Guest guest Posted August 10, 2010 Report Share Posted August 10, 2010 Yes! I start to laugh like them, my voice starts to sound like them and I find myself wanting them to be totally comfortable, while I make adjustments to them....I know I'm just happy to have them as a friend. I totally lose myself in them. T Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 11, 2010 Report Share Posted August 11, 2010 Barbara, you perfectly described what I used to do (as recently as 2 years ago). Therapy really helped me understand why I was doing this--I had NO voice in my family--and define what I do believe and feel. I was the good girl everyone could depend on and the favorite (this is how they kept me in line by reminding me of this). But as soon as I expressed my opinion or if I said something that went against the party line, I was put back in my place. So now I consciously say what I mean, instead of what I think i'm supposed to say. It's not easy but I'm much better at tolerating others' disagreement or even dislike of what I've said. As Doug likes to say, " welcome to my sandbox!! " I love that one. > > Yes! I start to laugh like them, my voice starts to sound like them and I find > myself wanting them to be totally comfortable, while I make adjustments to > them....I know I'm just happy to have them as a friend. I totally lose myself in > them. T > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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