Re: Respect your body

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BonnieI've not had the issue of wearing the too small, but I have done the baggy or frumpy clothes, and I did find that when I started to only buy what I like and what looks good on me. I feel so much better leaving the house. This has sent me through many shirts that I buy and three months later can't stand, but it's worth it. Best of luck to you. DawnSubject: Respect your bodyTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Wednesday, May 5, 2010, 6:46 AM

I am on the step about respecting your body now- although I know I still need lots of study/thinking about the others. What were your experiences on respecting your body? The wearing comfortable clothes and underwear struck home with me. I tend to keep a size even though I know the waist is too tight to be comfortable in and wear bras a cup size too small because DD bothers me so much.

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What book are you going through? Is it a twelve step?Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerryDate: Wed, 05 May 2010 12:46:03 -0000To: <IntuitiveEating_Support >Subject: Respect your body I am on the step about respecting your body now- although I know I still need lots of study/thinking about the others. What were your experiences on respecting your body? The wearing comfortable clothes and underwear struck home with me. I tend to keep a size even though I know the waist is too tight to be comfortable in and wear bras a cup size too small because DD bothers me so much.

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I can't afford all new clothes, and most of mine actually are fitting better,

but I am going to buy a few new summer bras and some shorts. I have bought only

a few outfits a season for years since I keep saying I don't want to buy this

size.

Bonnie

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need lots of study/thinking about the others. What were your experiences on

respecting your body? The wearing comfortable clothes and underwear struck home

with me. I tend to keep a size even though I know the waist is too tight to be

comfortable in and wear bras a cup size too small because DD bothers me so much.

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I am reading the early/first? book noted on this site called Intuitive Eating.

It's not 12 steps but it has 10 main ideas. I think they are listed here in the

links or database or something. If not I'll pull them off my blog and post them

later. Oh, that is another idea if anyone is interested. The 3FC (three fat

chicks) website has a support thread for IE and also offers free blogs for

anyone who signs up (free) on their website. The journal thing is great for me.

If you do get one, mine is called Fatter or Fitter at Fifty. It's no literary

masterpiece, but it does have the IE concepts listed anyway!

Bonnie

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> I am on the step about respecting your body now- although I know I still need

lots of study/thinking about the others. What were your experiences on

respecting your body? The wearing comfortable clothes and underwear struck home

with me. I tend to keep a size even though I know the waist is too tight to be

comfortable in and wear bras a cup size too small because DD bothers me so much.

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Is It Time for a New "Look"?

I've often heard when you hit a "certain age" it's all downhill from there. I haven't really noticed this myself too much, but I do have to face the fact that I've reached that "certain" age. Fortunately I hear all the time I don't look my age and I am still "carded" on a pretty regular basis. I've been known to hug a few checkout clerks, I admit it. So I've been trying to ignore the fact that working on the computer was beginning to cause headaches and the words on the screen were getting fuzzier. I've always had great eyesight and getting glasses meant I was getting older, who wants to admit that?

But in the interest of continuing to work, I finally checked out some reading glasses that you can buy at the drug store and of course, all of a sudden my world was clear again. I've been using them for about a week and a half now and my headaches are gone and my productivity has increased. Looking back it seems crazy that I resisted getting glasses. If a client were to tell me that she needed but didn't want to get glasses, I would probably remind her that getting glasses and protecting her eyes is a part of self-care. It's interesting how we often resist things that make such a positive difference in our lives. I can only imagine how much more I may have accomplished if I had bought glasses sooner, not to mention saving myself quite a few headaches.

