book dialogue begins!

[Guest guest]

I love this quote, Meg. Hysterical and accurate. Thanks for giving me a laugh.

Josie

>

> I love my body like a relative who is dear to me but gets on my nerves.

>

[Guest guest]

Awesome! "I love my body like a relative who is dear to me but gets on my nerves."Thanks for the laugh! Great metaphor!TanaTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Wed, July 14, 2010 6:04:37 PMSubject: Re: book dialogue begins!

Hi!

Great questions, , I am really enjoying what people are writing and so am chiming in with some of my own answers. (See below)

Meg

>

> If anyone has any thoughts on the book, please share!

>

> Here's some questions to get us going, and please answer any that

> call you and skip those you don't wish to answer. This is to help us

> all learn from each other in a safe comfortable space!

>

> 1. Any questions or comments on the Foreward?

>

Nope!

>

> 2. Are you approaching Intuitive Eating with an attitude that "this is dieting"? (I have to check-in with myself about this, so thought maybe I'd put it out there.)

I'm trying hard not to. Thus far, the best I can do is try to train myself not to diet or semi-diet. Basically, I've been trying to eat what seems like a normal amount of food to me. I don't think I've succeeded in eating in a completely intuitive way; but probably more so than in recent years.

The whole year before my discovery of IE (around the end of September 2009), I kept a journal in which I wrote everything I ate, tracked calories, and exercise days. I even had a little appendix in the back of my journal where I tracked my average daily calorie intake from week to week. There were some good things about the journal- I think tracking my exercise does make me do it more, and since I've never been obsessive with exercise that was okay. And I also kept an actual weekly journal of three different things- my mental state during that week and my success in diet and exercise that week. A little obsessive, maybe, but it was interesting for learning more about what I was feeling at various times that I overate. In the end, though, I think the calorie counting got to me, and made me constantly feel like a failure. So I haven't counted calories since I started IE, though now and again I have a couple of days where I feel frantic about my weight for

some reason or another and try consciously to eat less (it usually ends with a binge).

3. How do you feel about shunning dieting and hailing body acceptance???

I like the idea, and on some levels I definitely prescribe to it. I do believe deep down that most of my experience with dieting has shown me that dieting doesn't work on a long-term basis, especially when it is more extreme/restrictive. I feel that in some ways I have accepted my body, but in others, I just feel that it has failed me. I'd say I'm more in the realm of "body tolerance" right now. Which I guess could be construed as body acceptance. I love my body like a relative who is dear to me but gets on my nerves.

Chapter One: Hitting Diet Bottom

>

> I'm going to omit my answers to give others a chance to respond.

>

1. What is your "diet bottom"? Would you like to share about your

dieting history?

In high school, I went on a diet of 900 calories/day for three months once and lost 50 lbs (and regained it in two months). I remember one day being so hungry and making myself mow the lawn (our lawn is very big and hilly) but not eating anything so I could go to the local family restaurant and order a sandwich that I liked later on and eat it on an empty stomach.

Later on I wised up and decided that that kind of diet was crazy (especially when you weigh over 300lbs). I don't remember all the other less crazy diets I went on during the rest of high school. During freshman year of college, I did try to revert back to the crazy diet once, though I could only do it for one week or so and I just remember feeling so weak and tired. A week or two after that I think I confessed to my roommate about it and she commented on how she had noticed that I was tired, but now knew why.

On the other end of things, starting the summer after freshman year, I started a very much saner diet and began to incorporate just a little bit of exercise into my life. I managed to lose the majority of the extra weight that I had on me by eating a reasonable amount of food (and counting calories) and exercising consistently. I've kept most of that off, though the weight has been creeping up slowly in the years since then. I've tried dieting again but never with that level of success.

2. Do you believe that diets don't work?

As you can see from my diet history, I have evidence to both sides of the question of whether diets work. Crazy diets do not work. Reasonable diets stand more of a chance, but are designed to make you feel bad about yourself when you slip up.

During my last year before finding IE while keeping my overly detailed food journal, I tried to take the attitude that if you fall down, get back up, and to expect to "fail" now and again but to not think that this means necessary failure in the long run. I think that is a good attitude to have for dieting, and my weight was a bit lower then.

However, I think diets make me obsess over food and screw up my relationship with my body and myself, so whether or not they "work," they don't help me to feel confident or at peace with myself which I think is what I'm really looking for most of the time that I diet. Would I like to weigh less? Sure, I think it would be good in a lot of ways. And maybe IE will help me get there. I just want it to be for the right reasons, and counting calories doesn't help me address those deeper issues.

