Looking for Feedback on Letter to Nada

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Hello,

After my recent experience with nada rubbing my face in the fact that she's

hoovering my sons into her corner, I've decided to write her the following

letter. Mostly I'm doing it to validate her feelings and behaviors towards me

and by doing so I'm hoping to take away the power and reward she's been feeling.

I'm hoping that by seeming to give her my blessing upon her behavior will

cheapen the thrill for her.

Feedback prior to mailing this is most welcome. Thanks. Here's the letter:

Dear Mother,

I know your dreams were to have a son who would appreciate you, make you

increasingly proud by exceeding all of your expectations and cause you to feel

grateful to be a mother.

I know those dreams were destroyed when you gave birth to a left-handed

bedwetting daughter who's been nothing but a huge disappointment to you from the

start, who's never done anything right, who's never come close to meeting your

expectations. You told me many times you wished you were never born, but I know

deep down you were really saying you wished I was never born because I've done

nothing but make your life miserable. I'm sorry that I'm incompetent and

incapable of ever being the child you wanted or needed. I've finally accepted

the fact that I'll never measure up.

It appears my sons have succeeded in doing something which I've never been able

to - bring out the best in you. May your grandsons and great-grandson fulfill

all of your long-awaited dreams and expectations, making you proud and happy to

be alive.