it's own natural level. This> > is something I still really struggle with. I know intellectually that loving> > myself can only help but at the same time there's a big part of me that> > feels like accepting myself now means giving up on ever losing weight, which> > I don't feel ready for.> > > > I hope maybe some of this is helpful.> > > > Best,> > Abby> > > > IE since 11/08> >>

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Hi ,

I started on the diet road at about 8, when the doctor decided I

weighed too much for my height (looking back at pictures I can see I

was very muscular, but the dr. didn't take that into consideration). 

Huge mistake, of course.  I also come from a family where we didn't get

to choose what we ate and had to eat everything we were given.  I

pretty much learned to eat mindlessly because so much of what I was

served were foods I disliked.  One of the great challenges for me is to

learn what I really like to eat and not just eat food because it's

there.  I was also bulimic in my 20s but managed to overcome that on my

own.

My younger son is built like a bull and when he was younger his weight

was always off the charts in comparison to his height.  Fortunately his

doctor had the sense to look at him and see that he wasn't overweight

at all, just muscular.  Now he's 14 and his weight fits his height, and

he's a very normal eater (for a teenage boy, ha).  I'm so thankful I

didn't allow myself to feed into the hype about weight/height ratios

for him.

Sohni

 

Latoya,

I visited/subscribed to your blog. Your story gives me hope for

change. I am average sized, but my parents started me with negative

talk and diets at the age of 6. I am now 28 and have been on every diet

which led to compulsive overeating which turned into full-on bulimia

and now am working through all of it. Thank you so much for sharing

your success. It truely inspires me that I too can change:o)

 

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Sent: Mon, May 3, 2010

11:14:38 AM

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Re: Scared to be thin?

 

,

The short answer is: Yes. I wrote about the process recently on my new

Transformative Eating site: http://wellness. firstgenerationp

rofessional. com/the-quest- for-balance- and-an-unexpecte d-peace-treaty

I like that you used the term "release weight" because in my experience

I didn't actually "lose weight"...my body changed sizes in response to

me finally learning to listen to it and take care of it, in large part

through practicing IE.

> >

> > Hi and Dawn,

> >

> > I think both wanting and fearing being thin is incredibly

common in our

> > group. I think when we are always dieting, weight loss is

held out as the

> > goal that will solve all of our problems. But when we stop

dieting and start

> > to get better acquainted with our own selves we discover that

eating isn't

> > really the problem, and weight loss isn't really the

solution... but both of

> > these things help us, in some ways, cope with our other

issues. If we start

> > facing our fears and stop eating for comfort we lose two

coping mechanims,

> > one being eating and the other being dieting.

> >

> > I don't feel like I'm being articulate at all, in terms of

addressing what

> > you said...sorry!

> >

> > Anyway, , I think it's AWESOME that you are in a

comfortable place

> > with your body! Being negative doesn't make you more likely

to lose weight,

> > anyway! I think when you love your body it ceases to be a

battleground. ..

> > which makes it more, not less, likely to seek it's own

natural level. This

> > is something I still really struggle with. I know

intellectually that loving

> > myself can only help but at the same time there's a big part

of me that

> > feels like accepting myself now means giving up on ever

losing weight, which

> > I don't feel ready for.

> >

> > I hope maybe some of this is helpful.

> >

> > Best,

> > Abby

> >

> > IE since 11/08

> >

>

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Well I am 29 in July lol I wish I had discovered this sooner!Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerryDate: Tue, 04 May 2010 15:29:31 -0000To: <IntuitiveEating_Support >Subject: Re: Scared to be thin? ,When the desire to heal and work through things is inside of you, then anything is possible! Wow 6 years old. You're at a great point in your life to work through areas that have been limiting you. I didn't discover IE until I was almost 31.I'm so grateful to have found the intuitive eating process that I want to share it with anyone who's willing to listen and may also benefit. I really believe that eating intuitively needs to be a part of any national health and wellness dialogue. So, that site is a way to contribute by sharing about something that I truly love. I'm glad to know that your experiencing some benefit from it!> > >> > > Hi and Dawn,> > > > > > I think both wanting and fearing being thin is incredibly common in our> > > group. I think when we are always dieting, weight loss is held out as the> > > goal that will solve all of our problems. But when we stop dieting and start> > > to get better acquainted with our own selves we discover that eating isn't> > > really the problem, and weight loss isn't really the solution... but both of> > > these things help us, in some ways, cope with our other issues. If we start> > > facing our fears and stop eating for comfort we lose two coping mechanims,> > > one being eating and the other being dieting.> > > > > > I don't feel like I'm being articulate at all, in terms of addressing what> > > you said...sorry!> > > > > > Anyway, , I think it's AWESOME that you are in a comfortable place> > > with your body! Being negative doesn't make you more likely to lose weight,> > > anyway! I think when you love your body it ceases to be a battleground. ..> > > which makes it more, not less, likely to seek it's own natural level. This> > > is something I still really struggle with. I know intellectually that loving> > > myself can only help but at the same time there's a big part of me that> > > feels like accepting myself now means giving up on ever losing weight, which> > > I don't feel ready for.> > > > > > I hope maybe some of this is helpful.> > > > > > Best,> > > Abby> > > > > > IE since 11/08> > >> >> > > > Reply to sender | Reply to group | Reply via web post | Start a New Topic Messages in this topic (8) > Recent Activity: * New Members 9 > Visit Your Group > > Switch to: Text-Only, Daily Digest • Unsubscribe • Terms of Use> .>