> 3. How does "Diet Backlash" manifest for you, or how has it in the past?

I think I've mentioned a couple of cases of this. Ever since my successful diet in college, every time I try to go on a diet, I manage to do it for maybe two weeks, but then I binge and I'm back to square one. That was one thing I noticed with my food journal, and I was tired of the cycle.

4. Do you have any "food police" in your life? Who?

Mostly myself, I suppose. Generally most of my friends and family don't tend to make comments about what I eat. It does annoy me sometimes, though if I talk about how I'm thinking about going on a diet with my mom, she will give me this little smile and say something like "Why don't you?" This will be after we've been having a conversation about how dieting doesn't work.

> 5. From whom or what media does the pressure to diet manifest, and

> how do you react to this? What do you do, if anything, to avoid

> being around diet-mania?

Lots of places. TV, movies, magazines. When I was in high school, I used to ascribe to all of this. I was an ardent reader of People magazine. Not so much anymore, though I do pick it up once in a while as an indulgence. In high school, I think I did believe all of that crap about how you have to be skinny and beautiful to have any worth. Now I try very ardently not to.

> 6. Did you look to any eating plans that swore they were "not diets"

Sure, I tried to do the "Intuitive Eating Diet" last November or so. You can only eat when you are physically hungry on that diet and if you don't, you fail the diet.

>

> 7. Any other questions or comments on chapter one?

>

> Thanks all! Lots to share about, and hopefully this will spark some

> great discussions!!!

>

> Cheers,

>

>

[Guest guest]

I've really enjoyed reading everyone else's responses so far. Below are mine.

Laurie

If anyone has any thoughts on the book, please share!

Here's some questions to get us going, and please answer any that

call you and skip those you don't wish to answer. This is to help us

all learn from each other in a safe comfortable space!

1. Any questions or comments on the Foreward?

I loved the comment that it's ironic that with the massive failure

rate for dieting, we don't blame the process of dieting itself!!!

I agree--but it's something I never would have though myself several years ago. I simply thought it was my fault.

2. Are you approaching Intuitive Eating with an attitude that "this

is dieting"? (I have to check-in with myself about this, so thought

maybe I'd put it out there.)

I know that in the back of my head all the time is the desire to lose weight, and if I didn't think that eventually IE would result in me getting to a more natural weight, I maybe would rethink my commitment. But the fact is I'm running out of time, and I have realized that even if I don't lose weight, I'd like to learn how to eat when I'm hungry and stop when I'm full. So far I don't think I've lost much/any weight, and it's been a couple of months, and I'm still going, so I think the "it's a diet" aspect is pretty small for me now.

3. How do you feel about shunning dieting and hailing body acceptance???

This is hard for me, because I don't like how I look and would like to look better. I've given up (long ago) on thin, so that's not the issue, but I would like to be more attractive, less invisible--I think...there's some fear in that. This summer for the first time I did "dare" to wear short-sleeved tops without a long-sleeved top over them. Although this makes me feel self-conscious sometimes, I am doing it to try to feel more acceptance for my body as it is now.

Chapter One: Hitting Diet Bottom

I'm going to omit my answers to give others a chance to respond.

1. What is your "diet bottom"? Would you like to share about your

dieting history?

I've had a lot of "bottoms." I described my most recent one--three big purchases of diet cookies that went bad one after another, when I finally realized I just could not do one more diet. I did proceed to WW, though, and feel I got some healing there, mainly that I learned what eating reasonable amounts of foods felt like, and got out of the habit of massively overeating.

2. Do you believe that diets don't work?

If what is meant by "diets" is "restricting what you eat," diets do not work. I suspect that the small percent of people who are able to keep weight off after dieting have learned how to eat intuitively along the way, and learned how to incorporate enjoyable exercise into their lives. I don't think restricting works, whatever form it takes.

3. How does "Diet Backlash" manifest for you, or how has it in the past?

I've done all the backlashes in the past. Currently, I have some foods to which I obviously still prescribe some "bad" residue, because I tend to think after I eat them "what the hell, I might as well eat what I want for the rest of the day, because I blew it"--which is my "code" for overeating! I was surprised to discover yesterday when my husband left for a trip that I was thinking of buying some processed food items at the Target (frozen potpies and the like), which I would not have in the house when my husband was around. So obviously I still have some issues with hiding eating "forbidden" foods, even though he wouldn't in a million years think of a frozen potpie as "bad."

