Guest guest Posted September 27, 2010 Report Share Posted September 27, 2010 Doug, thank you...that was beautiful. I'll keep this on the computer so I can re-read it over and over. Laurie In a message dated 9/27/2010 4:33:25 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, doug883@... writes: So many of you have been posting such very sad stuff. I m dealing in my depression with such very sad stuff. All related to our BP parents. We sort of know this, but we sort of can t believe it. It s worth saying again. You mom never felt loved. But it wasnt you. Your mom destroyed her relationships. But it wasnt you. Your mom made horribly irresponsible decisions, and suffered dire consequences from them But it wasnt you. Your mom never in her life accepted any blame for anything she did, but blamed anyone else she could. But even that, wasnt you. Your mom never loved you and cared for you as your scared, lonely, hurting child wished she would. But that, dear one, that wasn t you. Your mom demanded from you everything you had , and were, and could ever be, and even when you gave it, found it inadequate. But , that, dear heart, that wasnt you. Your mom always expected of you more than you had, or gave, or were capable of giving, and felt cheated when she didnt get it. And even that, my dear child, that wasn t you. You deserved a mother, and didnt get it. Love, and nurture, and were denied it, protection and safety, security, all denied you. And you know what? That wasn t you. None of it was you. Do you hear me? You were not broken, or subpar, or lacking in love or character. You were not some cosmic failure, some after thought of a careless Creator. Are you listening? You were, and are, a deliberate choice, an intentional treasure, and God Himself breathed life into your heart. You were and are, worthy, and loved, and precious. That you were not treated as such is not your fault, or your failing. Believe me, this is truth. You, dear heart, are a precious soul to the Creator. You, beloved, are chosen, and wanted, and loved, and cared for, by Him, and by friends who did not have to because of the chance joining of sperm and egg, but because of the soul they found riding in your body. You are worthy, and valued, and loved. That is not what your broken parent told you, or showed you, but it is true. Here is truth. Here is healing. Take these, for they are yours. You are good. You are worthy. Hear this. Know this. Believe this. Weep, for how you were wronged, and the lies you have believed. Mourn and grieve the pain and loss. Then heal. You are worth the healing. Here is truth. Take it. Live it. Heal, dear child. You are intended for joy. May we all heal. In tears, and joy, Doug Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 27, 2010 Report Share Posted September 27, 2010 So many of you have been posting such very sad stuff. I m dealing in my depression with such very sad stuff. All related to our BP parents. We sort of know this, but we sort of can t believe it. It s worth saying again. You mom never felt loved. But it wasnt you. Your mom destroyed her relationships. But it wasnt you. Your mom made horribly irresponsible decisions, and suffered dire consequences from them But it wasnt you. Your mom never in her life accepted any blame for anything she did, but blamed anyone else she could. But even that, wasnt you. Your mom never loved you and cared for you as your scared, lonely, hurting child wished she would. But that, dear one, that wasn t you. Your mom demanded from you everything you had , and were, and could ever be, and even when you gave it, found it inadequate. But , that, dear heart, that wasnt you. Your mom always expected of you more than you had, or gave, or were capable of giving, and felt cheated when she didnt get it. And even that, my dear child, that wasn t you. You deserved a mother, and didnt get it. Love, and nurture, and were denied it, protection and safety, security, all denied you. And you know what? That wasn t you. None of it was you. Do you hear me? You were not broken, or subpar, or lacking in love or character. You were not some cosmic failure, some after thought of a careless Creator. Are you listening? You were, and are, a deliberate choice, an intentional treasure, and God Himself breathed life into your heart. You were and are, worthy, and loved, and precious. That you were not treated as such is not your fault, or your failing. Believe me, this is truth. You, dear heart, are a precious soul to the Creator. You, beloved, are chosen, and wanted, and loved, and cared for, by Him, and by friends who did not have to because of the chance joining of sperm and egg, but because of the soul they found riding in your body. You are worthy, and valued, and loved. That is not what your broken parent told you, or showed