Re: Long term scars from my nada lying so much when I was growing up

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I have a few moments and thought I'd try to catch up. This is an interesting

topic. I haven't thought much about scars and lying irritates me but it isn't a

thing that pushes my buttons. I never knew my nada was lying to me as a child

and as an adult, I would catch her in lies but thought it was her age or need

for attention (the exaggerations about her health). I even bought into her lies

about my Dad. That will be a regret the rest of my life.

My hot button is if I think people are trying to control me or manipulate me. I

caught on to that at a fairly young age. I hate being smothered or jerked

around. I'm doing better at not reacting at innocent events but I used to get

upset if my husband made a suggestion. " Don't tell me what to do! " Or I'd get

real edgy around salespeople, thinking they were just out to force me into

buying something. Good grief - that's their job.

I know people lie. I don't like it but it happens. I'm not any good at it. My

face gives me away too easily. Still have that childhood fear of getting in

trouble or upsetting someone.

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> sorry to get this out so late.. yes, long term scars are a part of many of our

lives as ko's .. i overreact to people too, not just about lying but other

things too.  i am trying to both accept and know myself as well as work towards

changing and become more trusting of people i care about.  i get a lot of help

from therapy, 12-step groups, mental health groups and talking things out with

friends.  processing what is happening, both inside me with my fleas and

outside, how a more appropriate response can be.  it has been a long term

project for me and a lot of work, but well worth it i think.  best wishes to

you, ann

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