4. Do you have any "food police" in your life? Who?

I don't want to have my husband see me overeating, not because he at all attends to what I eat, but just because he's the only other person at home. I used to sneak eat when I ate large quantities, so I can easily assign the "food police" role to any other unsuspecting person! My boss's wife, though, is a real food cop--she examines what everyone in the lunchroom is eating and makes comments on their food, which is why I never eat in the lunchroom and almost always go out for lunch when I'm in the office.

5. From whom or what media does the pressure to diet manifest, and

how do you react to this? What do you do, if anything, to avoid

being around diet-mania?

I agree with Josie--where isn't this pressure manifested in the media? I stopped watching Biggest Loser and stopped watching shows where all the women look like Barbie dolls. I rip out as many offensive ads as I can (the ones that only have other ads on the next page) in magazines before I read them.

6. Did you look to any eating plans that swore they were "not diets"

in order to find peace, later realizing that they too were diets

indeed? How did that work for you?

WW was that for me, though as I said, I think I did get some good things from the experience.

7. Any other questions or comments on chapter one?

Thanks for starting this discussion!

Laurie

[Guest guest]

Laurie, I so appreciate you writing about wearing short sleeve shirts in the summer! This has been hard for me for YEARS. I look at pictures of myself with family and friends - everyone else in bathing suits and shorts and tank tops - and there I am, capris and a medium length sleeved shirt. In the hot summer sunshine! I have been working to change this. For me it is letting go of COMPARISONS. Always thinking about how I look in comparison to those around me. Judging myself. When I think about how I FEEL - it is better to be dressed in less in the hot summer sunshine. Let us all support each other in "acceptance of our body as it is now"!!!!pI've really enjoyed reading everyone else's responses so far. Below are mine. LaurieIf anyone has any thoughts on the book, please share!Here's some questions to get us going, and please answer any that call you and skip those you don't wish to answer. This is to help us all learn from each other in a safe comfortable space!1. Any questions or comments on the Foreward?I loved the comment that it's ironic that with the massive failure rate for dieting, we don't blame the process of dieting itself!!!I agree--but it's something I never would have though myself several years ago. I simply thought it was my fault.2. Are you approaching Intuitive Eating with an attitude that "this is dieting"? (I have to check-in with myself about this, so thought maybe I'd put it out there.)I know that in the back of my head all the time is the desire to lose weight, and if I didn't think that eventually IE would result in me getting to a more natural weight, I maybe would rethink my commitment. But the fact is I'm running out of time, and I have realized that even if I don't lose weight, I'd like to learn how to eat when I'm hungry and stop when I'm full. So far I don't think I've lost much/any weight, and it's been a couple of months, and I'm still going, so I think the "it's a diet" aspect is pretty small for me now.3. How do you feel about shunning dieting and hailing body acceptance??? This is hard for me, because I don't like how I look and would like to look better. I've given up (long ago) on thin, so that's not the issue, but I would like to be more attractive, less invisible--I think...there's some fear in that. This summer for the first time I did "dare" to wear short-sleeved tops without a long-sleeved top over them. Although this makes me feel self-conscious sometimes, I am doing it to try to feel more acceptance for my body as it is now.Chapter One: Hitting Diet BottomI'm going to omit my answers to give others a chance to respond.1. What is your "diet bottom"? Would you like to share about your dieting history?I've had a lot of "bottoms." I described my most recent one--three big purchases of diet cookies that went bad one after another, when I finally realized I just could not do one more diet. I did proceed to WW, though, and feel I got some healing there, mainly that I learned what eating reasonable amounts of foods felt like, and got out of the habit of massively overeating.2. Do you believe that diets don't work?If what is meant by "diets" is "restricting what you eat," diets do not work. I suspect that the small percent of people who are able to keep weight off after dieting have learned how to eat intuitively along the way, and learned how to incorporate enjoyable exercise into their lives. I don't think restricting works, whatever form it takes.3. How does "Diet Backlash" manifest for you, or how has it in the past?I've done all the backlashes in the past. Currently, I have some foods to which I obviously still prescribe some "bad" residue, because I tend to think after I eat them "what the hell, I might as well eat what I want for the rest of the day, because I blew it"--which is my "code" for overeating! I was surprised to discover yesterday when my husband left for a trip that I was thinking of buying some processed food items at the Target (frozen potpies and the like), which I would not have in the house when my husband was around. So obviously I still have some issues with hiding eating "forbidden" foods, even though he wouldn't in a million years think of a frozen potpie as "bad."4. Do you have any "food police" in your life? Who? I don't want to have my husband see me overeating, not because he at all attends to what I eat, but just because he's the only other person at home. I used to sneak eat when I ate large quantities, so I can easily assign the "food police" role to any other unsuspecting person! My boss's wife, though, is a real food cop--she examines what everyone in the lunchroom is eating and makes comments on their food, which is why I never eat in the lunchroom and almost always go out for lunch when I'm in the office.5. From whom or what media does the pressure to diet manifest, and how do you react to this? What do you do, if anything, to avoid being around diet-mania?I agree with Josie--where isn't this pressure manifested in the media? I stopped watching Biggest Loser and stopped watching shows where all the women look like Barbie dolls. I rip out as many offensive ads as I can (the ones that only have other ads on the next page) in magazines before I read them.6. Did you look to any eating plans that swore they were "not diets" in order to find peace, later realizing that they too were diets indeed? How did that work for you?WW was that for me, though as I said, I think I did get some good things from the experience.7. Any other questions or comments on chapter one?Thanks for starting this discussion!Laurie