you, but it is true. Here is truth. Here is healing. Take these, for they are yours. You are good. You are worthy. Hear this. Know this. Believe this. Weep, for how you were wronged, and the lies you have believed. Mourn and grieve the pain and loss. Then heal. You are worth the healing. Here is truth. Take it. Live it. Heal, dear child. You are intended for joy. May we all heal. In tears, and joy, Doug Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 27, 2010 Report Share Posted September 27, 2010 Doug that's really beautiful. When the one person in the world who is supposed to love you doesn't, you need to hear " it's not you " ...a lot. > > So many of you have been posting such very sad stuff. I m dealing in my > depression with such very sad stuff. All related to our BP parents. > > We sort of know this, but we sort of can t believe it. > > It s worth saying again. > > You mom never felt loved. > > But it wasnt you. > > Your mom destroyed her relationships. > > But it wasnt you. > > Your mom made horribly irresponsible decisions, and suffered dire > consequences from them > > But it wasnt you. > > Your mom never in her life accepted any blame for anything she did, but > blamed anyone else she could. > > But even that, wasnt you. > > Your mom never loved you and cared for you as your scared, lonely, > hurting child wished she would. > > But that, dear one, that wasn t you. > > Your mom demanded from you everything you had , and were, and could ever > be, and even when you gave it, found it inadequate. > > But , that, dear heart, that wasnt you. > > Your mom always expected of you more than you had, or gave, or were > capable of giving, and felt cheated when she didnt get it. > > And even that, my dear child, that wasn t you. > > You deserved a mother, and didnt get it. Love, and nurture, and were > denied it, protection and safety, security, all denied you. > > And you know what? That wasn t you. > > None of it was you. > > Do you hear me? > > You were not broken, or subpar, or lacking in love or character. > You were not some cosmic failure, some after thought of a careless > Creator. > > Are you listening? > > You were, and are, a deliberate choice, an intentional treasure, and > God Himself breathed life into your heart. > You were and are, worthy, and loved, and precious. > That you were not treated as such is not your fault, or your failing. > > Believe me, this is truth. > > You, dear heart, are a precious soul to the Creator. > You, beloved, are chosen, and wanted, and loved, and cared for, by Him, > and by friends who did not have to because of the chance joining of > sperm and egg, but because of the soul they found riding in your body. > You are worthy, and valued, and loved. > That is not what your broken parent told you, or showed you, but it is > true. > > Here is truth. Here is healing. Take these, for they are yours. > > You are good. > You are worthy. > > Hear this. > > Know this. > > Believe this. > > Weep, for how you were wronged, and the lies you have believed. Mourn > and grieve the pain and loss. > > Then heal. > You are worth the healing. > > Here is truth. Take it. Live it. > > Heal, dear child. You are intended for joy. > > May we all heal. > > In tears, and joy, > > Doug > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 27, 2010 Report Share Posted September 27, 2010 Thank you Doug. I really needed to hear this. > > > So many of you have been posting such very sad stuff. I m dealing in my > depression with such very sad stuff. All related to our BP parents. > > We sort of know this, but we sort of can t believe it. > > It s worth saying again. > > You mom never felt loved. > > But it wasnt you. > > Your mom destroyed her relationships. > > But it wasnt you. > > Your mom made horribly irresponsible decisions, and suffered dire > consequences from them > > But it wasnt you. > > Your mom never in her life accepted any blame for anything she did, but > blamed anyone else she could. > > But even that, wasnt you. > > Your mom never loved you and cared for you as your scared, lonely, > hurting child wished she would. > > But that, dear one, that wasn t you. > > Your mom demanded from you everything you had , and were, and could ever > be, and even when you gave it, found it inadequate. > > But , that, dear heart, that wasnt you. > > Your mom always expected of you more than you had, or gave, or were > capable of giving, and felt cheated when she didnt get it. > > And even that, my dear child, that wasn t you. > > You deserved a mother, and didnt get it. Love, and nurture, and were > denied it, protection and safety, security, all denied you. > > And you know what? That wasn t you. > > None of it was you. > > Do you hear me? > > You were not broken, or subpar, or lacking in love or character. > You were not