This reminds me of a similar situation I see with the intuitive eating coaching clients I work with. Like many chronic dieters, some clients try to wear their smaller clothes they don't really fit into any longer. They are so caught up in that number on the label and they don't want to give it up or admit that they need a bigger size. So they squeeze into clothes that are too tight, uncomfortable, unattractive, and a constant reminder that they've gained weight. When this subject comes up, in addition to getting the clothes that don't fit at least out of the closet and away from daily sight, I recommend purchasing clothes that fit and look good on you right now. In the words of my mentor, get clothes that make you feel "hot and awesome". This one recommendation creates more resistance with my clients than anything else I suggest. It's like me getting glasses - I don't want to admit I need them (or

admit I'm getting older), and my clients don't want to face the label on the clothes that fit them well, at least at this time.

Here's the thing - just like I had a positive experience when I finally got glasses, when they start wearing clothes that fit and feel "hot and awesome", my clients also have amazing changes. If you don't have tight clothes reminding you that you've gained weight, you aren't as focused on your body all day long. When you are wearing clothes that fit and that flatter your shape (which can be done regardless of your figure), your confidence increases and others around you take notice and see you differently. When your "skinny" clothes aren't mocking you from your closet every morning the guilt and shame disappear and the obsessive bad body thoughts start to fade away. Ironically, this if often when weight starts to disappear (I am living proof of this! I started losing weight shortly after I bought clothes that fit...expensive clothes, too! ).

Can you relate to this situation? Are you still resisting buying clothes that fit great and feel great? I can assure you that buying clothes that fit now isn't a signal to your body that you've given up on losing weight. It doesn't mean that you're going to gain more weight just because you have accepted your body the way it is now. It means you are ready to make peace with your body and start living your life now, instead of waiting to live until you lose the weight. I got my glasses, is it your turn?

(An excellent article by Gillian Hood-son in her May 5, Stop the Weight newsletter, that was too good not to share.)

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that's great!abby

 

Is It Time for a New " Look " ?

 

I've often heard when you hit a " certain age " it's all downhill from there. I haven't really noticed this myself too much, but I do have to face the fact that I've reached that " certain " age. Fortunately I hear all the time I don't look my age and I am still " carded " on a pretty regular basis. I've been known to hug a few checkout clerks, I admit it. So I've been trying to ignore the fact that working on the computer was beginning to cause headaches and the words on the screen were getting fuzzier. I've always had great eyesight and getting glasses meant I was getting older, who wants to admit that?

But in the interest of continuing to work, I finally checked out some reading glasses that you can buy at the drug store and of course, all of a sudden my world was clear again. I've been using them for about a week and a half now and my headaches are gone and my productivity has increased. Looking back it seems crazy that I resisted getting glasses. If a client were to tell me that she needed but didn't want to get glasses, I would probably remind her that getting glasses and protecting her eyes is a part of self-care. It's interesting how we often resist things that make such a positive difference in our lives. I can only imagine how much more I may have accomplished if I had bought glasses sooner, not to mention saving myself quite a few headaches.

This reminds me of a similar situation I see with the intuitive eating coaching clients I work with. Like many chronic dieters, some clients try to wear their smaller clothes they don't really fit into any longer. They are so caught up in that number on the label and they don't want to give it up or admit that they need a bigger size. So they squeeze into clothes that are too tight, uncomfortable, unattractive, and a constant reminder that they've gained weight. When this subject comes up, in addition to getting the clothes that don't fit at least out of the closet and away from daily sight, I recommend purchasing clothes that fit and look good on you right now. In the words of my mentor, get clothes that make you feel " hot and awesome " . This one recommendation creates more resistance with my clients than anything else I suggest. It's like me getting glasses - I don't want to admit I need them (or

admit I'm getting older), and my clients don't want to face the label on the clothes that fit them well, at least at this time.

Here's the thing - just like I had a positive experience when I finally got glasses, when they start wearing clothes that fit and feel " hot and awesome " , my clients also have amazing changes. If you don't have tight clothes reminding you that you've gained weight, you aren't as focused on your body all day long. When you are wearing clothes that fit and that flatter your shape (which can be done regardless of your figure), your confidence increases and others around you take notice and see you differently. When your " skinny " clothes aren't mocking you from your closet every morning the guilt and shame disappear and the obsessive bad body thoughts start to fade away. Ironically, this if often when weight starts to disappear (I am living proof of this! I started losing weight shortly after I bought clothes that fit...expensive clothes, too! ).