[Guest guest]

Hi, ,

My next goal is to wear actual SLEEVELESS shirts in the summer, when appropriate. I know some of my horror of short-sleeved tops comes from my mother's wearing sleeveless blouses when she was obese and quite out of shape. She never exercised (women never did back then) and so her arms were really flabby in addition to being fat. I found it embarrassing. Part of what I'm doing with my exercise this summer is to get my arms into better shape with weight training, which I'm really enjoying since I bought some DVDs that include it. I'd never before been able to get myself to do it by using a book and diagrams.

So look out, world, I may be going sleeveless next year. I've taken the first step by going sleeveless at night with my pajamas and exercise t-shirts. Big, huge step for me. Good to hear I'm not the only one with this issue!

Laurie

p wrote:

>>>I so appreciate you writing about wearing short sleeve shirts in the summer! This has been hard for me for YEARS. I look at pictures of myself with family and friends - everyone else in bathing suits and shorts and tank tops - and there I am, capris and a medium length sleeved shirt. In the hot summer sunshine! I have been working to change this. For me it is letting go of COMPARISONS. Always thinking about how I look in comparison to those around me. Judging myself. When I think about how I FEEL - it is better to be dressed in less in the hot summer sunshine. Let us all support each other in "acceptance of our body as it is now"!!!!<<<

[Guest guest]

I always struggle with wearing sleeveless, but often do.  I tell myself that I am not judging how other women look, so I'm quite sure that most people aren't paying any attention to me either!

 

Laurie, I so appreciate you writing about wearing short sleeve shirts in the summer!  This has been hard for me for YEARS. I look at pictures of myself with family and friends - everyone else in bathing suits and shorts and tank tops - and there I am, capris and a medium length sleeved shirt. In the hot summer sunshine! I have been working to change this. For me it is letting go of COMPARISONS. Always thinking about how I look in comparison to those around me. Judging myself. When I think about how I FEEL - it is better to be dressed in less in the hot summer sunshine.  Let us all support each other in " acceptance of our body as it is now " !!!!

p

I've really enjoyed reading everyone else's responses so far. Below are mine. Laurie

If anyone has any thoughts on the book, please share!Here's some questions to get us going, and please answer any that call you and skip those you don't wish to answer. This is to help us 

all learn from each other in a safe comfortable space!1. Any questions or comments on the Foreward?I loved the comment that it's ironic that with the massive failure rate for dieting, we don't blame the process of dieting itself!!!

I agree--but it's something I never would have though myself several years ago. I simply thought it was my fault.2. Are you approaching Intuitive Eating with an attitude that " this 

is dieting " ? (I have to check-in with myself about this, so thought maybe I'd put it out there.)I know that in the back of my head all the time is the desire to lose weight, and if I didn't think that eventually IE would result in me getting to a more natural weight, I maybe would rethink my commitment. But the fact is I'm running out of time, and I have realized that even if I don't lose weight, I'd like to learn how to eat when I'm hungry and stop when I'm full. So far I don't think I've lost much/any weight, and it's been a couple of months, and I'm still going, so I think the " it's a diet " aspect is pretty small for me now.