some cosmic failure, some after thought of a careless > Creator. > > Are you listening? > > You were, and are, a deliberate choice, an intentional treasure, and > God Himself breathed life into your heart. > You were and are, worthy, and loved, and precious. > That you were not treated as such is not your fault, or your failing. > > Believe me, this is truth. > > You, dear heart, are a precious soul to the Creator. > You, beloved, are chosen, and wanted, and loved, and cared for, by Him, > and by friends who did not have to because of the chance joining of > sperm and egg, but because of the soul they found riding in your body. > You are worthy, and valued, and loved. > That is not what your broken parent told you, or showed you, but it is > true. > > Here is truth. Here is healing. Take these, for they are yours. > > You are good. > You are worthy. > > Hear this. > > Know this. > > Believe this. > > Weep, for how you were wronged, and the lies you have believed. Mourn > and grieve the pain and loss. > > Then heal. > You are worth the healing. > > Here is truth. Take it. Live it. > > Heal, dear child. You are intended for joy. > > May we all heal. > > In tears, and joy, > > Doug > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 27, 2010 Report Share Posted September 27, 2010 That made me cry, in a good way. Thanks for sharing that, Doug. It was beautiful. And do remember that all of that applies to yourself as well: it was not you, either, Doug. May I share that (giving you credit) at the Adult Children of Narcissists Group I belong to? -Annie > > > > > > > So many of you have been posting such very sad stuff. I m dealing in my > > depression with such very sad stuff. All related to our BP parents. > > > > We sort of know this, but we sort of can t believe it. > > > > It s worth saying again. > > > > You mom never felt loved. > > > > But it wasnt you. > > > > Your mom destroyed her relationships. > > > > But it wasnt you. > > > > Your mom made horribly irresponsible decisions, and suffered dire > > consequences from them > > > > But it wasnt you. > > > > Your mom never in her life accepted any blame for anything she did, but > > blamed anyone else she could. > > > > But even that, wasnt you. > > > > Your mom never loved you and cared for you as your scared, lonely, > > hurting child wished she would. > > > > But that, dear one, that wasn t you. > > > > Your mom demanded from you everything you had , and were, and could ever > > be, and even when you gave it, found it inadequate. > > > > But , that, dear heart, that wasnt you. > > > > Your mom always expected of you more than you had, or gave, or were > > capable of giving, and felt cheated when she didnt get it. > > > > And even that, my dear child, that wasn t you. > > > > You deserved a mother, and didnt get it. Love, and nurture, and were > > denied it, protection and safety, security, all denied you. > > > > And you know what? That wasn t you. > > > > None of it was you. > > > > Do you hear me? > > > > You were not broken, or subpar, or lacking in love or character. > > You were not some cosmic failure, some after thought of a careless > > Creator. > > > > Are you listening? > > > > You were, and are, a deliberate choice, an intentional treasure, and > > God Himself breathed life into your heart. > > You were and are, worthy, and loved, and precious. > > That you were not treated as such is not your fault, or your failing. > > > > Believe me, this is truth. > > > > You, dear heart, are a precious soul to the Creator. > > You, beloved, are chosen, and wanted, and loved, and cared for, by Him, > > and by friends who did not have to because of the chance joining of > > sperm and egg, but because of the soul they found riding in your body. > > You are worthy, and valued, and loved. > > That is not what your broken parent told you, or showed you, but it is > > true. > > > > Here is truth. Here is healing. Take these, for they are yours. > > > > You are good. > > You are worthy. > > > > Hear this. > > > > Know this. > > > > Believe this. > > > > Weep, for how you were wronged, and the lies you have believed. Mourn > > and grieve the pain and loss. > > > > Then heal. > > You are worth the healing. > > > > Here is truth. Take it. Live it. > > > > Heal, dear child. You are intended for joy. > > > > May we all heal. > > > > In tears, and joy, > > > > Doug > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 27, 2010 Report Share Posted September 27, 2010 Thank you love. I think I am and continuing to struggle with exactly this - being the product of a sperm and an egg that was never meant to join. . . WTF happened? that's what I want to know. Thanks buddy On Mon, Sep 27, 2010 at 3:22 PM, anuria67854 wrote: > > > That made me cry, in a good way. > Thanks for sharing that, Doug. It was