Re: Weighing and IE

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Thanks you all for your words and support! Sadly, I binged again yesterday...

to the point that I was feeling sick! I think I'm still recovering from the

weighing. Before, I was stressing about keeping things going and losing more

and now, as mentioned, I was stressing about not gaining the wight back! I

hate how this is screwing with my head! I can't believe a simple number is

causing me to get derailed.

I must admit, it is frustrating. But I spent some time last night reflecting

and thinking about why I started this journey to begin with: to be healthy! In

my mind, if I take care of my body everyday and treat it with respect and honor

its signals and live a healthy, mindful and active lifestyle, over time, I will

have a healthier body. But that number on the scale made me start thinking about

losing weight as the main goal, which has never ever worked and in fact, always

back fired!

So again, for those of you who are on track and are sooooo tempted to go on the

scale (or try to squeeze in old pair of jeans), possibly because you know you

have lost weight and want to congratulate yourself (as was my case at the

doctor's office): don't do it! It really doesn't matter. Whether you lose

weight or gain weight, you are probably going to stress yourself out either way.

You should be proud of yourself regardless!

I'm going to try to get back on track, first by forgiving myself for the

weighing and the binging, and second by taking it one step at time as I was

doing before. In fact, I went to they gym this morning, only because I truly

wanted to go and felt great doing it!

At the same time, I am still a little worried. I have not lost any dress sizes

yet, but I know that it will eventually happen and just want to avoid getting

derailed if I start losing dress sizes - comparing myself to before, stressing

to keep it up, etc... Another thing that is stressing me out, is not my

weighing or assessing, but other peoples' assessments: " oh, you are looking

great " or " oh, have you lost weight? " or " keep doing whatever you are doing " ...

I have been getting these a lot lately, and feeling the pressure coming on.

Any advice on this would be greatly appreciated! I think the key may be in

making sure we are constantly accepting our body as is, but would love to hear

other opinions and experiences!

Thanks so much,

M

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> > Hi Mali,

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> > You so captured what was going on for me this weekend!

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> > I am doing pretty well. I've been doing IE for about 2 weeks now and I'm

> > feeling pretty good. I'm trying to listen to my body and figure out what it

> > wants. It's not always easy! I decided to weigh myself this weekend and

> > I've lost a few pounds. Rather than being happy, I, too, went into thinking

> > when I would be thin, how could I speed up the process, etc. I had to put

> > the scale away, too.

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> > It's so funny how our minds work, at least in my case.

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> > From: IntuitiveEating_Support

> > [mailto:IntuitiveEating_Support ] On Behalf Of ammi_mali

> > Sent: Tuesday, November 16, 2010 5:58 PM

> > To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> > Subject: Weighing and IE

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> > Hi All,

> >

> > I have been doing very well with IE and really focusing on eating and moving

> > based on how I feel. I have been eating so much more healthy foods because I

> > feel so much better and enjoy them more and I have been very active because

> > I love having more energy and breaking a sweat - I don't care about how many

> > calories I burn anymore. I do eat things when I crave them and savor them

> > with enjoyment, but mostly, I've been craving apples, fruits and vegetables.

> > So I really thought I had it down and was feeling great, confident, and

> > finally free from dieting!

> >

> > BUT, the other day I had a cold and went to see my doctor and I weighed

> > myself. Turns out, I have lost 8lbs over the last two months. It was great

> > to see that, BUT, that number on the scale got me back into my old

> > competitive mode of thinking about losing weight being the focus. EVEN

> > THOUGH, I had LOST weight, for the first time in months, I didn't want to

> > workout and binged today!!! I must have had so many cupcakes and sweets. I

> > feel terrible and super bloated right now. But I started thinking about why

> > I binged and realized it was because I started putting on the pressure of

> > losing weight on myself again... I was like " just keep this up and you will

> > be thin by the summer " ... you know, the usual not being unsatisfied with my

> > body. And I'm so messed up from all the years of dieting that the simple

> > thought of losing weight made me feel so stressed and overwhelmed that I

> > binged.

> >

> > So I see this as progress and that I learned something really important

> > today. I had been unable to put my scale away because I thought it wouldn't

> > hurt but I am putting the scale away for good! I don't want to care about

> > how much I weigh or the thought to even come across my mind, I just want to

> > focus on taking care of my body, listening to it, enjoying every day and

> > feeling good. That's all that matters.

> >

> > I thought I just share my experience in the hopes that it helps some of

> > you... no matter what, get rid of that scale girls!

> >

> > Mali

> >

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I have the same problem. I haaaaaaaate it when people comment on my weight. I

always remember when I was on the WW and Sparkpeople message boards and just

about every day there'd be a message from someone bemoaning the fact that they'd

lost x number of pounds and no one had even noticed. That would be a dream for

me. I literally cringe any time anyone compliments me on my weight. When I was

dieting, that was the surest trigger to self sabotage for me. The minute people

started commenting on my loss, I'd want to sit in front of them and down

cheeseburgers. Kind of my way of saying I didn't care what they think of me and

didn't need their approval and #$% & @ you for never complimenting me when I was

heavier.

But, these days, I try to remember that no one means badly by it. They really

do think they're paying you a compliment and stuffing my face with cheeseburgers

in response only hurts me, not them. For friends that I feel safe doing it

with, I will actually ask them not to say anything about my weight (negative or

positive). For others, I will just say thank you (if the compliment is

something like " you look great " ) and change the subject or leave the room, if I

can, so they can't go on and on. If they ask if I've lost weight, I just say

no. Period. No explanation. Just no. I find that often stops people from

continuing on because the expectation is that someone will be flattered by that

and continue that thread of conversation.

It's not always successful, but I find that it helps a bit.

Josie

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> At the same time, I am still a little worried. I have not lost any dress

sizes yet, but I know that it will eventually happen and just want to avoid

getting derailed if I start losing dress sizes - comparing myself to before,

stressing to keep it up, etc... Another thing that is stressing me out, is not

my weighing or assessing, but other peoples' assessments: " oh, you are looking

great " or " oh, have you lost weight? " or " keep doing whatever you are doing " ...

I have been getting these a lot lately, and feeling the pressure coming on.

>

> Any advice on this would be greatly appreciated! I think the key may be in

making sure we are constantly accepting our body as is, but would love to hear

other opinions and experiences!