I must have a sign on my forehead!!!

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It says, " if you have BPD...or really ANY PD that requires me to lose my

identity and be available to you 24/7, inquire here! "

UGGGRRRGGGGHHHHHHHH! It's like I attract needy people.

She's from my church.

I don't mind giving people rides once in a while.

I don't mind listening to others' problems once in a while.

But this woman from my church left me the most presumptuous message that

displayed her sense of entitlement loud and clear. GGGRRRRRR!!!

She said, " I've already left other messages regarding tomorrow's event and I

haven't heard back! [exasperated sigh] " She is the type of person that will go

on and on and on and on, regardless of others' shifting in their seats, looking

at their watches, etc. So her voice mail was her blabbing and doing the same.

I had already been in touch with her about the event she mentioned and she said

she couldn't go so NOW...she changed her mind and expected me to be at the

ready with my coach to escort her.

I just feel such conflicting feelings. It triggers a lot, mainly:

* her message made me feel like flipping her the bird!!!

* and it made me feel like calling her back and EXPLAINING. Explaining what the

misunderstanding was and trying to patch things up. In other words, doing the

people pleasing sappy things I sometimes do.

I decided NOT to call her back at all. I just feel like I already get this crap

from my mother. It's scary how easily I get drawn into it. I have to make an

effort to distance myself from it!

Do any of you feel this pull toward needy, demanding people??