beautiful. > And do remember that all of that applies to yourself as well: > it was not you, either, Doug. > > May I share that (giving you credit) at the Adult Children of Narcissists > Group I belong to? > > -Annie > > > > > > > > > > > > > > So many of you have been posting such very sad stuff. I m dealing in my > > > depression with such very sad stuff. All related to our BP parents. > > > > > > We sort of know this, but we sort of can t believe it. > > > > > > It s worth saying again. > > > > > > You mom never felt loved. > > > > > > But it wasnt you. > > > > > > Your mom destroyed her relationships. > > > > > > But it wasnt you. > > > > > > Your mom made horribly irresponsible decisions, and suffered dire > > > consequences from them > > > > > > But it wasnt you. > > > > > > Your mom never in her life accepted any blame for anything she did, but > > > blamed anyone else she could. > > > > > > But even that, wasnt you. > > > > > > Your mom never loved you and cared for you as your scared, lonely, > > > hurting child wished she would. > > > > > > But that, dear one, that wasn t you. > > > > > > Your mom demanded from you everything you had , and were, and could > ever > > > be, and even when you gave it, found it inadequate. > > > > > > But , that, dear heart, that wasnt you. > > > > > > Your mom always expected of you more than you had, or gave, or were > > > capable of giving, and felt cheated when she didnt get it. > > > > > > And even that, my dear child, that wasn t you. > > > > > > You deserved a mother, and didnt get it. Love, and nurture, and were > > > denied it, protection and safety, security, all denied you. > > > > > > And you know what? That wasn t you. > > > > > > None of it was you. > > > > > > Do you hear me? > > > > > > You were not broken, or subpar, or lacking in love or character. > > > You were not some cosmic failure, some after thought of a careless > > > Creator. > > > > > > Are you listening? > > > > > > You were, and are, a deliberate choice, an intentional treasure, and > > > God Himself breathed life into your heart. > > > You were and are, worthy, and loved, and precious. > > > That you were not treated as such is not your fault, or your failing. > > > > > > Believe me, this is truth. > > > > > > You, dear heart, are a precious soul to the Creator. > > > You, beloved, are chosen, and wanted, and loved, and cared for, by Him, > > > and by friends who did not have to because of the chance joining of > > > sperm and egg, but because of the soul they found riding in your body. > > > You are worthy, and valued, and loved. > > > That is not what your broken parent told you, or showed you, but it is > > > true. > > > > > > Here is truth. Here is healing. Take these, for they are yours. > > > > > > You are good. > > > You are worthy. > > > > > > Hear this. > > > > > > Know this. > > > > > > Believe this. > > > > > > Weep, for how you were wronged, and the lies you have believed. Mourn > > > and grieve the pain and loss. > > > > > > Then heal. > > > You are worth the healing. > > > > > > Here is truth. Take it. Live it. > > > > > > Heal, dear child. You are intended for joy. > > > > > > May we all heal. > > > > > > In tears, and joy, > > > > > > Doug > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 27, 2010 Report Share Posted September 27, 2010 A wise man once said, there is no limit to what may be done if no one is worried about who gets credit! Certainly you can share it. Doug > > That made me cry, in a good way. > Thanks for sharing that, Doug. It was beautiful. > And do remember that all of that applies to yourself as well: > it was not you, either, Doug. > > May I share that (giving you credit) at the Adult Children of Narcissists Group I belong to? > > -Annie > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 27, 2010 Report Share Posted September 27, 2010 WTF happened? Thinking of the cat with Banderas ' voice in the latest Shrek movie. " Well, when a man has certain feelings for a woman " Not THAT you idiot! I know that part, what I meant is, Oh never mind. > > Thank you love. I think I am and continuing to struggle with exactly this - > being the product of a sperm and an egg that was never meant to join. .. . > WTF happened? that's what I want to know. > > Thanks buddy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 27, 2010 Report Share Posted September 27, 2010 Thank you Doug. Seems I need to hear this a lot, despite that I should know it already. Even though I know intellectually that I have ones who love me, I still feel I'm unworthy, broken and unlovable. I'm still totally shocked when anyone loves me, or even thinks well of me. I mourn who I might have been if I had a proper childhood. Casey > > So many of you have been posting such very sad stuff. I m dealing in my > depression