Re: Newbie: Tired of having a war with myself

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catlady,

You definitely came to the right place. No one is going to judge you for food/body issues you may/may not have. We are all here to make peace with our bodies and food. I hope to hear from you lots!

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To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Mon, May 10, 2010 6:26:36 PMSubject: Newbie: Tired of having a war with myself

I read Intuitive eating several years ago and thought it was the best book I've ever read on weight loss. It seemed so "loving" and gentle, versus restrictive and lecturing. I'm one of those people who used to eat anything and never gain weight, then I turned 40 ten years ago, and I started putting on weight and I keep gaining. I have a hard time finding clothes that fit and once I got into the 1x sizes I was in complete denial. I started hating getting my photo taken.In the rest of my life I am completely happy and have a great career and personal life. I am not an emotional eater and have never had an eating disorder. The best I can say is "I enjoy food, because it tastes good!" I don't feel like I over eat. I probably eat 2/3 of what I used to eat in my 30's, but I still gain weight.One thing I haven't tried is reach out for a support buddy. I think I've isolated myself because I don't want to talk about my weight problem

with people I know. Most are thin and into exercising. Some of them are obsessed with food. The way they deal with food would feel like self-abuse to me. I want to enjoy who I am and what I do, and not be at war with who I am. I want to treat my body well and not hate it for being fat.I don't want to attend diet meetings, nor do I want to weigh myself, because all it does is make me demoralized.I've always felt that if I get my mind in the right place and really pay attention, the problem will solve itself. I think if I had someone to check in with, or make weekly mini goals with, it might be helpful, especially in a group like this where people have the same values (intuitive eating) and challenges and celebrations. I'm not sure how that would work, but I am interested in maybe trying to have a few email buddies who I could write directly to, with each other just to check in on what is going on around weight loss goals. I'm not

sure if that is doable on a yahoo site.Boy, I feel like I've written an essay here! Whew! Guess I got a lot off my chest!

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I know how you feel when you never have a weight problem and then you do and it

keeps going up. Mine was at 30 instead of 40. Still when I did actually do the

weighing/measuring/recording what I ate thing, it was a lot more than I thought.

And I am much less active.

Welcome to the board.

Bonnie

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> I read Intuitive eating several years ago and thought it was the best book

I've ever read on weight loss. It seemed so " loving " and gentle, versus

restrictive and lecturing.

>

> I'm one of those people who used to eat anything and never gain weight, then I

turned 40 ten years ago, and I started putting on weight and I keep gaining. I

have a hard time finding clothes that fit and once I got into the 1x sizes I was

in complete denial. I started hating getting my photo taken.

>

> In the rest of my life I am completely happy and have a great career and

personal life. I am not an emotional eater and have never had an eating

disorder. The best I can say is " I enjoy food, because it tastes good! " I

don't feel like I over eat. I probably eat 2/3 of what I used to eat in my 30's,

but I still gain weight.

>

> One thing I haven't tried is reach out for a support buddy. I think I've

isolated myself because I don't want to talk about my weight problem with people

I know. Most are thin and into exercising. Some of them are obsessed with food.

The way they deal with food would feel like self-abuse to me.

>

> I want to enjoy who I am and what I do, and not be at war with who I am. I

want to treat my body well and not hate it for being fat.

>

> I don't want to attend diet meetings, nor do I want to weigh myself, because

all it does is make me demoralized.

>

> I've always felt that if I get my mind in the right place and really pay

attention, the problem will solve itself. I think if I had someone to check in

with, or make weekly mini goals with, it might be helpful, especially in a group

like this where people have the same values (intuitive eating) and challenges

and celebrations. I'm not sure how that would work, but I am interested in

maybe trying to have a few email buddies who I could write directly to, with

each other just to check in on what is going on around weight loss goals. I'm

not sure if that is doable on a yahoo site.

>

> Boy, I feel like I've written an essay here! Whew! Guess I got a lot off my

chest!

>