Can you relate to this situation? Are you still resisting buying clothes that fit great and feel great? I can assure you that buying clothes that fit now isn't a signal to your body that you've given up on losing weight. It doesn't mean that you're going to gain more weight just because you have accepted your body the way it is now. It means you are ready to make peace with your body and start living your life now, instead of waiting to live until you lose the weight. I got my glasses, is it your turn?

 

(An excellent article by Gillian Hood-son in her May 5, Stop the Weight newsletter, that was too good not to share.)

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Very wise thoughts on the clothes. I also resisted reading glasses and actually didn't get what was happening for a long time. I thought it was lighting and bought brighter bulbs.Bonnie>> Is It Time for a New "Look"?> > I've often heard when you hit a "certain age" it's all downhill from there. I haven't really noticed this myself too much, but I do have to face the fact that I've reached that "certain" age. Fortunately I hear all the time I don't look my age and I am still "carded" on a pretty regular basis. I've been known to hug a few checkout clerks, I admit it. So I've been trying to ignore the fact that working on the computer was beginning to cause headaches and the words on the screen were getting fuzzier. I've always had great eyesight and getting glasses meant I was getting older, who wants to admit that? > But in the interest of continuing to work, I finally checked out some reading glasses that you can buy at the drug store and of course, all of a sudden my world was clear again. I've been using them for about a week and a half now and my headaches are gone and my productivity has increased. Looking back it seems crazy that I resisted getting glasses. If a client were to tell me that she needed but didn't want to get glasses, I would probably remind her that getting glasses and protecting her eyes is a part of self-care. It's interesting how we often resist things that make such a positive difference in our lives. I can only imagine how much more I may have accomplished if I had bought glasses sooner, not to mention saving myself quite a few headaches.> This reminds me of a similar situation I see with the intuitive eating coaching clients I work with. Like many chronic dieters, some clients try to wear their smaller clothes they don't really fit into any longer. They are so caught up in that number on the label and they don't want to give it up or admit that they need a bigger size. So they squeeze into clothes that are too tight, uncomfortable, unattractive, and a constant reminder that they've gained weight. When this subject comes up, in addition to getting the clothes that don't fit at least out of the closet and away from daily sight, I recommend purchasing clothes that fit and look good on you right now. In the words of my mentor, get clothes that make you feel "hot and awesome". This one recommendation creates more resistance with my clients than anything else I suggest. It's like me getting glasses - I don't want to admit I need them (or admit I'm getting older), and my clients don't want to> face the label on the clothes that fit them well, at least at this time. > Here's the thing - just like I had a positive experience when I finally got glasses, when they start wearing clothes that fit and feel "hot and awesome", my clients also have amazing changes. If you don't have tight clothes reminding you that you've gained weight, you aren't as focused on your body all day long. When you are wearing clothes that fit and that flatter your shape (which can be done regardless of your figure), your confidence increases and others around you take notice and see you differently. When your "skinny" clothes aren't mocking you from your closet every morning the guilt and shame disappear and the obsessive bad body thoughts start to fade away. Ironically, this if often when weight starts to disappear (I am living proof of this! I started losing weight shortly after I bought clothes that fit...expensive clothes, too! ).> Can you relate to this situation? Are you still resisting buying clothes that fit great and feel great? I can assure you that buying clothes that fit now isn't a signal to your body that you've given up on losing weight. It doesn't mean that you're going to gain more weight just because you have accepted your body the way it is now. It means you are ready to make peace with your body and start living your life now, instead of waiting to live until you lose the weight. I got my glasses, is it your turn? > > (An excellent article by Gillian Hood-son in her May 5, Stop the Weight newsletter, that was too good not to share.)>