with such very sad stuff. All related to our BP parents. > > We sort of know this, but we sort of can t believe it. > > It s worth saying again. > > You mom never felt loved. > > But it wasnt you. > > Your mom destroyed her relationships. > > But it wasnt you. > > Your mom made horribly irresponsible decisions, and suffered dire > consequences from them > > But it wasnt you. > > Your mom never in her life accepted any blame for anything she did, but > blamed anyone else she could. > > But even that, wasnt you. > > Your mom never loved you and cared for you as your scared, lonely, > hurting child wished she would. > > But that, dear one, that wasn t you. > > Your mom demanded from you everything you had , and were, and could ever > be, and even when you gave it, found it inadequate. > > But , that, dear heart, that wasnt you. > > Your mom always expected of you more than you had, or gave, or were > capable of giving, and felt cheated when she didnt get it. > > And even that, my dear child, that wasn t you. > > You deserved a mother, and didnt get it. Love, and nurture, and were > denied it, protection and safety, security, all denied you. > > And you know what? That wasn t you. > > None of it was you. > > Do you hear me? > > You were not broken, or subpar, or lacking in love or character. > You were not some cosmic failure, some after thought of a careless > Creator. > > Are you listening? > > You were, and are, a deliberate choice, an intentional treasure, and > God Himself breathed life into your heart. > You were and are, worthy, and loved, and precious. > That you were not treated as such is not your fault, or your failing. > > Believe me, this is truth. > > You, dear heart, are a precious soul to the Creator. > You, beloved, are chosen, and wanted, and loved, and cared for, by Him, > and by friends who did not have to because of the chance joining of > sperm and egg, but because of the soul they found riding in your body. > You are worthy, and valued, and loved. > That is not what your broken parent told you, or showed you, but it is > true. > > Here is truth. Here is healing. Take these, for they are yours. > > You are good. > You are worthy. > > Hear this. > > Know this. > > Believe this. > > Weep, for how you were wronged, and the lies you have believed. Mourn > and grieve the pain and loss. > > Then heal. > You are worth the healing. > > Here is truth. Take it. Live it. > > Heal, dear child. You are intended for joy. > > May we all heal. > > In tears, and joy, > > Doug > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 27, 2010 Report Share Posted September 27, 2010 Thank you Doug. Seems I need to hear this a lot, despite that I should know it already. Even though I know intellectually that I have ones who love me, I still feel I'm unworthy, broken and unlovable. I'm still totally shocked when anyone loves me, or even thinks well of me. I mourn who I might have been if I had a proper childhood. Casey > > So many of you have been posting such very sad stuff. I m dealing in my > depression with such very sad stuff. All related to our BP parents. > > We sort of know this, but we sort of can t believe it. > > It s worth saying again. > > You mom never felt loved. > > But it wasnt you. > > Your mom destroyed her relationships. > > But it wasnt you. > > Your mom made horribly irresponsible decisions, and suffered dire > consequences from them > > But it wasnt you. > > Your mom never in her life accepted any blame for anything she did, but > blamed anyone else she could. > > But even that, wasnt you. > > Your mom never loved you and cared for you as your scared, lonely, > hurting child wished she would. > > But that, dear one, that wasn t you. > > Your mom demanded from you everything you had , and were, and could ever > be, and even when you gave it, found it inadequate. > > But , that, dear heart, that wasnt you. > > Your mom always expected of you more than you had, or gave, or were > capable of giving, and felt cheated when she didnt get it. > > And even that, my dear child, that wasn t you. > > You deserved a mother, and didnt get it. Love, and nurture, and were > denied it, protection and safety, security, all denied you. > > And you know what? That wasn t you. > > None of it was you. > > Do you hear me? > > You were not broken, or subpar, or lacking in love or character. > You were not some cosmic failure, some after thought of a careless > Creator. > > Are you listening? > > You were, and are, a deliberate choice, an intentional treasure, and > God Himself breathed life into your heart. > You were and are, worthy, and loved, and precious. > That you were not treated as such is not your fault, or your failing. > > Believe me, this is truth. > > You, dear heart, are a precious soul to the Creator. > You, beloved, are chosen, and