3. How do you feel about shunning dieting and hailing body acceptance??? This is hard for me, because I don't like how I look and would like to look better. I've given up (long ago) on thin, so that's not the issue, but I would like to be more attractive, less invisible--I think...there's some fear in that. This summer for the first time I did " dare " to wear short-sleeved tops without a long-sleeved top over them. Although this makes me feel self-conscious sometimes, I am doing it to try to feel more acceptance for my body as it is now.

Chapter One: Hitting Diet BottomI'm going to omit my answers to give others a chance to respond.1. What is your " diet bottom " ? Would you like to share about your 

dieting history?I've had a lot of " bottoms. " I described my most recent one--three big purchases of diet cookies that went bad one after another, when I finally realized I just could not do one more diet. I did proceed to WW, though, and feel I got some healing there, mainly that I learned what eating reasonable amounts of foods felt like, and got out of the habit of massively overeating.

2. Do you believe that diets don't work?If what is meant by " diets " is " restricting what you eat, " diets do not work. I suspect that the small percent of people who are able to keep weight off after dieting have learned how to eat intuitively along the way, and learned how to incorporate enjoyable exercise into their lives. I don't think restricting works, whatever form it takes.

3. How does " Diet Backlash " manifest for you, or how has it in the past?I've done all the backlashes in the past. Currently, I have some foods to which I obviously still prescribe some " bad " residue, because I tend to think after I eat them " what the hell, I might as well eat what I want for the rest of the day, because I blew it " --which is my " code " for overeating! I was surprised to discover yesterday when my husband left for a trip that I was thinking of buying some processed food items at the Target (frozen potpies and the like), which I would not have in the house when my husband was around. So obviously I still have some issues with hiding eating " forbidden " foods, even though he wouldn't in a million years think of a frozen potpie as " bad. "

4. Do you have any " food police " in your life? Who? I don't want to have my husband see me overeating, not because he at all attends to what I eat, but just because he's the only other person at home. I used to sneak eat when I ate large quantities, so I can easily assign the " food police " role to any other unsuspecting person! My boss's wife, though, is a real food cop--she examines what everyone in the lunchroom is eating and makes comments on their food, which is why I never eat in the lunchroom and almost always go out for lunch when I'm in the office.

5. From whom or what media does the pressure to diet manifest, and how do you react to this? What do you do, if anything, to avoid being around diet-mania?I agree with Josie--where isn't this pressure manifested in the media? I stopped watching Biggest Loser and stopped watching shows where all the women look like Barbie dolls. I rip out as many offensive ads as I can (the ones that only have other ads on the next page) in magazines before I read them.

6. Did you look to any eating plans that swore they were " not diets "  in order to find peace, later realizing that they too were diets indeed? How did that work for you?

WW was that for me, though as I said, I think I did get some good things from the experience.7. Any other questions or comments on chapter one?

Thanks for starting this discussion!Laurie

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[Guest guest]

Thanks

> >

> > If anyone has any thoughts on the book, please share!

> >

> > Here's some questions to get us going, and please answer any that

> > call you and skip those you don't wish to answer. This is to help us

> > all learn from each other in a safe comfortable space!

> >

> > 1. Any questions or comments on the Foreward?

> >

> Nope!

> >

> > 2. Are you approaching Intuitive Eating with an attitude that " this is

> >dieting " ? (I have to check-in with myself about this, so thought maybe I'd

put

> >it out there.)

>

> I'm trying hard not to. Thus far, the best I can do is try to train myself not

> to diet or semi-diet. Basically, I've been trying to eat what seems like a

> normal amount of food to me. I don't think I've succeeded in eating in a

> completely intuitive way; but probably more so than in recent years.

>

>

> The whole year before my discovery of IE (around the end of September 2009), I

> kept a journal in which I wrote everything I ate, tracked calories, and

exercise

> days. I even had a little appendix in the back of my journal where I tracked

my

> average daily calorie intake from week to week. There were some good things

> about the journal- I think tracking my exercise does make me do it more, and

> since I've never been obsessive with exercise that was okay. And I also kept

an

> actual weekly journal of three different things- my mental state during that

> week and my success in diet and exercise that week. A little obsessive, maybe,

> but it was interesting for learning more about what I was feeling at various

> times that I overate. In the end, though, I think the calorie counting got to

> me, and made me constantly feel like a failure. So I haven't counted calories

> since I started IE, though now and again I have a couple of days where I feel

> frantic about my weight for some reason or another and try consciously to eat

> less (it usually ends with a binge).

>

> 3. How do you feel about shunning dieting and hailing body acceptance???