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When did you discover IE Sohni?Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerryDate: Tue, 04 May 2010 09:27:41 -0700To: <IntuitiveEating_Support >Subject: Re: Re: Scared to be thin? Hi ,I started on the diet road at about 8, when the doctor decided Iweighed too much for my height (looking back at pictures I can see Iwas very muscular, but the dr. didn't take that into consideration). Huge mistake, of course.  I also come from a family where we didn't getto choose what we ate and had to eat everything we were given.  Ipretty much learned to eat mindlessly because so much of what I wasserved were foods I disliked.  One of the great challenges for me is tolearn what I really like to eat and not just eat food because it'sthere.  I was also bulimic in my 20s but managed to overcome that on myown.My younger son is built like a bull and when he was younger his weightwas always off the charts in comparison to his height.  Fortunately hisdoctor had the sense to look at him and see that he wasn't overweightat all, just muscular.  Now he's 14 and his weight fits his height, andhe's a very normal eater (for a teenage boy, ha).  I'm so thankful Ididn't allow myself to feed into the hype about weight/height ratiosfor him.Sohni Latoya,I visited/subscribed to your blog. Your story gives me hope forchange. I am average sized, but my parents started me with negativetalk and diets at the age of 6. I am now 28 and have been on every dietwhich led to compulsive overeating which turned into full-on bulimiaand now am working through all of it. Thank you so much for sharingyour success. It truely inspires me that I too can change:o) -From:latoyajw <latoyajw>To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Mon, May 3, 201011:14:38 AMSubject: Re: Scared to be thin? ,The short answer is: Yes. I wrote about the process recently on my newTransformative Eating site: http://wellness. firstgenerationprofessional. com/the-quest- for-balance- and-an-unexpecte d-peace-treatyI like that you used the term "release weight" because in my experienceI didn't actually "lose weight"...my body changed sizes in response tome finally learning to listen to it and take care of it, in large partthrough practicing IE.> >> > Hi and Dawn,> > > > I think both wanting and fearing being thin is incrediblycommon in our> > group. I think when we are always dieting, weight loss isheld out as the> > goal that will solve all of our problems. But when we stopdieting and start> > to get better acquainted with our own selves we discover thateating isn't> > really the problem, and weight loss isn't really thesolution... but both of> > these things help us, in some ways, cope with our otherissues. If we start> > facing our fears and stop eating for comfort we lose twocoping mechanims,> > one being eating and the other being dieting.> > > > I don't feel like I'm being articulate at all, in terms ofaddressing what> > you said...sorry!> > > > Anyway, , I think it's AWESOME that you are in acomfortable place> > with your body! Being negative doesn't make you more likelyto lose weight,> > anyway! I think when you love your body it ceases to be abattleground. ..> > which makes it more, not less, likely to seek it's ownnatural level. This> > is something I still really struggle with. I knowintellectually that loving> > myself can only help but at the same time there's a big partof me that> > feels like accepting myself now means giving up on everlosing weight, which> > I don't feel ready for.> > > > I hope maybe some of this is helpful.> > > > Best,> > Abby> > > > IE since 11/08> >>Replyto sender | Replyto group | Reply viaweb post | Start a New Topic Messages in this topic (8) Recent Activity:New Members 9 Visit Your Group Switch to: Text-Only,DailyDigest • Unsubscribe• Termsof Use.

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, please don't be hard on yourself! Maybe you weren't ready for IE until now.

I heard about IE back in the 90's when I was in my 30's, but it took another 30 years of my body and I fighting to finally realize that what I had been doing wasn't working and to REALLY give the IE process a try.

All the best,

Jeanne