wanted, and loved, and cared for, by Him, > and by friends who did not have to because of the chance joining of > sperm and egg, but because of the soul they found riding in your body. > You are worthy, and valued, and loved. > That is not what your broken parent told you, or showed you, but it is > true. > > Here is truth. Here is healing. Take these, for they are yours. > > You are good. > You are worthy. > > Hear this. > > Know this. > > Believe this. > > Weep, for how you were wronged, and the lies you have believed. Mourn > and grieve the pain and loss. > > Then heal. > You are worth the healing. > > Here is truth. Take it. Live it. > > Heal, dear child. You are intended for joy. > > May we all heal. > > In tears, and joy, > > Doug > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 27, 2010 Report Share Posted September 27, 2010 I think this is probably beautiful but only got half way through. It makes me cry. Perhaps I'll try again later. > > So many of you have been posting such very sad stuff. I m dealing in my > depression with such very sad stuff. All related to our BP parents. > > We sort of know this, but we sort of can t believe it. > > It s worth saying again. > > You mom never felt loved. > > But it wasnt you. > > Your mom destroyed her relationships. > > But it wasnt you. > > Your mom made horribly irresponsible decisions, and suffered dire > consequences from them > > But it wasnt you. > > Your mom never in her life accepted any blame for anything she did, but > blamed anyone else she could. > > But even that, wasnt you. > > Your mom never loved you and cared for you as your scared, lonely, > hurting child wished she would. > > But that, dear one, that wasn t you. > > Your mom demanded from you everything you had , and were, and could ever > be, and even when you gave it, found it inadequate. > > But , that, dear heart, that wasnt you. > > Your mom always expected of you more than you had, or gave, or were > capable of giving, and felt cheated when she didnt get it. > > And even that, my dear child, that wasn t you. > > You deserved a mother, and didnt get it. Love, and nurture, and were > denied it, protection and safety, security, all denied you. > > And you know what? That wasn t you. > > None of it was you. > > Do you hear me? > > You were not broken, or subpar, or lacking in love or character. > You were not some cosmic failure, some after thought of a careless > Creator. > > Are you listening? > > You were, and are, a deliberate choice, an intentional treasure, and > God Himself breathed life into your heart. > You were and are, worthy, and loved, and precious. > That you were not treated as such is not your fault, or your failing. > > Believe me, this is truth. > > You, dear heart, are a precious soul to the Creator. > You, beloved, are chosen, and wanted, and loved, and cared for, by Him, > and by friends who did not have to because of the chance joining of > sperm and egg, but because of the soul they found riding in your body. > You are worthy, and valued, and loved. > That is not what your broken parent told you, or showed you, but it is > true. > > Here is truth. Here is healing. Take these, for they are yours. > > You are good. > You are worthy. > > Hear this. > > Know this. > > Believe this. > > Weep, for how you were wronged, and the lies you have believed. Mourn > and grieve the pain and loss. > > Then heal. > You are worth the healing. > > Here is truth. Take it. Live it. > > Heal, dear child. You are intended for joy. > > May we all heal. > > In tears, and joy, > > Doug > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 27, 2010 Report Share Posted September 27, 2010 Doug that was so beautiful... Stefanie > > > > I think this is probably beautiful but only got half way through. It makes > me cry. Perhaps I'll try again later. > > > > > > So many of you have been posting such very sad stuff. I m dealing in my > > depression with such very sad stuff. All related to our BP parents. > > > > We sort of know this, but we sort of can t believe it. > > > > It s worth saying again. > > > > You mom never felt loved. > > > > But it wasnt you. > > > > Your mom destroyed her relationships. > > > > But it wasnt you. > > > > Your mom made horribly irresponsible decisions, and suffered dire > > consequences from them > > > > But it wasnt you. > > > > Your mom never in her life accepted any blame for anything she did, but > > blamed anyone else she could. > > > > But even that, wasnt you. > > > > Your mom never loved you and cared for you as your scared, lonely, > > hurting child wished she would. > > > > But that, dear one, that wasn t you. > > > > Your mom demanded from you everything you had , and were, and could ever > > be, and even when you gave it, found it inadequate. > > > > But , that, dear heart, that