Guest guest Posted May 2, 2010 Report Share Posted May 2, 2010 I've definitely felt resistance to " losing weight " for a variety of reasons. I've realized that I don't want to associate with being " thin " or with being " fat. " Both of these words have gotten way too supercharged in our society. I make it a point not to use words like skinny, thin, or fat. I heard about a story on the radio as I was taking a trip out of town this weekend. Some of you may have heard about it. A woman tackled and bit off the ear of a guy who called her " fat. " When I got back into town today, I decided to look into the story to make sure that it was real! It was: http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/2010/04/30/2010-04-30_woman_bites_man_a\ fter_being_called_fat.html Abby mentioned the intuitive eating concept of allowing your body to find its natural size/weight. Trusting the IE process in that way is a challenge. On a diet, you can see pretty immediate " results " in terms of forcing a change in your body size. With IE, a change in body size is not the focus, though it can be a side effect. For me, the process has been about creating the most optimal and caring relationship with my body that's possible. Instead of thinking about being fat or thin, I've practiced and committed to IE because I have enjoyed my life so much more through this process. Latoya Practicing IE since Jan '08 > > Hi and Dawn, > > I think both wanting and fearing being thin is incredibly common in our > group. I think when we are always dieting, weight loss is held out as the > goal that will solve all of our problems. But when we stop dieting and start > to get better acquainted with our own selves we discover that eating isn't > really the problem, and weight loss isn't really the solution... but both of > these things help us, in some ways, cope with our other issues. If we start > facing our fears and stop eating for comfort we lose two coping mechanims, > one being eating and the other being dieting. > > I don't feel like I'm being articulate at all, in terms of addressing what > you said...sorry! > > Anyway, , I think it's AWESOME that you are in a comfortable place > with your body! Being negative doesn't make you more likely to lose weight, > anyway! I think when you love your body it ceases to be a battleground... > which makes it more, not less, likely to seek it's own natural level. This > is something I still really struggle with. I know intellectually that loving > myself can only help but at the same time there's a big part of me that > feels like accepting myself now means giving up on ever losing weight, which > I don't feel ready for. > > I hope maybe some of this is helpful. > > Best, > Abby > > IE since 11/08 > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 3, 2010 Report Share Posted May 3, 2010 , The short answer is: Yes. I wrote about the process recently on my new Transformative Eating site: http://wellness.firstgenerationprofessional.com/the-quest-for-balance-and-an-une\ xpected-peace-treaty I like that you used the term " release weight " because in my experience I didn't actually " lose weight " ...my body changed sizes in response to me finally learning to listen to it and take care of it, in large part through practicing IE. > > > > Hi and Dawn, > > > > I think both wanting and fearing being thin is incredibly common in our > > group. I think when we are always dieting, weight loss is held out as the > > goal that will solve all of our problems. But when we stop dieting and start > > to get better acquainted with our own selves we discover that eating isn't > > really the problem, and weight loss isn't really the solution... but both of > > these things help us, in some ways, cope with our other issues. If we start > > facing our fears and stop eating for comfort we lose two coping mechanims, > > one being eating and the other being dieting. > > > > I don't feel like I'm being articulate at all, in terms of addressing what > > you said...sorry! > > > > Anyway, , I think it's AWESOME that you are in a comfortable place > > with your body! Being negative doesn't make you more likely to lose weight, > > anyway! I think when you love your body it ceases to be a battleground. .. > > which makes it more, not less, likely to seek it's own natural level. This > > is something I still really struggle with. I know intellectually that loving > > myself can only help but at the same time there's a big part of me that > > feels like accepting myself now means giving up on ever losing weight, which > > I don't feel ready for. > > > > I hope maybe some of this is helpful. > > > > Best, > > Abby > > > > IE since 11/08 > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 4, 2010 Report Share Posted May 4, 2010 , When the desire to heal and work through things is inside of you, then anything is possible! Wow 6 years old. You're at a great point in your life to work through areas that have been limiting you. I didn't discover IE until I was almost 31. I'm so grateful to have found the intuitive eating process that I want to share it with anyone who's willing to listen and may also benefit. I really believe that eating intuitively needs to be a part of any national health and wellness dialogue. So, that site is a way to contribute by sharing about something that I truly love. I'm glad to know that your experiencing some benefit from it! > > > > > > Hi and Dawn, > > > > > > I think both wanting and fearing being thin is incredibly common in our > > > group. I think when we are always dieting, weight loss is held out as the > > > goal that will solve all of our problems. But when we stop dieting and start > > > to get better acquainted with our own selves we discover that eating isn't > > > really the problem, and weight loss isn't really the solution... but both of > > > these things help us, in some ways, cope with our other issues. If we start > > > facing our fears and stop eating for comfort we lose two coping mechanims, > > > one being eating and the other being dieting. > > > > > > I don't feel like I'm being articulate at all, in terms of addressing what > > > you said...sorry! > > > > > > Anyway, , I think it's AWESOME that you are in a comfortable place > > > with your body! Being negative doesn't make you more likely to lose weight, > > > anyway! I think when you love your body it ceases to be a battleground. .. > > > which makes it more, not less, likely to seek it's own natural level. This > > > is something I still really struggle with. I know intellectually that loving > > > myself can only help but at the same time there's a big part of me that > > > feels like accepting myself now means giving up on ever losing weight, which > > > I don't feel ready for. > > > > > > I hope maybe some of this is helpful. > > > > > > Best, > > > Abby > > > > > > IE since 11/08 > > > > > > > > > Reply to sender | Reply to group | Reply via web post | Start a New Topic Messages in this topic (8) > Recent Activity: * New Members 9 > Visit Your Group > > Switch to: Text-Only, Daily Digest • Unsubscribe • Terms of Use > . > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 6, 2010 Report Share Posted May 6, 2010 You and me both! I'm on a mission now to spread the word about intuitive eating. I've also started writing brief articles about IE at: http://www.examiner.com/x-47669-Raleigh-Intuitive-Eating-Examiner May more people find this path earlier! > > Well I am 29 in July lol I wish I had discovered this sooner! > Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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