>

> I like the idea, and on some levels I definitely prescribe to it. I do believe

> deep down that most of my experience with dieting has shown me that dieting

> doesn't work on a long-term basis, especially when it is more

> extreme/restrictive. I feel that in some ways I have accepted my body, but in

> others, I just feel that it has failed me. I'd say I'm more in the realm of

> " body tolerance " right now. Which I guess could be construed as body

acceptance.

> I love my body like a relative who is dear to me but gets on my nerves.

>

> Chapter One: Hitting Diet Bottom

> >

> > I'm going to omit my answers to give others a chance to respond.

> >

> 1. What is your " diet bottom " ? Would you like to share about your

> dieting history?

>

> In high school, I went on a diet of 900 calories/day for three months once and

> lost 50 lbs (and regained it in two months). I remember one day being so

hungry

> and making myself mow the lawn (our lawn is very big and hilly) but not eating

> anything so I could go to the local family restaurant and order a sandwich

that

> I liked later on and eat it on an empty stomach.

>

> Later on I wised up and decided that that kind of diet was crazy (especially

> when you weigh over 300lbs). I don't remember all the other less crazy diets I

> went on during the rest of high school. During freshman year of college, I did

> try to revert back to the crazy diet once, though I could only do it for one

> week or so and I just remember feeling so weak and tired. A week or two after

> that I think I confessed to my roommate about it and she commented on how she

> had noticed that I was tired, but now knew why.

>

> On the other end of things, starting the summer after freshman year, I started

a

> very much saner diet and began to incorporate just a little bit of exercise

into

> my life. I managed to lose the majority of the extra weight that I had on me

by

> eating a reasonable amount of food (and counting calories) and exercising

> consistently. I've kept most of that off, though the weight has been creeping

up

> slowly in the years since then. I've tried dieting again but never with that

> level of success.

>

> 2. Do you believe that diets don't work?

>

> As you can see from my diet history, I have evidence to both sides of the

> question of whether diets work. Crazy diets do not work. Reasonable diets

stand

> more of a chance, but are designed to make you feel bad about yourself when

you

> slip up.

>

>

> During my last year before finding IE while keeping my overly detailed food

> journal, I tried to take the attitude that if you fall down, get back up, and

to

> expect to " fail " now and again but to not think that this means necessary

> failure in the long run. I think that is a good attitude to have for dieting,

> and my weight was a bit lower then.

>

>

> However, I think diets make me obsess over food and screw up my relationship

> with my body and myself, so whether or not they " work, " they don't help me to

> feel confident or at peace with myself which I think is what I'm really

looking

> for most of the time that I diet. Would I like to weigh less? Sure, I think it

> would be good in a lot of ways. And maybe IE will help me get there. I just

want

> it to be for the right reasons, and counting calories doesn't help me address

> those deeper issues.

>

> > 3. How does " Diet Backlash " manifest for you, or how has it in the past?

>

> I think I've mentioned a couple of cases of this. Ever since my successful

diet

> in college, every time I try to go on a diet, I manage to do it for maybe two

> weeks, but then I binge and I'm back to square one. That was one thing I

noticed

> with my food journal, and I was tired of the cycle.

>

> 4. Do you have any " food police " in your life? Who?

>

> Mostly myself, I suppose. Generally most of my friends and family don't tend

to

> make comments about what I eat. It does annoy me sometimes, though if I talk

> about how I'm thinking about going on a diet with my mom, she will give me

this

> little smile and say something like " Why don't you? " This will be after we've

> been having a conversation about how dieting doesn't work.

>

> > 5. From whom or what media does the pressure to diet manifest, and

> > how do you react to this? What do you do, if anything, to avoid

> > being around diet-mania?

>

> Lots of places. TV, movies, magazines. When I was in high school, I used to

> ascribe to all of this. I was an ardent reader of People magazine. Not so much

> anymore, though I do pick it up once in a while as an indulgence. In high

> school, I think I did believe all of that crap about how you have to be skinny

> and beautiful to have any worth. Now I try very ardently not to.

>

> > 6. Did you look to any eating plans that swore they were " not diets "

>

> Sure, I tried to do the " Intuitive Eating Diet " last November or so. You can

> only eat when you are physically hungry on that diet and if you don't, you

fail

> the diet.

> >

> > 7. Any other questions or comments on chapter one?

> >

> > Thanks all! Lots to share about, and hopefully this will spark some

> > great discussions!!!

> >

> > Cheers,

> >

> >

>