wasnt you. > > > > Your mom always expected of you more than you had, or gave, or were > > capable of giving, and felt cheated when she didnt get it. > > > > And even that, my dear child, that wasn t you. > > > > You deserved a mother, and didnt get it. Love, and nurture, and were > > denied it, protection and safety, security, all denied you. > > > > And you know what? That wasn t you. > > > > None of it was you. > > > > Do you hear me? > > > > You were not broken, or subpar, or lacking in love or character. > > You were not some cosmic failure, some after thought of a careless > > Creator. > > > > Are you listening? > > > > You were, and are, a deliberate choice, an intentional treasure, and > > God Himself breathed life into your heart. > > You were and are, worthy, and loved, and precious. > > That you were not treated as such is not your fault, or your failing. > > > > Believe me, this is truth. > > > > You, dear heart, are a precious soul to the Creator. > > You, beloved, are chosen, and wanted, and loved, and cared for, by Him, > > and by friends who did not have to because of the chance joining of > > sperm and egg, but because of the soul they found riding in your body. > > You are worthy, and valued, and loved. > > That is not what your broken parent told you, or showed you, but it is > > true. > > > > Here is truth. Here is healing. Take these, for they are yours. > > > > You are good. > > You are worthy. > > > > Hear this. > > > > Know this. > > > > Believe this. > > > > Weep, for how you were wronged, and the lies you have believed. Mourn > > and grieve the pain and loss. > > > > Then heal. > > You are worth the healing. > > > > Here is truth. Take it. Live it. > > > > Heal, dear child. You are intended for joy. > > > > May we all heal. > > > > In tears, and joy, > > > > Doug > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 27, 2010 Report Share Posted September 27, 2010 Amen and amen! > > So many of you have been posting such very sad stuff. I m dealing in my > depression with such very sad stuff. All related to our BP parents. > > We sort of know this, but we sort of can t believe it. > > It s worth saying again. > > You mom never felt loved. > > But it wasnt you. > > Your mom destroyed her relationships. > > But it wasnt you. > > Your mom made horribly irresponsible decisions, and suffered dire > consequences from them > > But it wasnt you. > > Your mom never in her life accepted any blame for anything she did, but > blamed anyone else she could. > > But even that, wasnt you. > > Your mom never loved you and cared for you as your scared, lonely, > hurting child wished she would. > > But that, dear one, that wasn t you. > > Your mom demanded from you everything you had , and were, and could ever > be, and even when you gave it, found it inadequate. > > But , that, dear heart, that wasnt you. > > Your mom always expected of you more than you had, or gave, or were > capable of giving, and felt cheated when she didnt get it. > > And even that, my dear child, that wasn t you. > > You deserved a mother, and didnt get it. Love, and nurture, and were > denied it, protection and safety, security, all denied you. > > And you know what? That wasn t you. > > None of it was you. > > Do you hear me? > > You were not broken, or subpar, or lacking in love or character. > You were not some cosmic failure, some after thought of a careless > Creator. > > Are you listening? > > You were, and are, a deliberate choice, an intentional treasure, and > God Himself breathed life into your heart. > You were and are, worthy, and loved, and precious. > That you were not treated as such is not your fault, or your failing. > > Believe me, this is truth. > > You, dear heart, are a precious soul to the Creator. > You, beloved, are chosen, and wanted, and loved, and cared for, by Him, > and by friends who did not have to because of the chance joining of > sperm and egg, but because of the soul they found riding in your body. > You are worthy, and valued, and loved. > That is not what your broken parent told you, or showed you, but it is > true. > > Here is truth. Here is healing. Take these, for they are yours. > > You are good. > You are worthy. > > Hear this. > > Know this. > > Believe this. > > Weep, for how you were wronged, and the lies you have believed. Mourn > and grieve the pain and loss. > > Then heal. > You are worth the healing. > > Here is truth. Take it. Live it. > > Heal, dear child. You are intended for joy. > > May we all heal. > > In tears, and joy, > > Doug > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 29, 2010 Report Share Posted September 29, 2010 This poem cries out for publication. Thank you for sharing it. --. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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